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| -1 | Do some of you guys avoid ONS at clubs just to avoid STD risk? Like do you get to know the girl first and figure what she's about and how she gets down, or do you not care? Or, do you meet in the club, but set-up a date instead to get a read on her?Sounds pretty ironic when your name is hentai lol | /r/seduction | 08/08/20 03:11 AM |
| 1 | How can I keep the leverage while still relinquishing some tasks to my LTR so that I'm not alienating them?Not yet, but it's a concern of mine. I do all this shit on my own and do it well without having to rely on someone else for it or teach them skills, but at the same time, I don't want someone leeching off of my value to the point of getting gold from me while providing silver at best, and being salty about not being needed. Shitty analogy but you get the idea. | /r/askTRP | 17/07/20 07:35 PM |
| 1 | I read some articles about "stonewalling" and non-defensive communication, and it almost sounds like the exact same thing as holding frame and being non-reactive. It mentioned how being non-reactive is basically a toxic form of communication. How could one reconcile this?Could you give me an example of where changing frame would be more beneficial than holding frame? I'm sure that this is great advice but I have no point of reference for it. | /r/askTRP | 16/07/20 05:40 AM |
| 1 | Not to be reductionist, but does it really all come down to frame?Nothing, really. It's truly about frame at the end of the day. | /r/askTRP | 03/07/20 04:09 PM |
| 5 | Not to be reductionist, but does it really all come down to frame?Back when I was younger I had solid frame, dates from girls asking ME out, and access to places, but it was a delusional frame and it happened naturally because I was so delusional in my worldview that it was almost sociopathic, because I was on a purpose which attracted people, but it was a purpose founded in abstraction. Growing up and being exposed to the realities of existence humbled me and lead me to lose my frame and break down my confidence and worldview. I'm rebuilding it now, and have … | /r/askTRP | 03/07/20 04:05 PM |
| 1 | Have any of you been filmed by someone publicly while in the middle of a cold approach?I'm referring more to being filmed by someone who'd put it on social media | /r/seduction | 21/06/20 09:19 AM |
| 1 | Have any of you been filmed by someone publicly while in the middle of a cold approach?I can't read the tone of that comment. What do you mean? How? | /r/seduction | 21/06/20 08:57 AM |
| 1 | Thoughts on this?I've heard these stories from people I know who've approached regularly. It's not a regular thing, but good thing to address. Yeah, it didn't happen to me personally so technically it is a hypothetical. It's not meant to be taken as a compliment, it's just an opener. Communication happens underneath that. And regardless, different strokes for different folks. The approach isn't meant to impress, it's just checking for compatibility and interest. | /r/seduction | 13/06/20 08:35 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on this?You bump into someone mentally ill during cold approach. You say something silly. Then they respond. And then you say "I'm just kidding, I thought you looked interesting. My name's _____.". Really simple indirect to direct approach. Usually, it'd go fine, but there's always the worry of bumping into someone with issues who yells or uses that situation of power to cause some sort of drama. Will rarely happen, but possible. That's the point of a contingency. | /r/seduction | 13/06/20 07:50 PM |
| 0 | Thoughts on this?The idea is to not be a creep. It's more of a contingency. There's some situations where it's genuinely a person who's trying to hurt someone and take advantage of the cold approach situation. Like someone not mentally healthy who's trying to hurt you or ruin your reputation when nothing was done to create that. How would you address that? | /r/seduction | 13/06/20 02:20 AM |
| -2 | What's your experience with prostitution and what's your view on the morality of it?I've had one experience in that realm while drunk af years ago, in a pretty high end place, and frankly, it felt so objectifying. Not to just to them, but to myself. Does it kill your "soul" at all? Because it fucked with me. Like how did you manage to reconcile with that? | /r/MGTOW | 08/06/20 11:29 AM |
| 0 | What's your experience with prostitution and what's your view on the morality of it?I've had one experience in that realm while drunk af years ago, in a pretty high end place, and frankly, it felt so objectifying. Not to just to them, but to myself. Does it kill your "soul" at all? Because it fucked with me. Like how did you manage to reconcile with that? Sugar dating at least somewhat humanizes the person. So I'd view it differently imo. | /r/MGTOW | 08/06/20 11:26 AM |
| -1 | What's your experience with prostitution and what's your view on the morality of it?I agree with those, but is this just discounting going in knowing you're contributing towards someone's mental spiral in killing their sense of self? I feel like this is being discounted in the discussion. In a date, you assume that you're providing value. With a prostitute, you don't know. I'm not saying empathy is some gold standard, but to deny the harm caused, imo, would be to deny responsibility. Thoughts? | /r/MGTOW | 08/06/20 11:24 AM |
| -2 | What's your experience with prostitution and what's your view on the morality of it?I'd have to disagree. It's sort of like paying to watch someone hang themselves. An extreme example, but you're contributing to the worsening of someone's situation. And by the way, I'm saying this as someone try to be unbiased and justify it to myself, but I can't seem to. With regards to a date, you don't know going if the individual is having harm being caused to them or are in some fucked up state. With prostitutes you do know, regardless of whether they show it or not. This one is sticky fo… | /r/MGTOW | 08/06/20 11:21 AM |
| 1 | What is the line between enforcing a boundary vs. being an overbearing and picky asshole?They definitely matter most. I don't see how a food preference made me come off as a homosexual though. Do you mean that I came off as an asshole? | /r/askTRP | 27/05/20 11:48 PM |
| 1 | Is this a regular occurence with women or is my sister just toxic as fuck?What about it? | /r/askTRP | 16/05/20 01:42 PM |
| 1 | Is this a regular occurence with women or is my sister just toxic as fuck?Got it, I appreciate you trying to be as helpful as possible with it. I'm 22 | /r/askTRP | 16/05/20 06:49 AM |
| 1 | Is this a regular occurence with women or is my sister just toxic as fuck?Might I ask why you're asking? | /r/askTRP | 16/05/20 06:20 AM |
| 1 | For your older guys, if you have the chance to finish a bachelor's degree fully paid, by age 26, do you think it's worth it finish the degree just so that you have something to fall back on in life?In Canada, one is college (associate's), and the other is a university (bachelor's). Different Institutions. | /r/askTRP | 09/05/20 07:17 AM |
| 4 | For your older guys, if you have the chance to finish a bachelor's degree fully paid, by age 26, do you think it's worth it finish the degree just so that you have something to fall back on in life?I'm at a cross-roads between finishing my Bachelors in Computer Science (3 years), or doing an associate's degree in Web Development (also 3 years). The web dev degree is more interesting and applicable knowledge, but the bachelors allows for more possibilities and possible salary, but I HATE the bachelors degree with a passion. I'm wondering if I should bite the bullet and go through fucking hell for three years and then do whatever the fuck I want, or if I should switch to web dev which is wha… | /r/askTRP | 09/05/20 03:58 AM |
| 1 | Is most of the advice on here geared more towards girls who are sensors?Big 5 measures current outward personality traits, whereas one's genuine MBTI measures both conscious and unconscious ways of making judgements and perceiving the world. Big 5 results can change, whereas MBTI has to stay the same (even if your test results change) Big 5 describes "good" and "bad" traits of personality. If you have low agreeableness in Big 5, that's a bad thing. If you're a Thinker in MBTI, that suggests you might have low agreeableness, but you have all these other skills.You ca… | /r/askTRP | 28/04/20 12:31 PM |
| 2 | Any good suggestions for how to effectively manage this situation?I have a bachelor's in health sciences. I fucked up the first time around because of the idea of getting into med, even though it wasn't what was really right for me. I would say a good grounding in HTML, CSS, Javascript, and a backend language like Python would do. You'll need to build up a portfolio of working web pages to put in your resume. Great reminder, thank you! These are the two options that I have right now: (1) Internet Applications and Web Development: With co-op as an option with a… | /r/askTRP | 27/04/20 04:41 AM |
