Going to clubs. I can feel when I'm talking to a girl their either not interested, or that they are replying to be nice. But I can feel the undertones. Not sure what to do.

DriedUpPlum · 2019-05-10T04:43:09+00:00

Ask open ended questions. If they still respond with one or two words they are either not interested or not very intelligent. Either one you should pass on.

Dilpil01 · 2019-05-10T09:05:42+00:00

Sounds to me the problem is that your conversation is pretty bland. You're socially calibrated enough to recognise they're bored or uninterested, but not enough to find a solution. Most of the time this is a result of asking interview style questions (what do you do for work?), talking about irrelevant safe topics, not having them participate and mainly just not giving them an emotional spike. Step outside the box, be a little bit chaotic or controversial, get multiple people involved, make fun of them one sentence then give them a compliment the next.

Next time you go out, bring conversation and attitude that elicits some emotion. They will generally respond equivalent to how you feel. If you go in and you are bringing in conversation that you find entertaining and funny, they likely will come along too. They will not make the good conversation for you, you must entertain them straight off the bat.

2019-05-10T21:31:04+00:00

Try and instigate an emotion from her even if it’s gonna get you some backlash. That’s what I’d do :/ GL dude

getyourlifeplease · 2019-05-10T02:09:34+00:00

What do you do AFTER they give you the dry responses - do you stand there and try to continue talking to them or do you end it and walk away?

Shuuuuup · 2019-05-10T02:11:35+00:00

Just work on your game more. Try to find out at what points so they seem uninterested..

injesterstrust · 2019-05-10T09:03:35+00:00

PUA wisdom is to 'plow and plow'. Basically keep talking, make assumptions, ask interesting questions etc until she opens up and show interest back and asks you stuff etc.

But fact is, this will basically never really work. The reason she's being super laconic is simply because she's not interested. She's a 'no girl' as Mark Manson would say. If you're not her type, you're not her type. Whatever

It's good that you're over appraoch anxiety and also good that you can obviously 'read' people (e.g - you could tell she was not interested and just being nice). Social awareness. Good.

At this point it's just a numbers game. Keep approaching and escalate on the girls that you can tell probably ARE interested

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