I've been seeing this plate since the start of November. She's from abroad but studying at my uni this year and went back to her home country over Christmas (this is relevant). She's my first post-TRP plate and it has made a huge difference. I think I've done a decent job with her thanks to the sage wisdom I've acquired from TRP - I've been more dominant sexually and as a person than ever before, I've set firm and clear boundaries and have experienced very little by way of shit tests and resistance from her. Consequentially, the sex has been good, she's caused me virtually no stress or drama and it's always seemed that she was more invested in me than I was in her. I've frequently felt like she would fall in love with me if I spent more time with her.

But when trying to arrange something with her for this weekend, after meeting and fucking her 2 days ago, she reveals out of the blue that she doesn't think she wants to 'hang out' any more (read: fuck. She has always used non-sexual language so she doesn't sound like a slut to her own ears). To summarise using her words, she said: 'it's not because she doesn't like hanging out with me, but because when she 'hangs out' with somebody for a while she develops feelings and she doesn't want to 'go through that and then just return to her home country.' Here she mentions Christmas and the fact that even though we'd only been seeing each other for 1 month by then, she was upset to leave me to go home (can verify this was clear at the time as she teared up and I gently teased her about it). Basically she says she doesn't want that feeling multiplied by 100 when she has to leave permanently in the summer. She says she's a 'sensitive person' and she 'doesn't want to go through that', therefore the best thing for her is (direct quote) "to let it be... at least for a while." We're meeting tomorrow for a drink so she can explain it in person because I find it easier to read people face to face and I hate talking through text.

Some additional things which I feel may have varying degrees of relevance:

  • She is a good plate, generally well-behaved, so understandably I'd rather keep her around but I know that if I have to I will drop her like she is nothing

  • She doesn't lie to me but she isn't direct either (no shit, when are they ever); meaning I am confident nothing she said in the summary is a lie - indeed I can verify most of it myself - but it is of course likely to mean something beyond what it literally says

  • We're not exclusive so she doesn't need this excuse to fuck other guys

  • 2 things about the last time I fucked her, 2 days ago. Firstly, I stepped my sexual dominance up a level and she fucking loved it. It may have increased her overall attraction, hence these 'feelings' all of a sudden. Secondly, I only saw her for about 2 hours on this occasion, fucked her twice, then left to go home because I wanted to sleep in my own bed and had to get up early the next day. This is contrary to the norm, where we will often stay the night with each other, meaning more time for both fucking and the comfort I reward her with. She was noticeably disappointed when I told her upon arrival that I wasn't staying, although the rest of the evening she wasn't complaining.

How do you interpret this? It's almost disturbing that everything she said actually makes logical sense and seems true. Is she straight up telling the truth or is this some kind of play to get me to commit more (would seem odd considering she recognises it will be painful when she has to leave)? Would I be getting ahead of myself if I thought I have created an alpha widow and that if I cease all contact after tomorrow she will seek me out again before long? (see her "at least for a while" comment)