So I have this regular who I have been seeing and fucking for about a month now. We both have very busy schedules and neither of us really text at all so we only ever see each other and talk usually on Friday or Saturday but no more than one night a week.

I usually push these meetings. As in, I make it clear I want to go back to one of our places and have a good time. Last weekend, she put up some small resistance to me coming over by saying she was tired or something to that effect and I legitimately thought it was just a shit test or even late onset ASD. So I kinda pushed through it and we went back to her place and had a great time. So I'm thinking, a-ha great time, it was just a shit test.

This weekend, she says something to the effect of "Your behavior last weekend made me nervous. I have had a problem in the past with guys not listening to me when I say no." This really caught me off guard and I probably broke frame and handled it wrong but it was what I honestly felt. I said something like "Oh shit, I didn't know that about you. I am not going to make you do something you don't want to do but I am rather forceful. I know what I want and I go after it. I like to lead, you know that. wink Maybe we should establish a safe word for when you really just need some space." She giggled and laughed at some of my lame jokes in there which I thought was good. She then said something like "I have a very hard time saying no to anyone but its really bad with you. I go my whole week and its rough and stressful and then the weekend comes and we hang out and you are a breath of fresh air and a ton of fun." I said, "You know you do have a phone and if you want to try and hang out during the week you can always just shoot me a text. As for this weekend, how about you lead it. How do you want to play it?" She said "I definitely need a day to recharge." So I said "Ok that's fine just text me tomorrow and let me know what you wanna do, but next weekend I am going to back to leading again." We laughed and talked about random stuff for about 5 minutes then rejoined the group we were with. Afterwards she started getting WAY more touchy feely.

It's super bowl weekend and she is coming to a party with me on sunday. That combined with her saying the things she did kinda turned me off to the idea of going over to her place that night so I bounced after about an hour of us hanging out. She was like "see you sunday!"

I was kind of interested in LTR this chick because we have a lot of things we love to do in common and i think it would be fun. But as someone new to TRP I can already sense I might be dropping back into BP tendencies very quickly. I know one of the best things I could possibly do is gather plates. I am going to have to force myself to try and do that. But in the meantime my need to understand people and situations is making me crazy with this one.

Should I completely take a backseat and tell her "You are driving from now on as far as pushing hangouts because I don't want to put you in that situation again."

At the core of my being I feel like if I stopped putting in any effort at all in organizing our meetups and hangouts, we would have none. This doesn't feel mutual to me and yet every time I do set them up, she is super happy and seems to enjoy herself and me being together.

EDIT: Apparently I am seeing some psycho bitch who is trying to set me up for rape charges or is mentally unstable. =/ I can only say that this would be absolutely flabbergasting based on the minutia and behavior that I was unable to write because it would be a small book. She openly is touchy and feely with me in public without me pushing it and lets alot of people see this. I don't walk up to her pull her hair and make her touch my junk. She comes over to a table full of our friends sits next to me, puts my arm around her and then puts her hand on my thigh/in my lap. If she tried to say I was forcing anything I have a ton of people who would say "huh?". I am thoroughly terrified now though so I guess that will help me not be so crazy over her. lol

I have decided that I am probably just going to try and casually talk to her about this. If it turns her off and she isn't interested anymore (and wasn't psycho) then tits I lost her for no good reason. Whatever on to the next. But with the overwhelming negative response on here its something I need to square away for myself. Thanks dudes.