What has been the single most effective strategy to raise your self-esteem?

Lyvewyrez · 2019-07-26T01:56:55+00:00

Achieving goals. Check out r/theXeffect

ibetrynaimprove · 2019-07-26T02:59:19+00:00

Investing in myself. Putting in those raw hours into my personal development gave my subconscious mind the green light that I could have an abundance of women/success in the long-term

eablokker · 2019-07-26T03:18:07+00:00

There are 2 types of self esteem, dependent and independent. Dependent comes from external circumstances, and independent is internal.

Examples of dependent self esteem are receiving a compliment, getting a raise, buying a new car, getting a hot girlfriend -- all things that come from the external environment.

Examples of independent self esteem are doing meditation, getting exercise, changing your thoughts through therapy, taking actions that are in alignment with your values. These are things that are internal and that you have direct control over.

Dependent self esteem is unstable, because it depends on external circumstances, your self esteem will bounce up and down with the unpredictable external environment.

Independent self esteem is more stable over time because you have control over it and it's not affected by the ups and downs of life. It won't give you the same highs as something like winning the lottery, but you will also be more resilient to the lows like if someone stole all your lottery winnings.

On top of that, dependent self esteem is associated with the dark side of self esteem -- anti-social behaviors such as treating people unkindly, lacking generosity, and generally being a jerk. In contrast, independent self esteem has the opposite effect, and is associated with more pro-social behaviors such as generosity and kindness.

Dependent self esteem is like the candy and junk food of life -- it's tastes really damn good but eventually you will have a sugar crash, and it can't sustain you. You must balance that with a nutritious meal, the independent self esteem, to help keep your blood sugar level.

MrMemper · 2019-07-26T03:25:49+00:00

Pot.

Jk

2019-07-26T09:49:42+00:00

Remembering the average person is dumb as hell

chubbishere · 2019-07-26T10:10:17+00:00

Stuff a sock in your crotch.

Zandito · 2019-07-26T02:42:20+00:00

mseand · 2019-07-26T14:40:29+00:00

In terms of being social: Pulling girls and stealing girls from guys

For the latter, I figure out the logistics and the relationship between the two out in the bar and if they've only known each other for a month or less or if they even just met that night I have a stack (which is a routine but OG PUAs call it this) for a specific scenario.

In terms of life: Being able to solve various problems and overcoming risky situations. Also achieving goals as mentioned above. Basically, winning

The most common example (that happens pretty much everyday) i can give you is at the poker table. Making statistical decisions based on the board and trying to extract value from that board in relation to your relative hand strength. Sometimes, you'll be a statistical favorite and other times, you won't

Title	What has been the single most effective strategy to raise your self-esteem?
Author	MagicCookiee
Upvotes	5
Comments	9
Date	July 26, 2019 1:45 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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