Well I tried cold approaching for the first time and this is my first field report. I approached 7 girls and got 5 numbers which I would consider pretty successful? Oh, and an older woman tried to pick me up too I think. The first place I went to was Barnes and Noble. I approached the girl I talked about in my previous post who works there. At first she was busy and I was nervous about approaching her so I was browsing some books. This woman was browsing some books next to me, older like probably early 30's(i'm 18). She started talking to me asking questions and conversing with me. I have had older women do this before but I never thought much of it, now I am thinking is she trying to pick me up? Anyway conversed with her but didn't try to # close or anything and left it at that. It was a confidence booster though that she possibly was checking me out.

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Anyway finally I had the chance to talk to the girl I was after. I went up to the middle desk area where she was at and asked if they had a book that I was looking for. While she was checking her computer I struck up a convo with her. Long story short I got her contact info, score 1.

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Second attempt was with two Chinese girls in the shopping center area where the Barnes and Noble is at. They must have just arrived recently because their English was pretty broken. I lived in China for a couple of years when I was a kid because my parents worked there for that time. So I said to them in Chinese "you are both very pretty". They both blushed and giggled but a friendly giggle. They told me I speak very good Chinese and asked where I learned it from. I told them I lived in China, my parents worked there, what city, long story short I asked if they wanted to hang out sometime and got their #.

Third attempt she was friendly but told me she had a boyfriend already.

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After that I went to the bank and started chatting up the teller and making her laugh. Asked her if she would like to hang out sometime and she was like "quite possibly, yeah" got her contact info.

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Then I went to Whole Foods, figured it would be a target rich environment lol and I wasn't disappointed. However the first one I did I got the "I have a boyfriend treatment" but at least she was nice about it. However the second approach I had more success with. I was in the vitamin section looking for a supplement I needed. There was a girl there also, and I asked her if she knew if they had such and such a supplement, and she knew what I was talking about. She seemed a little nervous at first but once we started talking she became more open to talking with me. To my surprise I also got her contact info.

The last one was my best and worst approach of all. By now I was feeling pretty confident. There was this beautiful girl, I mean a 10/10 beautiful, the type who will give you butterflies in your stomach at the mere sight of her. She was also wearing tight yoga pants which didn't hurt her appearance either. At first when I saw her I totally chickened out. Then I said to myself" me, you are going to do this". I just went up to her and was going to try to be smooth but all I could muster was a nervous "hi". I felt terrible like I really screwed this up and didn't want to be there, wishing I could just teleport myself outta there.

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However, to my amazement she said a warm and friendly "hi" back and asked how I was doing. I was able to start making nervous conversation with her and fortunately she was open and friendly, almost trying to help me along it seemed. She was flipping her hair around and even quickly brushed her hand against mine, and I managed to make her laugh even though I was afraid I was acting really lame. Anyway got her contact info! :-) This is the best I have felt since the breakup with my gf.

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I started taking martial arts when I was in junior high, and I remember something my instructor said that has stuck with me. He said the hardest thing to do to get a black belt was to walk through the front door of the dojo. Meaning the hardest part of learning a martial art was to get up the guts to do it. I think that principle applies here too. IMO the hardest part of doing cold approaches isn't all the lines I never really used anyway, but just going up and talking to them. And the best looking one was to my surprise also the most relaxed and friendliest of them all. Talk to them like a normal human being as best you can under the circumstances. It works!