I have every quality a guy that fucks has but I don’t fuck

ThrowawayPUA · 2018-05-28T23:29:40+00:00

You believe you have all the qualities of a guy that fucks. But in reality, you have none of the qualities of a guy that fucks. If you did have those qualities, you would fuck.

I want to lose my virginity before I turn 19

I want a pony.

You are going to have to learn how to establish an emotional connection with women. There is no shame in not knowing how to do this, that's why all of us are here, trying to learn it. But to do this, you will need to get out of your comfort zone, make lots of embarrassing mistakes, and focus on developing your skills at engaging women emotionally. Stop with this lose virginity in 5 months idea. That is part of the problem. Try setting more modest goals, like having a short conversation with a woman this week. Take things a step at a time.

Flexappeal · 2018-05-29T00:59:56+00:00

ngl an 18 year old with most of what you describe sounds like the most annoying little brat on the face of the planet

wonyeh3 · 2018-05-29T00:12:28+00:00

Dude, I'm on the same journey. I am also trying to lose the v-card, and I'm in college. I was just a late bloomer and never really bothered with girls until recently. Don't focus on the whole losing the v-card thing because it puts too much pressure on yourself. You're a guy with a lot going for him and not your stereotypical virgin, so you have so much room for growth. Guess what, a lot of guys who are virgins or maybe not virgins but just bad with girls have zero motivation to improve. I personally know a few guys like you that are normal guys, like you or I, but just haven't happened to stuck it in. So what? Use it as motivation, but not the end goal. Just because you have sex once doesn't mean that your journey is complete and you can let off the gas. The long game is to get good with girls in general, at least how I look at it. I know guys who aren't virgins, but have zero game because their only sex is with their high school girlfriend which just kind of happened for them with zero effort on their part. In fact, not having the v-card pressure may in fact cause them to have zero motivation to get better with girls since it already happened once with no effort on their part. Prior to a few months ago, I never asked a girl out and had only kissed a girl once. But since then, I have gotten girls numbers at parties, gone on dates with girls irl and online, and become more sociable. To some, this may sound lame, but those were all things I never did before, but were things a lot of guys have being doing for years so they have more knowledge of how to go about those things. I have been ghosted by not making a move fast enough, gotten a loss of interest by being too clingy, and friendzoned by being too friendly and not flirty. Every time I screw up with a girl is a learning experience going forward. Most recently, I made a move on a Tinder girl on our second date, and we made out and fooled around on the couch, so we'll see where this goes. To conclude, you are a well above-average guy who has what it takes, you just need to go out and learn, as do I. The whole self-improvement thing and girls will come is for guys with cheeto dust in their neckbeard. That's not you. When people rip on virgins, they're making fun of the dude with cheeto dust stuck in his neck beard, not you, so don't let people in this sub get to your head.

EDIT: typos.

innergamedude · 2018-05-29T02:57:27+00:00

just have no balls to go up to one and start a conversation

So everyone in the community just needs to drop this idea that walking up to strange women and starting conversation with ease is the necessary mark that someone has arrived as a man. It's not a natural act. It's hard. Often, it's the socially awkward thing to do. And it's oversold as the way to meet women. Join a few activities, get out and away from your computer, and meet some people. Do some meet ups, try a few hobbies that involving making yourself get out. Men who are capable of getting away from their computers already set themselves apart in this world.

Drop the whole emphasis on losing your virginity. You'll lose it and then you'll be just as obsessed with getting laid again. It's our goddamn natural drive to feel inadequate with whatever we get. The next pussy will not finally complete you. On top of that, it's really uncomfortable for any woman you're with to be the vehicle of your fulfillment. You put a lot of pressure on her when you put that kind of pressure on yourself.

Make your goal to get out and be social a certain number of times per week. To put yourself out there to where the women that do find you attractive will notice you and have an easy to way to talk to you. There are women whose type you will be just because of your height. Make it easy for them to catch you.

As for all the shit you've got going for you, yeah, it's hard to use it because you have to sound like a douche to bring it up, though some women aren't turned off by douchery, so there's that. Anyway, I wouldn't focus on it, or what it's supposed to do for you because it just gives you more expectations to live up to. For now, you're just a guy like any guy, trying to get out to meet people. You're 18, so naturally, you're trying to figure out what matches with your identity. Everyone does this, just be open to trying a few things.

delon123 · 2018-05-28T23:21:02+00:00

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TRPMaverick · 2018-05-29T00:02:26+00:00

If you have an uninteresting life and just want to go home and play video games, you don't have all the qualities of a guy that fucks. It doesn't matter to girls how good-looking, in shape, physically attractive you are if you're not an interesting person.