| 2 | Any good suggestions for how to effectively manage this situation?I'm not looking for sympathy though, nor do I care if I'm viewed as unmanly for my situation. The whole idea is to come clean in august so that if it does get to that point, I'm good. Hopefully, when I do come clean, they see the reasoning and the action speaks for itself. The guy's comment didn't rub me the wrong way per se, it was just lacking in substance or advice, and more judgment-driven. A level-headed person wanting to give advice asks for full context and then gives advice from that, bu… | /r/askTRP | 27/04/20 03:47 AM |
| 1 | Any good suggestions for how to effectively manage this situation?I already have a bachelor's degree as a back-up, that's the thing. I'm 22 at this point. I find that doing an entire second degree will make a dent on my own money which I have saved up from work, along with the left-over money in my bank from family. The associate's degree will be cheaper, I find, and it isn't necessary more-so as it's to help with making it easier to find work and self-study as a web-developer. Regardless, I'll definitely have to find a way to bridge my old degree into what I'… | /r/askTRP | 26/04/20 11:41 PM |
| 2 | Any good suggestions for how to effectively manage this situation?You're making a lot of assumptions in your post. How do you know that I haven't been honest in the past about it and tested the waters? How do you know that I'm not working? The fact that you made those assumptions, and didn't ask those types of questions first before making that comment already makes me apprehensive to consider any of what you're saying. | /r/askTRP | 26/04/20 11:39 PM |
| 1 | A girl I knew from back in high school messages me after 6 years and the convo seems to be headed somewhere suspicious.. what's the best way to ghost her while avoiding a possible negative reputation?Yeah, I just happened to realize that huge blind spot in my thinking. If there's no tangible consequences to a bad reputation, then fuck it | /r/askTRP | 21/04/20 05:45 PM |
| -2 | A girl I knew from back in high school messages me after 6 years and the convo seems to be headed somewhere suspicious.. what's the best way to ghost her while avoiding a possible negative reputation?Sleeping with her never crossed my mind because she slept with a close friend. My worry was about the conversation spreading to others. But thinking about it now, she's the one who reached out, and she's the one who comes off as weird for reaching out like that, so it's whatever. | /r/askTRP | 21/04/20 02:29 PM |
| 1 | Would the following mindset be considered toxic and not useful to have?Let's hope not | /r/askTRP | 12/04/20 09:00 PM |
| 1 | Would the following mindset be considered toxic and not useful to have?Jesus man, I finally have a name for it. Thank you! Yeah, after looking into, it looks like it's time turn it off from now on. | /r/askTRP | 12/04/20 08:59 PM |
| -1 | How do you respond when someone publically uses a neg on you to lower your perceived value in a group?Would a response like "thank you for the casual back-handed compliment, I really appreciate it" while smiling towards them teasingly be a bit too much? | /r/askTRP | 12/04/20 01:32 PM |
| 2 | How do you respond when someone publically uses a neg on you to lower your perceived value in a group?I'm aware of that. Ignoring and not reacting doesn't work so well in groups though, especially when someone has a deadly tongue. Have you seen the result of that in group conversations? Like watch any TylertheCreator group conversation, he'll clown the shit out of someone and because that person can't use A&A or anything witty to respond, they ignore it, and they just come off looking like a fool. Like at some point, there needs to be a power move I feel. | /r/askTRP | 12/04/20 07:59 AM |
| 1 | Do any of you guys have a list of genuine (not fake) vulnerabilities that can be used to get people to open up, without being too over-bearing?This is a really good idea actually, thank you. Any tips for openers into vulnerability? Usually I'd have to open up first to disarm the other person | /r/askTRP | 11/04/20 09:01 AM |
| 1 | How do you guys hold in laughter and stop being reactive during stressful situations or while winning in a discussion or convincing someone of something you know is already a done-deal?You mean instead of a smirk, to turn a serious vibe into a smile towards the person, and if I can't hold in laughter, to make a joke to ease tension and make it acceptable to break frame and release laughter without it being interpreted that way? | /r/askTRP | 10/04/20 08:07 AM |
| 1 | How do you guys hold in laughter and stop being reactive during stressful situations or while winning in a discussion or convincing someone of something you know is already a done-deal?Imagine you're talking to someone and steering them in a certain direction in a serious discussion and then you start laughing or smirking. The person would get suspicious af and become defensive. That's the issue I'm faced with | /r/askTRP | 10/04/20 07:37 AM |
| 5 | How do you take the power away from words?That must have been what did it. Jeez, that's not acceptable? What about the bodybag I carry around? You're telling me that THAT'S creepy too? Come on now | /r/askTRP | 07/04/20 02:41 PM |
| 2 | How do you take the power away from words?Those are good suggestions. I would still care if a 4 year old called me creepy. That's what's fucked about it. The word sets me off for some reason. Might be a childhood thing idk. Might have to explore it | /r/askTRP | 07/04/20 07:54 AM |
| 1 | How much complimenting/encouraging people is too much?Thanks for the response. I hope you can give more responses. These responses are super helpful. You have a nice username by the way. I also like the way you spell. Did I tell you how I liked your response by the way? Keep up the good responses, I really appreciate them. Thanks | /r/askTRP | 03/04/20 11:19 AM |
| 3 | What do you guys do during a block of time where no one's doing anything? I don't use social media and don't touch my phone when I'm with people, so then I'm just standing there and people start feeling uncomfortable, or I just look confused. Any tips or ideas of things to occupy time?You're right actually. In the past, I'd look at it as not wanting to disturb their texting because it might be important. Must have been a self-esteem thing. But bitch, I'm the prize. If someone is hanging out with me, that means they're there for me. It's so common sense, but my lack of interpreting it that way probably lead to that misunderstanding. Next time, I'll just start a convo, fuck that bitch ass phone. | /r/askTRP | 03/04/20 07:14 AM |
| 3 | I have a feminine core, am I screwed in terms of attracting feminine women?I'm not as well-versed in this as most of these guys, but what I can tell you is that your question is asking more for an opinion, rather than the facts. In reality, it ultimately depends on what you want, which means you have to look at the facts, and then look inwards to make the best decision for you. From my own experiences, I've found that I'd attract more masculine women when I was acting more feminine and vice versa. If no one is leading, then things would just die off. Having two people … | /r/askTRP | 26/03/20 09:00 PM |
| 1 | Interesting Event at the GymWhy do you think so? | /r/seduction | 27/02/20 06:24 AM |
| 1 | When I approach anyone (girl/guy) with an air of unpredictability, it's like they feel afraid a bit. But then as soon as I do something to show that I have good intentions, or that I'm compassionate, it's like they seek my approval and are sucked in.I appreciate the advice but what youre saying somewhat contradicts itself. Too fidgety is bad, but too still is bad. That's the issue. Then what would you classify as normal? I get the eye contact thing. Blinking your eyes and looking up once in a while is normal. But standing there and not moving around is also problematic, which doesn't make sense to me. Shouldn't there be some level of intimidation indirectly? Imo, I feel like girls would be more receptive to the non-fidgety guy. At least the… | /r/seduction | 06/02/20 12:20 PM |
| 1 | When I approach anyone (girl/guy) with an air of unpredictability, it's like they feel afraid a bit. But then as soon as I do something to show that I have good intentions, or that I'm compassionate, it's like they seek my approval and are sucked in.What examples would you give of abnormal behaviour? If they seem normal for the most part and you get the vibe that they're compassionate, but they look you in the eyes a little too long and don't move a lot while talking to you, and are unpredictable, will this make you stay away? | /r/seduction | 06/02/20 12:05 PM |
| 2 | 22yo asking for adviceI'm the same age as you and I'm facing the same problem. I've also been going to the gym 3 times a week and can't talk to girls for shit. I said fuck it, and decided to get a mentor online for accountability, and now I'm planning on going 4 times a week (every day that I don't go to the gym) for 3 hours to approach and whatever happens happens. I had to write contingency plans for the worst case scenario results (cops, friends and family disgusted, bad reputation, awkwardness etc.) and say fuck … | /r/seduction | 03/02/20 04:37 AM |
