Developing a Shit-Eating grin/mentality?

Slipperynick · 2015-02-05T14:00:17+00:00

Positive re-frame challenge...

"car broke down?" Eh, I didn't want to go to work today anyway.

"You won't give me your number?" . I'm glad I won't have to hear about your cracking nail polish anymore.

"Taxes ruined all the overtime on my last check!" Well, my tax return will be that much fatter this year.

-Do it with absolutely everything for a week as practice.

-Another challenge, avoid apologizing for a week.

bump into someone while texting "Would You Watch Where You're Walking?" said with a joking, challenging manner

Talk shit about someone in a very BENIGN way while they are in earshot "Oh, hey, speak of the devil, I was just talking about your best qualities."

Walk up and invade the personal space BRIEFLY of a woman that has clearly shown several indicators of interest* "Oh, hello there. I figured since you were going to stare me down I'd come over and introduce myself."

truchisoft · 2015-02-05T13:52:13+00:00

Remove the fear or ridicule from yourself and that's it.

You will need to correct along the way because you will go too far the other way someday.

Just to give an example, if your girl ever asks you where you were last night and why didn't you answer the phone, simply say "I was with my lover fucking like rabbits".

You will say "But but thats dangerous!" Yeah it is, it is also the best way to win them over.

FinnianWhitefir · 2015-02-05T16:41:13+00:00

Go read about Stoicism.

http://www.amazon.com/Art-Living-Classical-Happiness-Effectiveness-ebook/dp/B00AHC9PZW/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1423154393&sr=8-2&keywords=aRt+of+living

http://www.amazon.com/Obstacle-Way-Timeless-Turning-Triumph/dp/1591846358/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1423154456&sr=8-1&keywords=the+obstacle+is+the+way

It has been amazingly effective at helping me to just not care about the things which don't matter.

kingofpoplives · 2015-02-05T15:56:18+00:00

Think mischievous thoughts.

applesaucejenkins · 2015-02-06T01:14:53+00:00

Learning to take apologies out of your vocabulary is very difficult, but powerful. "My bad" is just as effective as "I'm so sorry" without being apologetic and submitting to the other person.

You'll find that changing the way you phrase things will change the underlying tone of the message without changing the message itself. Returning to "my bad" instead of "i'm sorry", saying "My bad" implies that you were being careless or mistaken, but without asking for their approval or forgiveness. It helps you retain your power in the interaction

Title	Developing a Shit-Eating grin/mentality?
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Date	February 5, 2015 10:54 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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