LTR said "I'm tired of you being stoic and want you to communicate more"

nyrp · 2015-03-19T16:00:22+00:00

I had the same thing posed to me in my last LTR. Everything I communicated was then used against me. It provided no additional closeness in the relationship. Just information for her to use against me. And I was really surprised by this, because in the beginning she seemed so much nicer. Seemed a near-unicorn. Hear me now and believe me later: AWALT.

TL;DR Communication killed my relationship.

UPDATE. I just heard from the bitch yesterday. After being broken up for 2 months and talking intermittently, she messaged me to let me know she is finally with a new guy (just starting, "taking it easy", which means they've fucked once or twice and she's hanging all her hopes on him). She proceeded to tell me that he "has an empire" and fucks better than I do. I just laughed and told her she's so lucky, she's really hit the jackpot! What a bitch. As many have said, I dodged a bullet with her. 32 years old. Acts like a 15 year old.

thatonedayhaha · 2015-03-19T15:42:00+00:00

you told us what she said, but not what she did. we can't judge based on this. her words don't matter in the grand scheme of things

what have her recent actions been like?

aguy01 · 2015-03-19T23:34:43+00:00

Make a joke out of it. Agree and amplify. "You're right. I should open up. Sometimes... my vagina gets sand in it and it hurts"

fnordsnord · 2015-03-19T19:48:12+00:00

I would not change your overall tone. However, a little more sensitivity to comfort tests might be in order.

We stress alpha behavior around here because boys born during and after the 60's are raised to be beta and to be ashamed of their normal sexuality.

And yes, women's instincts DO get alphas laid. But women's instincts ALSO crave SOME indication that their mate will stick around to protect and provide for the offspring.

Do NOT over do it. But just a LITTLE beta served up might help.

beerthroway · 2015-03-19T20:00:01+00:00

It's a trap. She doesn't want to know your problems. She wants the stoic rock. This thread is right up your alley:

http://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/2xr5f4/understand_your_women/

[deleted] · 2015-03-20T00:16:06+00:00

Just keep behaving how you want to, and if she doesn't like it you'll get another girl. That's the only way to win.

Johnny10toes · 2015-03-20T13:45:11+00:00

This is good. She can't figure it out.

thatonedayhaha · 2015-03-19T15:43:42+00:00

Read this:

https://heartiste.wordpress.com/2015/01/23/the-third-beta-bait-type-the-bad-boyfriend-ploy/

[deleted] · 2015-03-22T02:00:21+00:00

I may have failed some comfort tests, which is causing her to say this.

This sounds like the problem to me. Maybe you're starving her of affection and kindness that shows you're thoughtful about her feelings and comfort level. If you're aware of possible comfort tests (which may have not actually been tests) and you're failing them then yea... Sounds like the problem.

Title	LTR said "I'm tired of you being stoic and want you to communicate more"
Author	thatonedayhaha
Upvotes	6
Comments	22
Date	March 19, 2015 3:35 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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