| 0 | My natural unconscious walk is a bit out there and it might comes off as too confident. I'm wondering if it's worth it to calibrate a bit.Interesting. Then what was it? | /r/askTRP | 31/01/20 03:41 AM |
| 0 | My natural unconscious walk is a bit out there and it might comes off as too confident. I'm wondering if it's worth it to calibrate a bit.It's not a bad suggestion but I've already done that. The issue is that you can't be super objective with how others are interpreting it, and you're purposefully making yourself self-conscious and insecure. | /r/askTRP | 31/01/20 03:39 AM |
| 2 | Would this be considered flirting? If not, what's the best applicable and practical way to practice and improve on this?If you dont how to do it naturally though, its not going to one day just pop up into your repertoire of skills. How would you learn how to do it in a calibrated way? | /r/askTRP | 23/01/20 03:05 PM |
| 1 | Would this be considered flirting? If not, what's the best applicable and practical way to practice and improve on this?How would you go about learning flirting while staying congruent to yourself, if you're not a natural? | /r/askTRP | 23/01/20 03:03 PM |
| 1 | I thought that "NGAF" mentality would be enough, but because I haven't dealt with this part of my life, it's pulling me down in my interactions and creating a barrier. Has anyone been through this? How did you deal with it?For sure, I'll have to keep looking into this. It's been there since puberty. Regardless, I appreciate the advice. I honestly feel like the root cause of this is my ape genetics. Proving to my mind that I can "pass on my genes" if I want to will likely quell my inner ape lmao. Like with the driver's license issue, I didn't care about having it, but the continued dragging down that it caused in my life created the insecurity. As soon as I addressed it, poof, the insecurity was completely gone. | /r/seduction | 28/12/19 10:54 AM |
| 3 | I have boundaries and I'm more assertive at a base level, but there's still situations where it's hard to know what the best move is. What would you have done in this situation? Any good tips for future situations?I definitely would like to interpret the situation positively. Jeez, you could be right though. I'll have to think over it. If misinterpreted the situation, then that would be a huge insecurity to address. I appreciate you giving that POV | /r/askTRP | 28/12/19 09:50 AM |
| 3 | I thought that "NGAF" mentality would be enough, but because I haven't dealt with this part of my life, it's pulling me down in my interactions and creating a barrier. Has anyone been through this? How did you deal with it?you’re actually putting aside your feelings and sensations. You’re disconnecting from yourself and building a wall between yourself and other people. I would personally disagree with that just because I'm so aware of my own emotions at this point and went through so much self-analysis and experimentation that it doesn't even cross my mind that this would be the cause. I also express my feelings for the most part, so that also doesn't seem to be the issue. I am grounded in myself. I have read the… | /r/seduction | 28/12/19 09:45 AM |
| 1 | I have boundaries and I'm more assertive at a base level, but there's still situations where it's hard to know what the best move is. What would you have done in this situation? Any good tips for future situations?I'll look into it. I usually hold frame and assert myself, but it was strange because of how shameless and oblivious he made himself seem. Like when I was like, "wow that's a ton of weights, we're sharing this right?". And then he casually murmurs something that he thought I was done with the machine (while obviously I wasn't and indicated that), but then time was running out and I didn't want to miss out on my work out for an argument with no solution in sight. Next time, I'll make sure to acco… | /r/askTRP | 28/12/19 07:28 AM |
| 2 | I thought that "NGAF" mentality would be enough, but because I haven't dealt with this part of my life, it's pulling me down in my interactions and creating a barrier. Has anyone been through this? How did you deal with it?This was really helpful actually. It's like seeing a future version of myself if I don't force myself out of this hell hole. And late 20's isn't the end. I've seen posts on here with late 30/40 year old dudes turning it around. The only difference is the longer you let the demon grow, the bigger mountain you have to face to get to where you want. It looks we both have to stop predicting negative outcomes with women. Just being and existing and trusting ourselves to handle it by being ourselves. | /r/seduction | 28/12/19 05:37 AM |
| 1 | I have boundaries and I'm more assertive at a base level, but there's still situations where it's hard to know what the best move is. What would you have done in this situation? Any good tips for future situations?oh yeah got you | /r/askTRP | 28/12/19 05:32 AM |
| 1 | I have boundaries and I'm more assertive at a base level, but there's still situations where it's hard to know what the best move is. What would you have done in this situation? Any good tips for future situations?Would you mind expanding on that? | /r/askTRP | 28/12/19 02:34 AM |
| 1 | My fellow introverts, what's the best guide that you guys followed?I appreciate that you're willing to help. I'll list bullet points so that hopefully it's easier to cconceptualize: - In one-on-one situations, it's easier for me to make conversation because I'm less overstimulated and can process the convo more easily. - In groups the pace is too fast, and the topics are mostly superficial, which drains me since I'm not genuinely interested and also since it's hard to keep a mask. - When I try to be authentic, present, nd free-flow in groups I either just obser… | /r/seduction | 25/12/19 10:06 PM |
| 1 | My fellow introverts, what's the best guide that you guys followed?In yourself? Or religion? | /r/seduction | 25/12/19 09:48 PM |
| 1 | Pauses in conversation don't phase me. How can I use this to my advantage?Care to elaborate? | /r/seduction | 19/12/19 04:39 AM |
| 1 | I've noticed that I'm able to hold frame super easily with family. I haven't seen it mentioned in the sidebar, so I'm wondering if holding frame with others is about just acting how you would with your family, with them?I'm curious why you think that saying "how about you get out of your own way" in an empathetic and teasing way is a douchebag thing to say. Maybe I'm just not able to understand the angle you're coming at, or maybe you misinterpreted the tone I was trying to get across if I said something like that. If you're right about to fuck and she says that, you'd leave on the spot? Seems like a bit of an over-reaction. I'd at least finish and then move on. But yeah you're right, this is hypothetical and m… | /r/askTRP | 18/12/19 09:16 AM |
| 1 | 26 y/o Virgin. Is it too late for me?If you don't look worse than a 4/10, then you're better off erasing escorts from your mind until AFTER you have abundance. That way you're making a decision from a place of genuine want, rather than from desperation. It also won't solve any of your real problems. You're better of literally fapping. In fact, if you still REALLY want to, it's best to consider it after at least a year or two of trying seriously. Then, at least you know you did what you could. Here is a summary of how to get to wher… | /r/askTRP | 04/12/19 02:08 PM |
| 3 | Do any of you older guys think that rare use of LSD/shrooms or weed is useless for meditation/introspection, or enhancing spiritual/creative events?Have you ever taken LSD/shrooms before? | /r/askTRP | 14/11/19 07:57 PM |
| 5 | Back on the daygame horse after a hiatus. Met a cute girl, got the number, she was really eager to hangout... almost too eager... turns out it was a fucking MLM scamI love how carefree you are about this. You have my respect | /r/seduction | 09/11/19 03:59 PM |
| 18 | How to self-actualize and start taking social risks to pull people in, rather than expecting others to approach you. Applies to friendships and relationships.Sexual market place value. But don't get lost in the terms. Just see it as, "people that seem to be more valuable to be around". Could be someone really good looking, popular or whatever else that gives them that sort of vibe. | /r/seduction | 08/11/19 12:32 PM |
| 37 | How to self-actualize and start taking social risks to pull people in, rather than expecting others to approach you. Applies to friendships and relationships.It means being willing to go and approach everyone and keep taking rejection. See someone wearing a weird hat? Be like "yo, where'd you get that hat from? it looks... interesting". Just keep doing it until you no longer fear rejection and social anxiety/awkwardness. Once you do that and stop caring about the results, it's all about calibrating yourself by having more magnetic social traits and having value to keep people (ex. empathy, active listening, no judgment, being honest, being adventurou… | /r/seduction | 08/11/19 11:46 AM |