I recommend finding hobbies other than video games so when you initially start talking to a girl (this is where a good physical appearance will get your foot in the door, but won't get you in the room) you actually have some way to show that you're not just some random boring meathead. Girls like guys who have goals, real life prospects, and care about shit that matters, and unfortunately video games check none of those boxes. If you've actually got some cool skill you can talk about that she cares about you'll be able to keep her interested in you long enough to actually be attracted to you.

2018-05-29T02:39:00+00:00

I want to lose my virginity before I turn 19 in 5 months.

Sorry dude, but you need to learn to walk before you can run. If you can't even approach or talk to girls that are eye fucking you then that's the first step and if you were actually confident then this shouldn't be that big of a deal. Forget about getting laid for the time being as that will just make you overthink things, put your attention on learning how to simply approach and talk to women, or anyone really so that you learn how to be a social person.

ZoomForceElite_ · 2018-05-29T08:21:31+00:00

I TOOK HER TO MY PENTHOUSE AND I FREAKED IT

haha but on a srs note just put your self in more social situations in general, e.g stuck in a line try talking to the person in front of you, see someone walking a dog go up and say hi.

its all just practice

gimp150 · 2018-05-29T06:44:35+00:00

Virginity means a lot until you lose it.

Go to some parties, go on some dating apps, frequent a pub or club, go to some festivals or expos. there's shit tons of things people do to find casual sex, get involved...

Be patient, go meet some people and get to know them. Enjoy their company or move on to different people. Nothing good will ever come from trying to achieve a mundane goal like losing your virginity, that's just going to feel like shit when you inevitably succeed and it just means nothing, or worse, you get with some sexual predator. Realise you are spending valuable time in life trying to fuck yourself. Go enjoy the company of people... Have wholesome and meaningful dialogue with people. Stop caring if they don't give a shit, that's just your cue to move on to better shit. I don't like this idea that virginity is your problem. Legit, go Jack off a fat load on your belly and ask yourself how important it is for this shit to be all up in someone's hole. I hope you get over the virgin shit and find yourself a genuine relationship...

talonreeder24 · 2018-05-29T08:32:28+00:00

You have some qualities a woman would find intriguing to establish an initial interaction but you’re not intriguing enough yourself to create any sort of experience with her

2018-05-29T00:53:47+00:00

I'm not on your level, in terms of height, but similar type story. While looks are nice, they get you in the door and don't finish the deal. Women can be turned right off by an good looking guy if he's insecure, timid etc... get out of your comfort zone and ask women out, and make connections while giving them emotions. (Whether bad or good ones, this remake them remember you.)

Huffnagle · 2018-05-29T03:47:43+00:00

You’re 18. You’ve got your whole life ahead of you.

At your age, I was still a clueless virgin. Many years later, I find scheduling to be my greatest challenge. Focus on yourself. Focus on self improvement. Talk to everyone, waitresses, cab drivers, the old lady in the grocery, everyone. Getting that first pussy seems like a big deal when you haven’t gotten it yet, it isn’t. Be cool, you’re on your way.

dreadway90 · 2018-05-29T04:25:12+00:00

When I was your age I was 5'8, middle class, scrawny, depressed, inner city Baltimore born and raised, didn't know how to drive, never had a girlfriend, and my dad is an editor. I lost my virginity at 17 to a college girl on my first university visit. Reading your sob story fills me with great joy.

StBlackOps2Cel · 2018-05-29T06:17:07+00:00

Are u handsome?

stuckit · 2018-05-29T06:36:31+00:00

Dude, if you look like that you should be getting all kinds of girls on dating sites.

Dont be picky, just get some practice in.

Fallingbe · 2018-05-29T09:50:36+00:00

Follow the advice and do a hobby you’re proud to tell people about.

At the very least.

Can I possibly get a job from you or your dad?

bezerragrower · 2018-05-29T16:39:27+00:00

Just get it on with a hooker a few times, it will make wonders for you atitude

2018-05-29T16:55:44+00:00

Hi /u/delon123

Check out my starter guide here: How to Learn Pick-Up from the Internet - Lesson #1 (response to blackhatseduction's post) http://reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/102wst/how_to_learn_pickup_from_the_internet_lesson_1/

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TwizzleHoverboard · 2018-05-29T18:13:21+00:00

You don't have the most important quality: confidence. The good news is that since you're young, rich, and good looking, if you put minimal effort into actually talking to a girl, taking a risk, and putting your ego aside- you'll end up getting laid pretty easy. This is coming from a guy who has similar attributes like yourself.

Title	I have every quality a guy that fucks has but I don’t fuck
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Date	May 28, 2018 11:07 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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