I have just began to have a little bit of success with women. But I am afraid because I still don't know what I'm doing. Kind of like how I heard that successful people are more stressed than unsuccessful people. Maybe it is because now I have something to lose. Maybe it is because I'm not sure if my small amount of success is due to luck or hard work.

My intuition says I came a long way in the last 3 months. I went from having no friends and having never had a girlfriend to having my first girlfriend, making some friends, breaking up with her, building a social circle, to now being with a girl who is out of my league. I'm not trying to brag, but I like to believe doing all of these things in 3 months can't be just do to luck. I'm 21 by the way.

I have read that the thing to do to kill neediness is to keep meeting new women as much as possible. But I'm with a girl now, and I don't want to lose her. On one hand I'm fearful and am just rationalizing a way to avoid approaching. On the other they say you learn more in one long-term relationship than 500 approaches, so maybe I should just relax and enjoy this time.

My decision is to focus on myself and my platonic relationships. I'm going to do this by continuing to go to the gym 3x a week (I'll never stop), working on my app, and trying to be a good friend. I'm going to do my best to meet new people, but I think I won't go out with the sole purpose of approaching.