| 8 | How to self-actualize and start taking social risks to pull people in, rather than expecting others to approach you. Applies to friendships and relationships.What you need is perspective. Here's what I recommend you google. I feel like they'd help you with your situation, as long as you honestly do the research and follow through. I'd give what I learned but it's honestly trial and error + theory. Spoon feeding info won't change you. (1) How to develop empathy. *note: usually it involves meditation, deeply visualising being in their situation, understanding your own emotions, and going through hardship.* (2) Understanding affective empathy. (3) Becom… | /r/seduction | 08/11/19 06:56 AM |
| 8 | How to self-actualize and start taking social risks to pull people in, rather than expecting others to approach you. Applies to friendships and relationships.You can sound however you want to sound, as long as you own it. This post is about getting people to approach you, and the importance of beating social anxiety to approach people. It's in the title. What's the argument about here? When you look good, some people will approach you. When you take risks, you are literally approaching someone. This post isn't about value or how to maintain a relationship. Only about getting the interactions that people seem to find themselves unable to have. "Why do… | /r/seduction | 08/11/19 06:31 AM |
| 16 | How to self-actualize and start taking social risks to pull people in, rather than expecting others to approach you. Applies to friendships and relationships.I'm not going to act like I have all the answers, but if you're give off standoffish vibes, even if you're good looking, the halo effect of your looks won't be enough because of the bubble you've created around yourself. Probably when you were average looking, and didn't have experience, you built a loop of resenting being around people because they never reached out to you. So you "expanded your circle" so to speak and it's harder for people to get in. Cold approaching and mindful meditation is… | /r/seduction | 08/11/19 06:20 AM |
| 5 | How to self-actualize and start taking social risks to pull people in, rather than expecting others to approach you. Applies to friendships and relationships.You didn't even read it. It's like you're looking to find a way to invalidate any advice that can prove to you otherwise. Looks can pull people in (whether women or men), but it obviously works better with women. It's called the halo effect. It creates a sort of status/confidence vibe that makes people want to be around them. It's a trait that provides value, in the same way that being funny might. But it's not the only thing that pulls them in. Being good looking but standoffish can pull most p… | /r/seduction | 08/11/19 06:17 AM |
| 1 | When you're approaching or meeting new people, do you give some of your value out, and then chill back and see who takes the bait or reciprocates?Thanks for this. I do try to use that sparingly though because it can easily trigger in-authenticity alarms in genuine people and pull in the wrong crowd. I've tried the in-authentic social filter before and you can even get popular but it's really toxic. | /r/askTRP | 24/10/19 10:38 PM |
| 2 | When you're approaching or meeting new people, do you give some of your value out, and then chill back and see who takes the bait or reciprocates?I appreciate this. It looks like I have something to experiment with now. It might sound a bit fucked up but I like to treat life like a game. I feel like if I can master this, I can find the best way to manoeuvre myself socially for my specific personality and satisfy my wants/needs, while being able to reciprocate to the people that deserve it. Instead of sticking to a shitty group just to be "social" (unless you have no choice), I want to pick out the individuals worth my time in the shortest… | /r/askTRP | 24/10/19 08:35 PM |
| 1 | I've come to realize that I'm probably not being honest with how/who I'm approaching which is why I haven't been getting the best results these days.I've been having fun if you don't consider relationships. In fact, I've been having the best time of my life discovering myself. The issue is I'm just trying to figure out how to best improve and narrow down who I approach because I'm not trying to be 30 with approach anxiety and a bunch of chicks who only want to LTR me because I'm rich. | /r/askTRP | 21/10/19 03:14 AM |
| 1 | My frame crumbles at any sign of a stronger frame. I tend to overcompensate this by over-protecting my frame which comes off as forced and defensive because it's not natural. I recognize the problem. Now how do I fix this?I seriously appreciate this. Easy-to-follow steps to hopefully get to the root of the problem. I'll give this a shot | /r/askTRP | 07/10/19 07:20 PM |
| 9 | .....This was the hardest pill I had to swallow. I really liked this girl, but just like all of them, they just want one thing. It’s really heartbreaking at this point.....it’s fucked up man...it’s fucked up.I want to say this in the most respectful way possible since we all have our own issues we're dealing with. It's great that you don't want to cave in to the whims of someone else or give them money. In fact, I congratulate you for having self-respect. The delivery is concerning though. From those messages, there's a few things that I recommend you look into and might help you on your journey to self-growth. The first thing is projecting your past experiences onto others "all you women want from … | /r/MGTOW | 07/10/19 06:39 PM |
| 1 | My frame crumbles at any sign of a stronger frame. I tend to overcompensate this by over-protecting my frame which comes off as forced and defensive because it's not natural. I recognize the problem. Now how do I fix this?Yeah I get paralyzed and don't know how to act in the moment. Would you care to share how you improved? | /r/askTRP | 07/10/19 04:12 PM |
| 1 | My frame crumbles at any sign of a stronger frame. I tend to overcompensate this by over-protecting my frame which comes off as forced and defensive because it's not natural. I recognize the problem. Now how do I fix this?When you put it that way, it actually makes a lot of sense. I'll definitely give these a try. Thanks again | /r/askTRP | 07/10/19 08:59 AM |
| 1 | My frame crumbles at any sign of a stronger frame. I tend to overcompensate this by over-protecting my frame which comes off as forced and defensive because it's not natural. I recognize the problem. Now how do I fix this?Thank you! I appreciate the solid advice. You seem like you have an interesting perspective of your own, so I'm going to dive a bit deep in this response. It's a mind-fuck because it's true. The people who have the most solid frame seem to not be aware of it. It's like it came naturally to them from life experiences in childhood. Those tend to be the ones that throw out shit like "just be yourself, bro". Or "it's just confidence bro". What I'm wondering about is if there even is a normal way to … | /r/askTRP | 07/10/19 07:20 AM |
| 1 | Are there any cheat codes to building life experiences, perspective, and maturing faster emotionally?This was really in depth, thank you. I agree 100% with understanding the "why" for all belief systems. That's actually how I became agnostic and left the religion I was born into. It looks like I need to test out travelling alone | /r/MGTOW | 05/10/19 12:27 AM |
| 2 | Are there any cheat codes to building life experiences, perspective, and maturing faster emotionally?I appreciate the suggestion. Could you briefly compare how you were before and after? | /r/MGTOW | 04/10/19 04:47 PM |
| 2 | Are there any cheat codes to building life experiences, perspective, and maturing faster emotionally?Let's say two identical people in the same situation put in the time and work. How could one of them get an edge over the other? | /r/MGTOW | 04/10/19 04:46 PM |
| 2 | Have any of the introvert thinkers on here managed to dissect and implement the parts of TRP which work?Group convos is a whole issue I've been working on, even though there's been no particular progress besides non-verbals, eye contact, and some filler conversation to very poorly mask the real issue. But with escalating, I've NEVER done it in the natural way. This should be embarrassing to admit, but ALL the times I've done ANYTHING sexual with a girl in my life, I asked before doing anything, and they were already so deep into the relationship, or so deep into their emotions, that they went with… | /r/askTRP | 02/10/19 04:18 AM |
| 1 | What are sure-fire ways for you guys to increase your T levels besides lifting?There was no particular implied question from your statement beyond a bunch of assumptions, which I hoped to rectify. But I guess you realized that, and didn't want to admit any sort of wrong-doing, so if wording things like that rationalizes things for you and makes you feel better, I encourage you to do what's best to protect your own emotional needs. | /r/MGTOW | 30/09/19 09:31 PM |
| 1 | What are sure-fire ways for you guys to increase your T levels besides lifting?I don't see how you got to that conclusion, and frankly, I think you have a gender bias going on. You know, sure AWALT and all, but mate, women aren't some cuck evil fantasy serpent out to get every single man alive. Dad worked overseas to provide and mom worked her ass off at home. The conclusions I have are my own, and believe it or not, my mom actually speaks only well of my dad and defends him. They're not separated. She literally stood by him throughout his illness | /r/MGTOW | 30/09/19 01:38 PM |
