I was going to have sex and lose my virginity with a girl who liked me and I couldn't get an erection. Is it possible to make her interested in me again?

skatinislife446 · 2019-01-24T19:48:35+00:00

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Errantsquire · 2019-01-24T20:43:30+00:00

You aren't in the right "state." You probably feel like you aren't good enough for her. You need to raise your state to feel like you're worth her. Get more social throughout your day. Do things to that actively make you happy. Even if it feels fake go out of your way to be positive to people around you. This will generate postive energy which they will feed back to you.

At a guess she's probably still into you. You made her feel good. She doesn't need to have penetration to feel good. Remember girls run on emotions only so focus on that first. She wanted you because of how she was feeling at that moment and she was following her emotions. Sex will be awkward the first couple of times you just need to figure things out. If anything she's probably feeling bad like she's not hot enough to get you aroused. Be ready to answer that in a funny way that will make her comfortable.

Don't use logic like "I was on medicine" say something like "I guess there wasn't enough hot air down there to fill up the baloon last time but I stopped by the clown tent on the way over and we think that we have things under control."

Be comfortable with yourself and own what happened but don't let it control you.

participation-prize · 2019-01-24T22:29:37+00:00

Girls can take it a lack of erection as a sign that you're not attracted to her, but more experienced girls know that not getting erect can happen to everyone. Keep on gaming her, unless she acts bitchy about your night together.

Also, congrats on your first time!

RedpillViking · 2019-01-25T00:45:50+00:00

If you're on antidepressants or something, those can kill your boner. So it was probably related to that. That's out of your control and you cant really be blamed for that. So if she asks about it be honest and own it.

dbergman23 · 2019-01-24T21:22:37+00:00

Others have stated it as well, but the state of mind is a hell of a boner killer.

After my divorce (ive since remarried) i couldnt get it up. I was turned on, ready to go, sober, non-medicated, but it just wouldnt work. No matter the woman i was with. Even had a hard time when i met my wife. She took it as a sign that she wasnt attractive enough (due to a previous boyfriend basically sticking through it even though he didnt love her).

As i said, state of mind can be a total boner killer.

Now with my wife, if she just smiles in the right way BAM. So dont get worried about this, because yes you're nervous and coming down from medication. But you need to talk to her and let her know this, as well as let yourself know its ok.

After a little bit of time, you may find that no matter what you do it wont go down because you're so damn attracted to this lady that she will start giving you shit about it.

mechanicalsam · 2019-01-24T21:44:51+00:00

It happens to the best of us, just try again. I was hooking up with a girl in college, we woke up in the morning, junior was ready to go as we started to hook up again, she stopped and suggested we move to the shower. Once in the shower he just wouldn't get hard, Idk. It was embarrassing but she was cool about it.

recyclablebanthas · 2019-01-25T08:12:28+00:00

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I was going to have sex and lose my virginity with a girl who liked me and I couldn't get an erection.

This sort of thing is common when guys have built a thing up to be WAY more important and significant than it really is. We have a way of fucking ourselves out of victory.

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Is it possible to make her interested in me again?

If it's done, it's done. You can't "make her interested." She either is right now despite everything, or she isn't. All you need to do is go see what is what. And most of all, stop fussing over this so much or you'll push her away for sure!

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I was also was on the comedown from the medicine I take so I was sad, and told her that I felt depressed and she let me sleep at her place afterwards. We cuddled and stuff like that afterwards, and I made her orgasm by fingering, but it was my first time so I didn't really know what I was doing and it looks like she noticed it.

Dude.

You fooled around and gave her an orgasm (or made her feel really really good, at a minimum). Why are you sweating this so hard? Most guys leave the girl unsatisfied, ESPECIALLY their first time.

If she knew this was your first time and you did this for her...... hell, even if she doesn't know it's your first time, you're going to be at a major advantage and pretty far up her list at the moment.

And look at you. You've turned this from an awesome thing, into her being disgusted with you because you were on the fritz.

YOU MADE HER ORGASM.

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It feels like she sees me as weak now, but I'm still interested in her.

Are you looking for something serious? Then this erection thing matters even less. Keep going for it. If she's up for something serious, she really really won't care that it didn't all go exactly to plan the first time.

codewizbambam · 2019-01-24T22:41:29+00:00

Try again, and get yourself some of the little blue ones, just in case. It's probably just nerves.

Title	I was going to have sex and lose my virginity with a girl who liked me and I couldn't get an erection. Is it possible to make her interested in me again?
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Date	January 24, 2019 7:38 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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