Awkward guy going to a college party alone

JazzlikeGold · 2019-04-25T23:24:37+00:00

I’d suggest not even trying to pull if you’re nervous or awkward. If you don’t know anyone there you need to go and just make friends and have fun. You have an opportunity to expand your social circle and come off as a cool fun dude. Don’t go in there pressuring yourself to hit on girls and trying to pull because if you do come off as a creep you can ostracize yourself and guess what, no more party invites.

Now, if you find yourself in a conversation with a pretty girl maybe ask for her snap or number. Do it for guys too, who cares. Just be sociable and make friends, expand your circle, become comfortable around these new people and you will have exponentially more and better opportunities.

Good luck man!

Jkiss99 · 2019-04-25T22:31:14+00:00

The most important thing about going out to parties (night game) is to have fun. If you go out to a party thinking only about approaching girls you’re going to come off as much more awkward and psych yourself out. If you’re dancing, being social, talking to everyone you’re going to appear as much more attractive. I used to go out to college parties not knowing anyone and standing in the corner sipping my drink and forcing approaches. Within the first week of joining my fraternity I broke a year long dry streak. Talk with everyone, pretty girls, ugly girls, dudes. Find or meet a group of people you know, have a good time and don’t take it too seriously:)

Pokemastra · 2019-04-26T00:46:10+00:00

How much do you approach a week? Since approaching is hard for you, it'd be better to not go straight for groups of women and shoot for women who are by themselves.

Here's a post giving advice about approach anxiety: https://tripfallgetuprepeat.home.blog/2019/04/24/the-truth-about-approach-anxiety/

bournit · 2019-04-25T22:48:55+00:00

Man, if you're searching for motivation, look my post about going out alone, and maybe you'll do the right thing :

https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/bfc1xs/why_you_need_to_get_out_solo_and_practise_night/

Go to that party, you can't know now what will happen there !

the5percenter · 2019-04-25T22:59:25+00:00

Read my previous thread I just made man. I went out clubbing for the first time with a triple/quadrupple whammy against me. There were a lot of goods and a lot bads but I wouldn't have enjoyed the good moments and I would have never realized the mistakes I'm making and learn from them if I didn't have the bad moments.

I agree with what others are saying. Don't go in with the mindset of 'getting girls'. Just go in there to make friends and have fun. Both guys and girls because everyone is always grouped together most of the time so some guys you chat with solo might have a group you can join later on.

Theplayasclub · 2019-04-26T00:22:31+00:00

This best advice I can share is remember that a party is a GROUP thing. People who worry about themselves in a GROUP setting is destined to fail. Can you imagine doing your own thing in a GROUP project? You’re alone, which is fine, but remember when you join a group, ask yourself, is there anything I can do for the GROUP, not myself? Conversations come naturally, don’t force it if you can’t think of anything to say. If you say nothing, watch and listen carefully to the group and don’t be afraid/hesitant to contribute. The group has one goal, relax, have a good time and let loose a little.

Jkiss99 · 2019-04-26T19:20:14+00:00

I usually start of with introducing myself (always shake hands confidently or if it’s a girl you’ve met before go for a hug). Usually ask where are you from or what’s your major. That usually gets stale after a minute or two. I try to talk about music or movies. Ask a lot of questions and make playful jokes about her responses. The thing about parties is they’re usually pretty loud so I’ll lean in to hear her better and use it as a chance to lightly touch her shoulder. If you can keep a convo going for a little bit and she seems interested say something like “I love this song let’s go dance!” If she agrees hold her hand and pull her over to the dance floor

Title	Awkward guy going to a college party alone
Author	ExoticPomegranate4
Upvotes	3
Comments	8
Date	April 25, 2019 10:24 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/bherk8/awkward_guy_going_to_a_college_party_alone/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/awkward-guy-going-to-a-college-party-alone.1467356 https://theredarchive.com/post/1467356

Comments