| 1 | What are sure-fire ways for you guys to increase your T levels besides lifting?That's a strange question tbh. I mean why does anyone feel anything? I worry because I have a life purpose | /r/MGTOW | 30/09/19 01:34 PM |
| 1 | What are sure-fire ways for you guys to increase your T levels besides lifting?Yeah I'm aware that it's an issue, and have been trying different things with some success, but nothing much else. In the past I'd have been REALLY angry just being around him, but now I'm neutral. At one point I tried being as empathetic as I could to his suffering, but then I noticed how he would take advantage of it. So now I'm in a mixed place, with a lot of apathy | /r/MGTOW | 30/09/19 01:30 PM |
| 2 | What are sure-fire ways for you guys to increase your T levels besides lifting?I appreciate that you're trying to help. Yeah it's a male therapist and I agree, the more vulnerable the better | /r/MGTOW | 30/09/19 01:28 PM |
| 1 | Happy Monday Gentlemen. Here's a joke to get you through the day.Reading it again, that gave me a good chuckle. Thanks for putting the pieces together | /r/MGTOW | 30/09/19 12:20 PM |
| 1 | What are sure-fire ways for you guys to increase your T levels besides lifting?I've been aware of it for a year. Just started the first session with a therapist I'd say 2-3 weeks ago. It's only like 1 session every 2-3 weeks though which is pretty trash but at least now I have something else to bring up. I tried the whole "getting out and facing uncomfortable situations" and "validating your emotions" advice, but it only goes so far. Still issues with connecting to people on a deeper level, and showing any sexual interest in women unless they initiate (which I either rejec… | /r/MGTOW | 30/09/19 12:16 PM |
| 3 | What are sure-fire ways for you guys to increase your T levels besides lifting?Hmmm I did especially before. Now, it's more mixed feelings because he's sick now, dependent, and emotionally clueless while constantly asking for help. He's well intentioned and all and willing to help with money from when he was working, but yeah probably a bit of resentment in there and a fear of becoming submissive and unaware like him. | /r/MGTOW | 30/09/19 12:02 PM |
| 3 | What are sure-fire ways for you guys to increase your T levels besides lifting?I'm interested to see where this is going. I wasn't, but I might as well have been because my dad was working overseas for most of my childhood. No brothers, all sisters too, and all older. | /r/MGTOW | 30/09/19 11:39 AM |
| 2 | What are sure-fire ways for you guys to increase your T levels besides lifting?I'm genuinely appreciative, but I'll admit that I use google religiously and saw all of those articles, but was hoping for more direct anecdotal experiences. Regardless, thank you | /r/MGTOW | 30/09/19 11:32 AM |
| 1 | Happy Monday Gentlemen. Here's a joke to get you through the day.I'll be honest, I read this probably five times and still don't get the joke. Can someone lay this out for me? | /r/MGTOW | 30/09/19 11:27 AM |
| 1 | What it truly means to not give a fuck and be assertiveI'd like insight on if it's in the right direction or not, or if there's anything I might be missing in my POV. So yes, but I didn't write it in the title | /r/askTRP | 30/09/19 02:22 AM |
| 1 | I've been busy with life and haven't had much time to work on dealing with my approach/social anxiety or testing my frame. I found this speed-dating event going on tomorrow, and I'm only 21. Are those worth going to?I've been lifting. It does help with confidence and somewhat with building frame but it doesn't magically solve the social issues | /r/askTRP | 28/09/19 10:28 PM |
| 1 | I've been busy with life and haven't had much time to work on dealing with my approach/social anxiety or testing my frame. I found this speed-dating event going on tomorrow, and I'm only 21. Are those worth going to?2-3 times a week for a full year, you say. Is this that a challenge? I'll admit that I kind of stopped with approaching within the first month, but you know when you do something enough times to the point where you realize other issues need to be fixed before it's best you go back into it? For example, imagine playing basketball and shooting 1000 shots a day for 30 days. You see little to no improvement in your score and realize that you have no upper body strength to support your arm swing and … | /r/askTRP | 28/09/19 09:20 PM |
| 1 | I've been busy with life and haven't had much time to work on dealing with my approach/social anxiety or testing my frame. I found this speed-dating event going on tomorrow, and I'm only 21. Are those worth going to?Yeah I've actually been looking into both of those things. I'm already up to my neck in events and clubs this year, but I'm trying to fit in toastmasters at least for this year so I can get my feet wet. Pretty much trying anything and going all out so I can find out if this situation is fixable or if it's genuinely my mental hardware that's damaged | /r/askTRP | 28/09/19 09:17 PM |
| 1 | I've been busy with life and haven't had much time to work on dealing with my approach/social anxiety or testing my frame. I found this speed-dating event going on tomorrow, and I'm only 21. Are those worth going to?I appreciate the insight but it's shitty when I've been doing that. I realize now that the main issue right now is that I either have deep-seated issues, or the hard-wiring of my brain just means I will lack connection with most people in the world. Not in some "I'm special" way, but more of in a "fucking RIP" way. I'm INTP for reference. Recently, I've been going out regularly, initiating, getting numbers, making friends etc. The first day I meet people I come off as an extrovert because I have… | /r/askTRP | 28/09/19 11:49 AM |
| 2 | I've been busy with life and haven't had much time to work on dealing with my approach/social anxiety or testing my frame. I found this speed-dating event going on tomorrow, and I'm only 21. Are those worth going to?It's not about the women dude. I've read the sidebar an ample amount of times. It's about the social anxiety. There's a difference between theory and IRL. I've read the sidebar and tons of books, but IRL I have an almost crippling anxiety and lack of ability to relate, regardless of the knowledge. With guys I can talk to anyone off the bat with no issues, but I can't relate on a deeper level. With girls, it's 10x higher because of my low EQ. High value or not high value. Theory or no theory. I k… | /r/askTRP | 28/09/19 06:02 AM |
| 1 | I was on google and stumbled upon this manga. You could prob finish it in a day and it's actually redpill af. It's called "lookism" and it actually teaches you how to become more assertive, and the differences in treatment in society. I thought I'd share it with you guys.I was going to call you out on you being overly cautious, but I've just used duckduckgo for something I was searching before, and it came up first thing on duckduckgo while I couldn't find it on google. Thanks for the info | /r/MGTOW | 23/09/19 04:03 AM |
| 1 | I have a male therapist right now, and even after one session, I'm seeing huge growth in terms of my EQ just from being vulnerable. Would getting a second female therapist help me deal with my social anxiety around women? Anyone with experience who can give me advice?If there was trauma which caused this, I'd actually be relieved. Then, there's something concrete to deal with. I can see some causes but not one specific "event" which caused it. I've already been working on myself for a year, but he helped cement some of the things I've been working on. Things like assertively stating my needs/wants regardless of repercussions. It's cool to get those ideas validated. And also the sort of thing where when you're in a stressful situation, you have a preset list … | /r/askTRP | 22/09/19 11:22 PM |
| 1 | This was done through text, but I could see how it would apply in person. Holy shit, I feel like I've been redpilled and I'd like you guys' insight on if I'm being biased or if this is really the case.I appreciate the insight, though I feel like there's a darker side to that which isn't mentioned. As someone who's 3.5/10, I feel like in general, I find that the world is not as receptive when I knock on the door. I've learned to maneuver myself, but it's only recently that I've found out that this is truly the case. Let's be optimistic, but let's not delude ourselves of the fact that we're still animals. Most CEOs have defined jaws. The rare exceptions are extremely high talent, or luck, mixed… | /r/askTRP | 21/09/19 03:20 AM |
| 1 | This shit actually works. Just growing a pair and speaking to girls like you'd speak to guys but with a bit more self-confidence at least gives you the chance to close with a number. Now I'm lost on where to go from here.You've got this | /r/askTRP | 21/09/19 12:32 AM |
| 1 | I'm in college and I've tried the cold-approach numbers game but it hasn't been successful for closing. The guys I've seen and talked to tend to be way more successful with snapchat. Anyone have person experiences with both? What works best for you as someone in their early 20s?Thank you, this is actually close to what I've been planning | /r/askTRP | 21/09/19 12:30 AM |
