I can spark up conversations with just about anyone but I'm trash at connecting & maintaining conversation or keeping frame with most people unless I'm being fake af, and that's hard af to maintain even in the short-term beside a casual greeting and brief small talk. So, I can be the life of the party in the first few hours when I'm meeting people and can even create new friend groups and lead for a while, by using the same script (ex. where are you from, I like your style, it's so cold out, i'm excited for tonight, man this ____ is soo, or talking about something random and going on a tangent about it), but then I fade out in group conversations because we're not on the same frequency. I'm very confident from first hand experience to say that it's literally like we're wired differently. For reference, I'm INTP and I have strong reason to believe (from life experience and actually going out and experimenting, not just theory) that I'm hardwired to connect better to certain subsets of people which aren't in the majority. I know this because the only time I'm ever able to more easily maintain frame is when I resonate with the other person or if they're wayy more introverted than me. This applies to both girls and guys.

I feel like there's a specific niche subset of girls who I could be skilled with and can resonate with to create attraction and sexual tension but its prob like 10-20% of girls at best. And this isn't considering other aspects that we might find different/unattractive or availability. The girls who tend to be shy around me also tend to put me in a weird place to approach because they tend to be REALLY vulnerable introverts who can be read easily. So then I feel like a creep because its like having a slave/follower if I actually do get to know them because they tend to be trash at setting boundaries. Think of a 6ft guy and a 5'5 girl whos super shy in an obvious way, maybe a year or two younger, super innocent, and just says yes to everything, and EVERYONE else can see that too (it's not like she's only innocent when you're alone, they're just an innocent being). I feel weird taking advantage of that because i'm not growing as a person by being with them, and id just be taking advantage of vulnerability. This isn't just in my head either because i'm sure other people would also be able to pick up on the dynamic and be grossed out. I also sometimes feel the same way about others who do this. 

Anyways, I'm not going to act like I've done 1000 approaches, but so far, other than getting some numbers & a few texts, things die off after that. Ill admit that I tend to approach HB6-8 girls, but no success so far. I tend to be a bit nervous but still follow through & show interest subtly & keep eye contact. I could care less about the specific girls themselves, but its still humiliating when shit like this happens, outcome indepence or not. I got a girls' number (HB8) who I indirectly complimented by asking for fashion advice & got her number & we spoke for a bit & connected on being of the same nationality. Shes one of those "basic but classy" finance girls. I set a time & place to meet up for coffee, then she says she can't on that day and instead to meet the same day on campus. We agree, then 2h before she says sorry and that shes not going to campus anymore and that she'll make up for it. I got the message clearly but left things open and just said "allright, let me know when you're free". It turns out while walking on campus that same day at night, I bump into her. I was so caught off-guard that I said "hey" in a high-pitched voice & kept walking. I could care less about the girl, but it shows that I have a weak frame & my immediate reaction is to people please when I'm caught off-guard rather than to stand my ground. I could have easily made a joke about her excuse in a light-hearted way then walked off, regardless of whether I was subtly rejected or not. It made me learn that my frame is still weak. I then bump into the girl again the next day at the library & at this point I was just neutral af because i wasn't in the mood, nor did I have the energy to pretend to please anyone so i was just expressionless and its like she seemed surprised because she expected me to be nervous or something. There's also the weirdness of them thinking the guy would get salty about rejection or stalk them but honestly fuck catering to other peoples' worries. I've realized that that's on them. I'm just doing me.The few times I've ever managed to have girls fawn over me was when I was my unfiltered nerdy self doing my own thing (back in HS) and the girls themselves approached me, and it was VERY niche & I somehow fucked up all those opportunities a long time ago so I no longer have a frame of reference for what a good relationship for my type would be like.So now its like, fuck. I know for a fact that I'm not going to resonate with most basic bitches. Fuck getting a snapchat or insta too because that shit is toxic af and kills your self-growth and self-respect. Honestly, I wouldn't enjoy being around those types for long either, but it'd still be a good learning experience I feel. I know how you have to communicate value to the other person, and being with someone superficial means catering to their desires in some sense. Being my authentic self won't work with most chicks when i'm approaching because my eyes only light up when i'm geeking out. I can't free flow with most chicks because we wouldn't resonate. Which is fine, you know "outcome independence" and all. But if you're just trying to get a quick lay, it kills things. Faking it will only go so far and when i'm being inauthentic, it also kills my frame. How would you guys suggest dealing with this? Should I keep approaching randoms & build a mask & nerves of steel even if i mostly don't resonate with them? Or do I scout for receptive girls who would be into the "real me" who tends to geek out and becomes really social when that happens (which is much less likely to happen at parties/clubs, and will possibly take longer to get sexual)? 

I dance at parties and give no fucks & last week I even ended up dancing with a random group of girls who were receptive to the lack of giving of a fuck but from there its like I can sense from how the girl dresses if were likely to be receptive once I get their number & we talk a bit. Its just using common sense. They see extrovert vibes on you and think "his confidence is hot", then as soon as you speak, they change their minds (well, most do). I need to get rid of self-defeating viewpoints though, but its hard when you're aware of what is likely to happen from past experience. Especially since im only considered really hot to the girls who can see value in my personality, which tends to have its own quirks (and those girls tend to be geeks too, or just straight up controlling/crazy, it's a toss up). Its fucked too because I can look attractive enough & not come off as a nerd, but I radiate geek aura throughout the day. I trip on myself when I walk sometimes, I tend to zone out or just analyze peoples social bullshit easily, I pause and look off before being able to piece my words sometimes, and i'm forgetful af. Ive also smoked weed for ages & still need help from newbies when I try lighting up a joint. Its like i look like an average somewhat attractive fit dude who could be sporty or involved or w.e, but then i radiate nerdiness. If I was a full-on nerd at least the girls who are into that (& that I tend to connect with it) would be able to find me. But its like i'm a cyborg social chameleon nerd or something. Hard to explain in text. So I've read the theory, tried some approaches, done the events, tried psychedelics for inner game, and am aware of how to detect insecurities, along with the possible ones in this post. But that won't magically make me have a solid frame, or make me able to increase tension with the majority of chicks. So now what?

TL;DR I've realized that I don't connect with the majority of both men and women when I'm free-flowing naturally and that I can be really social one-on-one to certain types of people, but I'm trash at group interactions despite tons of practice, since I'm wired differently socially than the vast majority of people in these groups, so I end up fading out. Girls tend to be attracted to social status within different groups, and the only way I can see that happening is by finding more vulnerable guys and creating a cult-following around me or by hitting on more vulnerable girls who would be way more receptive to me, but have no boundaries set up. I'm not going to do that though because I don't want to to sacrifice my morals for pussy. So I'm at a cross-roads. Do I give on approaching and limit my pool to environments outside of parties/clubs where I'd find more chicks who I could resonate with but are less likely to put out as easily, or do I keep approaching and just build nerves of steel, even if I don't resonate with the girl, just to get a quick lay which likely won't go far?