any help on stop giving a shit?

reluku · 2019-03-05T20:34:24+00:00

Meditation. And no. I’m not joking

WildinCuzImYoung · 2019-03-05T22:01:02+00:00

Hardest thing to do as a man: acceptance.

Facing the reality and not running from it. You got rejected, feel it in your gut and stop trying to escape it with rationalisations or search of the unknown that can undo what has happened. It will happen and its apart of the game get used to it. Let go of how it should be.

When you accept the truth and move on from there as you stop giving a shit losing the fear and limitations you placed upon yourself. You no longer give a shit because there is nothing to lose or gain.

This will sound super cliche but if you cant let go of something you will lose it. Its all about where its coming from, either you pursue fear avoiding rejection and loneliness or the love for the game process and even if you were to spend the next 5 years with no results you would still do it.

WhereTruthLies · 2019-03-05T20:52:48+00:00

Getting rejected sucks sure but what sucks more is thinking "damn I should have at least tried to talk to her." You'll probably never see her again if she rejects you unless you're asking out someone you already know. Might as well go for it and if you make a fool out of yourself that's just called gaining experience and you'll know what not to do next time.

recyclablebanthas · 2019-03-06T01:51:28+00:00

i overthink scenario from the past or the future

The real work to fix this, has to be done by you. Now how to start? It turns out that there is a good bit of work done on this very subject. There's a kind of therapy (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) you can perform on yourself to fix this. It basically involves you paying closer attention to your thoughts and hacking into them to stop anxiety before it carries you away.

Some important points in CBT:

There are common ways that the irrational parts of our minds can distort our perception of reality.
The overall idea is that thoughts, feelings, and actions are related, and affect one another. So while feelings are harder to manage initially, one's thoughts and actions are easier to change, and once you break the circle, the feelings will come around.
So things like meditation, journaling, etc., give you awareness of your thoughts. Once you have that awareness, you can start stepping in and doing something about it.
- Take 5 minutes and watch this video explaining how it works. It's pretty simple, actually.

Bear-With-Bit · 2019-03-06T05:27:19+00:00

You overthink because you have nothing else going on in your life: No other romantic / sexual targets, no hobbies, no challenging career, no interesting friends to catch up with.

hydrolith · 2019-03-05T23:57:52+00:00

Yeah I have advice for sure...first of all, you have to realize and accept that you DO give a shit. It's not a bad thing, and you can even laugh about it, treat as a joke, you're the guy who has intense feelings and overplay them, focus on them, and even try to encourage yourself to get even more nervous and feel it. Even TRY to get and feel nervous as you approach say to yourself Wow I'm nervous as you approach. Allow yourself to stutter or feel weird as you approach and open.

Second, notice your levels of nervous. Some hot girls can cause it and some don't, it's not going to be the same feeling in each different situation.

Finally, momentum over the course of your outings, if you try 10 approaches in 2 hours, your going to notice a big difference between your feelings over the course of it and notice rejection can actually be encouraging to move on to a new opportunity because you realized, hey at least I tried and at least I overcame my fears to Express myself.

And lastly don't feel bad about yourself and your feelings, be honest about where you're at, what you can and can't do, and set achievable goals for yourself even if they are small. Consider it a success if you even go and and make eye contact for one.

Dilpil01 · 2019-03-06T03:44:45+00:00

Many good answers here especially meditation.

I'd say try to put things in perspective. Things that matter so much to you will likely be forgotten about very quickly. In the scheme of things, most things you do will go unnoticed and be forgotten about by most others. Everyone's caught up in their own world, not realising that most other people don't truly notice things that bother them.

iHaveSeoul · 2019-03-06T18:31:55+00:00

Alcohol

Yrielll24 · 2019-03-05T20:54:29+00:00

Weed

Title	any help on stop giving a shit?
Author	Cursed_Vader
Upvotes	17
Comments	13
Date	March 5, 2019 8:32 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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