| 1 | When I see someone in a group who is quiet and alone or outside of the group for a long time, I tend to parent them by including them in the conversation, inviting them when I speak to someone new or asking them a question to bring them back in the group. Is this a negative people-pleasing tendency?that actually makes a lot of sense | /r/askTRP | 20/09/19 02:59 AM |
| 2 | When I see someone in a group who is quiet and alone or outside of the group for a long time, I tend to parent them by including them in the conversation, inviting them when I speak to someone new or asking them a question to bring them back in the group. Is this a negative people-pleasing tendency?The sarcasm is ambiguous in this reply because it's Reddit and some people can say some shit unironically. I'll take your reply literally and respond with: usually the person is an introvert or just has social anxiety, so they fade out in groups more than 3 | /r/askTRP | 19/09/19 08:56 PM |
| 1 | When I see someone in a group who is quiet and alone or outside of the group for a long time, I tend to parent them by including them in the conversation, inviting them when I speak to someone new or asking them a question to bring them back in the group. Is this a negative people-pleasing tendency?I felt like that was the answer I've been having in the back of mind, but when you wrote it, it kind of cemented the idea. I've already realised that I was searching for this answer from someone else, but I guess I wanted the validation of someone re-iterating this viewpoint so I could rationalise it and put away the empathy involved with the action of parenting others in social settings so I don't feel bad about it. Kind of like how girls rationalise cheating, except in this case, I'm doing it … | /r/askTRP | 19/09/19 08:54 PM |
| 1 | When I see someone in a group who is quiet and alone or outside of the group for a long time, I tend to parent them by including them in the conversation, inviting them when I speak to someone new or asking them a question to bring them back in the group. Is this a negative people-pleasing tendency?It's a strange situation for me. I do it because I want to, but it's because I empathise so heavily from being in that situation so many times. But then by me "doing what I want", I become resentful and in a poorer position socially. So yeah I could do it because I want to, but if I'm becoming resentful about it, then maybe there's some "nice guy" tendencies going on behind the scenes. I could be over-thinking it but it's not so simple I feel | /r/askTRP | 19/09/19 08:37 PM |
| 1 | When I see someone in a group who is quiet and alone or outside of the group for a long time, I tend to parent them by including them in the conversation, inviting them when I speak to someone new or asking them a question to bring them back in the group. Is this a negative people-pleasing tendency?The issue I find is it depends on your position in the group. If you're the leader, the other person actually respects you a bit. But if you're someone in the middle of the group, the lower person even if subconsciously views you as a competition, and your kindness at least 90% of the time is taken advantage of so they can get a middle-position in the group, while you get knocked off. It's fucked, but it's basically like group self-cucking. Plus, in one-on-one or presentations, I can dominate or… | /r/askTRP | 19/09/19 08:26 PM |
| 4 | When I see someone in a group who is quiet and alone or outside of the group for a long time, I tend to parent them by including them in the conversation, inviting them when I speak to someone new or asking them a question to bring them back in the group. Is this a negative people-pleasing tendency?I agree with that statement, but I disagree with the context of the way you put it. If you're insecure and doing "whatever the fuck you want" that could entail starving for attention from others, even if you're technically "doing what you want". So when you answer a question regarding people-pleasing tendencies that are innate, me doing what I want involves helping the person, despite them not doing anything back and me getting resentful. I'm asking if this is a people-pleasing tendency because … | /r/askTRP | 19/09/19 08:14 PM |
| 5 | This shit actually works. Just growing a pair and speaking to girls like you'd speak to guys but with a bit more self-confidence at least gives you the chance to close with a number. Now I'm lost on where to go from here.Yeah, a 2% increase in frame | /r/askTRP | 18/09/19 06:01 PM |
| 3 | This shit actually works. Just growing a pair and speaking to girls like you'd speak to guys but with a bit more self-confidence at least gives you the chance to close with a number. Now I'm lost on where to go from here.That's for sure. I guess it depends on what you're going for. Maybe I'm thinking too far ahead, but when I'm 35, it'll be harder to pick up at clubs or bars I feel, so the move to make at that point would probably be the relationship game or plates or w.e | /r/askTRP | 18/09/19 05:34 AM |
| 2 | This shit actually works. Just growing a pair and speaking to girls like you'd speak to guys but with a bit more self-confidence at least gives you the chance to close with a number. Now I'm lost on where to go from here.I just remembered one last thing. Is there any other way to meet up with the girl outside of group events like parties, without decreasing interest? What about coffee or some date where you're moving? | /r/askTRP | 18/09/19 03:32 AM |
| 6 | This shit actually works. Just growing a pair and speaking to girls like you'd speak to guys but with a bit more self-confidence at least gives you the chance to close with a number. Now I'm lost on where to go from here.Wow, thank you! This actually makes a lot of sense. I seriously appreciate the effort you put into mapping this out. I realize now how I've self-cucked so many times with girls. There's been tons of times where I got the girl and I isolated and she was following me and into me and into it, but then for one reason or another I would just go back to where the group is and pussy out. I can see some paths for growth now. | /r/askTRP | 18/09/19 03:25 AM |
| 2 | I feel like I'm onto something. Would only hitting on girls who could support my life purpose or provide me with new perspectives be the best way to game?The rabbit hole is deep my friend. I feel like you can subconsciously gage SMV, but you don't notice it so it never surfaces to a conscious level. If you can convert the girl's looks mentally into that of a guy in your head and think of all the male friends you've had in your life, including the ones that other girls consider attractive that were also your friends, I'm wondering if this could give you a gage of what potential you have with women. This sounds like a huge stretch but it actually m… | /r/askTRP | 17/09/19 08:07 AM |
| 1 | I'm in college and I've tried the cold-approach numbers game but it hasn't been successful for closing. The guys I've seen and talked to tend to be way more successful with snapchat. Anyone have person experiences with both? What works best for you as someone in their early 20s?I go to a diff university but ill hit you up | /r/askTRP | 17/09/19 06:07 AM |
| 1 | I'm in college and I've tried the cold-approach numbers game but it hasn't been successful for closing. The guys I've seen and talked to tend to be way more successful with snapchat. Anyone have person experiences with both? What works best for you as someone in their early 20s?I'll keep on keeping on. Thanks for the motivation. I guess it's all about going out regularly | /r/askTRP | 17/09/19 05:41 AM |
| 1 | I'm in college and I've tried the cold-approach numbers game but it hasn't been successful for closing. The guys I've seen and talked to tend to be way more successful with snapchat. Anyone have person experiences with both? What works best for you as someone in their early 20s?It's cool getting this sort of perspective, especially since you've already graduated. I always thought that 30+ would be when your SMV is highest and you can pull whoever you want whenever, but maybe this is it. I fucked up my first week of frosh but I have some connections with the dudes around me. I think that I'm at least slightly above average but I've only done two cold approaches so far and I have no frame of reference for having success from meeting the girl in person first, and from bei… | /r/askTRP | 17/09/19 12:56 AM |
| 2 | I'm in college and I've tried the cold-approach numbers game but it hasn't been successful for closing. The guys I've seen and talked to tend to be way more successful with snapchat. Anyone have person experiences with both? What works best for you as someone in their early 20s?From what I've seen IRL, guys who have god tier game managed to bypass a lot of SMV barriers but 6'0, green eyes, averagely dressed still working on my style but good hygiene, not ripped yet but at least in shape and not skinny or fat but i'm at around 190 pounds, voice isn't deep af but average tone. I mean it should be at least manageable to pull at least some chicks, but no success as of yet. | /r/askTRP | 16/09/19 10:41 PM |
