I got a 21 year old asian girl's number at a bar last week (I'm 31). She is from China and has been in the U.S. for college for just over 3 years. She went out of town over the weekend, but she was blowing up my phone on Sunday asking me to take her to a happy hour on Monday. We set it up, and the following is the story of my night told through the girl's hamstering and subconscious RP truths:

  • I have to sleep early because I have a 10am class.
  • I know you are bossy because you didn't ask me to come to your place, you told me.
  • I am bossy around people I am close to because I know what I want and I go for it.
  • (1 hour into the date) I always like to be upfront. I have a boyfriend of 3 years in a city 3 hours away.
  • He is very nice. I like nerdy guys who stay home while I go party and dance. Nerdy guys make me feel secure. I can tell you make girls feel insecure.
  • I love giving blowjobs. I once gave my boyfriend one on the 30th floor balcony of a hotel in Hong Kong.
  • My class tomorrow was actually canceled. I just didn't want to keep you up late because you have work the next day.
  • Let's watch Big Hero 6! It's soooo cute.
  • Oh, you are good. No, I will not kiss you.
  • You already kissed me once. No more. Never again.
  • (after making out) This is wrong. I have a boyfriend. Please delete my number. I am deleting you from facebook and instagram and blocking your phone number. (which she did right then and there)
  • You made me drink too much. This is your fault.
  • You go to sleep, and I will rest on the couch until I am ready to drive home. (she follows me to the bed)
  • I can't have sex because I'm on my period. (not because she has a boyfriend or doesn't want to)
  • See? Don't you think I'm good at blowjobs?
  • Do you want to finish on the balcony?
  • This is your fault. You made me drink too much. You will never see me again. (hug and giggle when I lightly slap her ass) Bye.

Now that I had my fun, I feel extremely guilty. I've contributed to fucking up a 3-year relationship. Yes I realize that she is an adult and made her own adult decisions. Indeed, she pushed for this to happen just as much as I did. I still feel really guilty knowing that she feels like shit about what she did. I have no doubt that she cried on her drive home. I could find a way to message her on facebook or something, but I don't see what I could say to make either of us feel any better.

TL;DR For once I was the AF and convinced a girl to cheat on her BB boyfriend on my very public and visible balcony. I feel like an asshole for potentially destroying their relationship.