Can we talk about how "abundance mentality" is crap?

hunterpua · 2018-08-13T15:24:08+00:00

The only way to have an abundance mentality is to have an abundant life.

Agree 100%. Fuck abundance mentality! Abundance Reality is what you should have!

From what I understand, and I'm not a pro by any means, the only way to get an abundant life is to not stop at one girl. It's easy to stop and be satisfied when you get that one girl. But women are fickle and when she leaves you'll have nothing. So always keep looking for more girls; spin plates.

Spinning plates? Why is it called that anyway? Is it implied that its supposed to be hard? Because I always see multiple girls whenever I don't choose to have an exclusive relationship and in my experience a one on one monogamous relationship is always harder.

Not to say monogamy is a pain in the ass. When you're with the right girl it definitely isn't but it just requires more effort because you have to actually care about what's going on in your partner's life and be there for her at times.

When its just a harem, open polyamory, etc. I do pretty much nothing to maintain the girls other than hang out with them and fuck them.

The key is to be honest and integrate them into your life. So that one, they all know from the get go that you're seeing other girls and two, they will see each other.

When that happens you accomplish a few things. Remember when I said the only thing I do to maintain them is hang out with them and fuck them? I didn't necessarily mean individually. I often hang out with my girls all together. I also have sex with some of them together. This causes you to always be pre-selected and have the girls compete amongst each other for you so there really isn't much "plate spinning" required. They pretty much "spin" themselves.

Now it can be hard to develop this kind of don't-give-a-shit attitude. I know it was fucking hard for me to even imagine inviting a girl to hang out with the other girls I'm sleeping with. The solution is to always have new girls coming in so you don't worry too much about losing the girls you already have.

In business they call it filling your pipeline. When your pipeline is full you don't care too much about any one customer.

You can do that by swiping like a madman on Tinder or cold approaching all day but that's just insane and very inefficient.

Instead when you're first cold approaching or on Tinder, don't try to take the first few girls on individual dates. Bring them all to one "date". I've said it very often on this sub, have something you do every week and just invite all the girls you meet to that one thing and tell them to bring their friends. Don't even try to fuck them the first few times they show up, focus on making them "regulars" so that every week when you do your sushi, jam session by the beach, house party, whatever, there they are. Eventually you won't need to cold approach to meet new girls because the girls you brought in will just bring in other girls by themselves. That's also the same thing I bring my harem to btw.

Imagine that. Being surrounded by a combination of girls you're already fucking and girls you're thinking about fucking. How much easier would the game be in that situation?

That's how you have plates spin on their own and keep a full pipeline.

Of course the greatest difficulty is getting that first girl.

You don't have to go for one girl and go all the way to sex with her before getting the next girl. That's way too time consuming. Instead all you need to do is be good enough to get numbers and just get tons of numbers. In a day you shouldn't aim to do 10 approaches, you should aim to get 10 numbers. Just number close by saying "Hey me and my friends are going to this party on Sunday, its at XYZ. You should come and bring your friends." then get her number. You can literally do this even if you don't have any friends who are willing to go out with you because if you do this with multiple women over a span of a week and more than one group shows up, they'll just all think the other groups that show up are the friends you're talking about and if you can't get more than one group to show up just cancel.

Just put yourself in that situation where you're surrounded by girls that are all attractive to you. Watch what happens. Suddenly closing the individual girls you met becomes so easy. Sometimes they even close you.

circlingldn · 2018-08-17T20:15:18+00:00

Abundance mentality is being able to effectively lie about having multiple women

TheCircleMethod · 2018-08-13T16:08:20+00:00

Talking to 5 or 6 girls on tinder is an abundance, it could be potential dates. It's a great way to avoid the trap of overinvestment in a potential. Also, lessens the blow when said potential falls through. Happens all the time to everyone. Abundence mentality is merely understanding that's the options out there are literally limitless. There's too many women out there to even see then all, let alone get rejected by them all.

I feel for you Alaskan bros though. Probably should move.

Alex_O7 · 2018-08-13T15:23:28+00:00

Not at all. An abundant life came from a succesfull life rather than from a succesfull relationship life. If your super confident with yourself you are also super abundant, or at least abundant enough to not be creepy and needy as fuck for a girl.

Title	Can we talk about how "abundance mentality" is crap?
Author	Snazzy_Serval
Upvotes	2
Comments	18
Date	August 13, 2018 2:32 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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