| 1 | Does anyone know any good training programs for developing frame faster?The faking part is what sucks, but I feel like it is what it is. Like today I met someone at the bus stop and tried to train myself by not breaking frame while sparking up a conversation but there were just tons of awkward pauses (which I actively didn't react to emotionally). Even though this meant that we didn't connect as much as when there's just talking non-stop, I noticed that the other dude felt like he was in the wrong, or that he was the awkward one, and then he ended up being the one t… | /r/askTRP | 16/09/19 09:15 PM |
| 2 | Does anyone know any good training programs for developing frame faster?I'm 21. You do have a point that people tend to care only about themselves. I was thinking more in the context of group conversations, but I'll apply what you've mentioned and see where it takes me. Cheers | /r/askTRP | 16/09/19 05:56 AM |
| 1 | Does anyone know any good training programs for developing frame faster?This actually makes a lot of sense. I guess I'll have to keep facing hardship until something sticks. I have been developing a slightly more solid frame this past year but it's still easily breakable, despite the tons of experience I've been putting myself through. Literally went through dozens of outings & forcing myself to socialize & be present, just for a 1.1x better frame. I'll check out the movie | /r/askTRP | 16/09/19 05:26 AM |
| 1 | Does anyone know any good training programs for developing frame faster?I'm tall surprisingly. What I've noticed is that socially I don't connect with the majority of people as an introvert. I know this from tons of personal experience and testing, so this isn't just a random statement. I can force small talk, but anything deeper and 80% of people don't connect. Then I'm forced to filter my convo to match their frequency and I can't speak as much at that point. I can only probably free-flow conversation with 20% of people who resonate with it. I also have this thing… | /r/askTRP | 16/09/19 05:11 AM |
| 2 | Does anyone know any good training programs for developing frame faster?The thing is I've tried theory, then I've tried just "being me and not taking shit", but the same trends happen. Before you even realize it, you're in someone else's frame, and they become the leader in every interaction. Which is fine, until you meet more people and it keeps happening and then you're stuck under another frame permanently and are actively training yourself into being submissive socially. People will respect your opinion less and even in business you'll be cockblocked. This doesn… | /r/askTRP | 16/09/19 04:48 AM |
| 2 | Girls just don’t notice me at parties, don’t know what to do reallyDon't worry bro I've had the same issues and insecurities growing up. Also, believe it or not, not as many people as you think get laid in these parties, unless they have decent game (natural or learned) or unbelievable looks. There's rare exceptions though. Plus, most of the guys who go to these parties tend to be the social ones, so it's over-represented. I've went to tons of parties back in high school and now in college and even then I've only had rare moments of success in the end because i… | /r/seduction | 15/09/19 08:30 PM |
| 2 | Girls just don’t notice me at parties, don’t know what to do reallyDo you just stand there with a cold face and meanmug? I'm not going to say that I've pulled a lot myself, but from my own personal experience and observation here are the levels to it. I'm stuck at Level 6 personally. Mean mug and distant and trying to act cool -> Level 0, will never get laid unless a 9/10 guy in looks Dancing a bit, still kind of embarrassed -> Level 1, a bit more noticeable, still low chances of getting laid, but still fun Dancing like you're in front of a mirror, and everyone… | /r/seduction | 15/09/19 06:53 PM |
| 1 | I feel like for my personality, the typical methods of approaching aren't going to work so well. Would spending more time scouting for girls that are more likely to connect with my vibes better than approaching randoms?Could I message you? It's rare getting advice from an INTP with this sort of stuff. Or if not, could you elaborate a bit on how you do that and the sort of success you've been having? | /r/seduction | 15/09/19 09:13 AM |
| 0 | I feel like for my personality, the typical methods of approaching aren't going to work so well. Would spending more time scouting for girls that are more likely to connect with my vibes better than approaching randoms?I appreciate the advice and I'll give it a shot but I've been reading the same thing then going out and being optimistic and open and seeing the same trends. I'd honestly say that 70-80% of the time, my first impressions of people tend to be right. Fashion, setting, non-verbals etc. all actually can be pretty damn accurate. And this from real life experience, I'm not just pulling this out of my ass. With regards to personality types, I've tried to not put people in boxes, but then months or even… | /r/seduction | 15/09/19 04:18 AM |
| 0 | I feel like for my personality, the typical methods of approaching aren't going to work so well. Would spending more time scouting for girls that are more likely to connect with my vibes better than approaching randoms?Like you're doing right now? | /r/seduction | 15/09/19 03:40 AM |
| 0 | I feel like for my personality, the typical methods of approaching aren't going to work so well. Would spending more time scouting for girls that are more likely to connect with my vibes better than approaching randoms?Your ability to point out the obvious makes even the gods jealous | /r/seduction | 15/09/19 03:32 AM |
| 1 | UPDATE: I humiliated myself. So far, things are looking pretty shit in terms of my SMV, approaches, and social skills. Where to go from here in your POV?I'll look into it, thanks | /r/askTRP | 12/09/19 02:24 AM |
| 2 | UPDATE: I humiliated myself. So far, things are looking pretty shit in terms of my SMV, approaches, and social skills. Where to go from here in your POV?Reading theory and books and social game: Think of a book and I probably at least read the summary. I read the full TRP handbook once through, same for David Deangelo's Double your Dating, I tried reading this social book for autistic people because yeah this shit is on some autistic level bs, I read an in-depth summary for the 48 laws of power, a run-through of models by mark manson etc. I end up overloaded with info so I can only recognize terms and only keep the general info like "don't speak… | /r/askTRP | 12/09/19 01:57 AM |
| 2 | UPDATE: I humiliated myself. So far, things are looking pretty shit in terms of my SMV, approaches, and social skills. Where to go from here in your POV?I don't want to make these really long posts but just so you understand my frustration, I will. I'll probably copy this for myself later too. Read if you want. Let me list it out for you: Closest friend (broken off): the one closest friend I've ever had was an empath who initiated friendship with me back in high school a long time ago since I was a closed off person and manipulative and he was nonjudgmental but then a few months ago we ended up breaking off the friendship because he said that I … | /r/askTRP | 12/09/19 01:57 AM |
| 2 | UPDATE: I humiliated myself. So far, things are looking pretty shit in terms of my SMV, approaches, and social skills. Where to go from here in your POV?I'm going to be straight up honest with you. I fucking hate socializing. My heroine mentally is if I could sit alone and watch fucking anime and be that fucking loser doing jack shit working free lance and jacking off alone until they die. I'm just being real right now. The only way I can get better at socializing with who I am is by making it into a game, where I try to care more about my inner progress rather than the results. That's what I've been trying to do. The issue is I've never been pr… | /r/askTRP | 12/09/19 01:05 AM |
| 1 | UPDATE: I humiliated myself. So far, things are looking pretty shit in terms of my SMV, approaches, and social skills. Where to go from here in your POV?Yes I do, I stopped for a bit to work on my inner game but I'm going to get back into it of course. I know what my genetic peak is from my crazy gym training back in high school and know just how much I fuck things up due to lack of inner game (like what happened multiple times back then) so that's literally the key focus rn. | /r/askTRP | 12/09/19 12:59 AM |
| 2 | UPDATE: I humiliated myself. So far, things are looking pretty shit in terms of my SMV, approaches, and social skills. Where to go from here in your POV?I thought that's what it was, but I've been facing stressful situations regardless. You're using the limited knowledge you have to make a broad judgement about someone you don't even know personally. I went off reddit for a long while without making any posts, and keeping things brief at best. I made "my own" decisions from my own life experiences. I'd do my own research and try working on myself alone. That shit didn't work. I lack the frame of reference to succeed in interactions because I've … | /r/askTRP | 12/09/19 12:55 AM |
| 2 | UPDATE: I humiliated myself. So far, things are looking pretty shit in terms of my SMV, approaches, and social skills. Where to go from here in your POV?Posts are made for a reason. For insight or perspective. If I have to look like an ass or cringe or persistent to get to the bottom of this, then I will. "Read the sidebar". I did. It didn't stick because I didn't have the practical experience or any life reference. A 300 page book doesn't digest in a day, week, or even month. "Build your SMV". I am. I've been doing that for a while now. That's not solving the inner game issue I'm seeking to solve. Even with psychedelics, meditation and all that… | /r/askTRP | 12/09/19 12:46 AM |
| 2 | UPDATE: I humiliated myself. So far, things are looking pretty shit in terms of my SMV, approaches, and social skills. Where to go from here in your POV?I thought it was that, but it's likely subconscious. Consciously I don't give a fuck, but subconsciously, those patterns take control of me. I fucking hate it. Then when I try being "me" or being my typical self when I'm alone, that self is just quiet and cold. So being myself literally means being a lone wolf who talks to no one which is counter-productive. Like fuck this negative energy but maybe you can see where I'm going with this | /r/askTRP | 12/09/19 12:43 AM |
| 2 | UPDATE: I humiliated myself. So far, things are looking pretty shit in terms of my SMV, approaches, and social skills. Where to go from here in your POV?I've BEEN working on this stuff. Religiously honestly. Every day is a grind at this point. I'm just seeing the same negative loops and I'm wondering what's blocking me. Like physically I can probably lift more and dress a bit better for sure. I've already been making progress. But then what? I'm still not assertive. Like I literally was willing to do the dumbest shit to work on being assertive by putting myself in stressful situations, but what seems to happen is I have the balls to face those s… | /r/askTRP | 12/09/19 12:32 AM |
| 2 | Girl responds that she can't meet up today. How to proceed?"no problem" "let me know when you're free" Allright I'll give that a shot | /r/askTRP | 11/09/19 08:42 PM |
| 1 | Girl responds that she can't meet up today. How to proceed?Is it worth to message them back another time or should I expect them to text back after that if they're still interested? | /r/askTRP | 11/09/19 08:29 PM |
| 1 | Kind of fucked up my approach but got a number and going out for coffee. How the fuck do I escalate or get any kino in as an absolute beginner?I'll have to look into that. Thanks for the good tips. | /r/askTRP | 11/09/19 05:13 PM |
| 2 | Girl that I approached then texted just responded the next day that she can't come Sunday and asks if I'm on campus today. I have no clue how to continue and would appreciate some guidanceThanks bro, I'll keep you updated. Failure or not, it's all about the journey | /r/askTRP | 11/09/19 05:11 PM |
| 1 | Kind of fucked up my approach but got a number and going out for coffee. How the fuck do I escalate or get any kino in as an absolute beginner?I read about that but the POVs seem to be conflicted about it. I remember someone said that with game, you can manage success in most places unless it's super boring. Either way, I don't drink for health reasons and not all girls drink anyways so it's not a black/white thing. Any quick simple tips for kino/escalating for a noob? | /r/askTRP | 11/09/19 05:03 PM |
| 2 | Girl that I approached then texted just responded the next day that she can't come Sunday and asks if I'm on campus today. I have no clue how to continue and would appreciate some guidanceAllright fuck it. I told her where to meet up and the time and she instantly replied so I guess it's on for whatever this is going to be. Even if there's no outcome that's expected, I'm still anxious af and I never thought I would be. It's a good thing I decided to do this because I feel like I'll learn a lot. You learn nothing from not getting out of your comfort zone. | /r/askTRP | 11/09/19 05:00 PM |
| 1 | Girl that I approached then texted just responded the next day that she can't come Sunday and asks if I'm on campus today. I have no clue how to continue and would appreciate some guidanceGot it. Man I'm literally going into this with shit frame and I'm throwing myself into the pool like a parent would do to their child and telling myself to swim and figure it out. All knowledge goes out the window in real-time. If there were like 3-4 tips you could give that I could apply immediately without getting too into my head and over-thinking if I did something wrong, what would you suggest? | /r/askTRP | 11/09/19 04:39 PM |
| 1 | Girl that I approached then texted just responded the next day that she can't come Sunday and asks if I'm on campus today. I have no clue how to continue and would appreciate some guidanceI appreciate this. What if after she gives me some fashion advice and I drop something like "honestly, it cool getting fashion advice, but I just came up to you because I thought you were cute" halfway through our conversation? Man, I just want to say some shit to build tension and make myself have to face my fears. I guess I'll try to build kino by seeing if I can casually get more touching naturally when I'm teasing her or just do the verbal thing you mentioned by being honest and treating her… | /r/askTRP | 11/09/19 04:16 PM |
| 2 | Girl that I approached then texted just responded the next day that she can't come Sunday and asks if I'm on campus today. I have no clue how to continue and would appreciate some guidanceI read the sidebar, but going in today, my mind is blank honestly. Would you mind giving me some simple tips on how to escalate? The approach was kind of platonic so I might have fucked it up. I'll probably wing it then read the sidebar later so I can have the real life experience as a reference for where I went right/wrong. Also, would something like "yea, let's meet up at starbucks for 6:30?" sound cool? If I'm in the one inviting should I pay or would paying individually make sense? I don't b… | /r/askTRP | 11/09/19 03:57 PM |
| 1 | Girl that I approached then texted just responded the next day that she can't come Sunday and asks if I'm on campus today. I have no clue how to continue and would appreciate some guidanceThis is great advice, thank you! I feel like I'm slowly learning each aspect from the ground-up step by step. I have two more questions: (1) how do you maintain frame, or at least fake it till you make it, in your interactions when approaching or on dates? I read the theory and I notice that I tend to be a people-pleaser. I'm working on it, but it's like fighting against your own wiring in live action during conversations. Do you just speak your mind, be nonreactive to negative energy, and make … | /r/askTRP | 11/09/19 03:40 PM |
| 1 | How did you guys learn how to game? Imo, theory and practice alone can only do so much.It's awesome that you changed so much. That's my goal too. I want to develop FWB and casual sex and develop networking skills and my own frame. | /r/askTRP | 11/09/19 03:20 PM |
| 4 | Girl that I approached then texted just responded the next day that she can't come Sunday and asks if I'm on campus today. I have no clue how to continue and would appreciate some guidanceI likely won't bump into her again. I'm just using this to train my self-confidence around women and having a conversation with an HB7-8 I feel would help fine-tune that. She's my second approach so far. What would you do on your first approach? Since every guy compliments chicks generically, how do you approach to the point where it's smooth and not like they're getting smothered, but also builds tension? | /r/askTRP | 11/09/19 03:17 PM |
| 1 | Can someone tell me their story from zero to hero? I've been working on my frame for a full year with little progress at most.21 | /r/askTRP | 11/09/19 03:01 PM |
| 1 | Can someone tell me their story from zero to hero? I've been working on my frame for a full year with little progress at most.I want to make a team and run my own tech start-up. If I fail, I'll keep testing and trying things out. I don't want to be working for someone else 10 years from now. In the worst case, if that means freelance and travelling the world as a software developer, then fuck it. Building new perspectives also builds creativity. I want to be able to help other people socially as well who've been in my situation. Likely I might find a way to bridge my writing and programming hobbies and make an informat… | /r/askTRP | 11/09/19 02:47 PM |
| 1 | How to follow-up for this specific case? I didn't necessarily over-indicate sexual interest, but we found some "connections" and I got a number.You're right. Fashion is about self-expressing. It's cool to get perspectives and social skills training when you're starting from scratch though. Online apps are tricky because you're not socially training yourself as much. Btw she JUST responded with "can't come on Sunday. are you free on campus today?" | /r/askTRP | 11/09/19 02:34 PM |
| 1 | Can someone tell me their story from zero to hero? I've been working on my frame for a full year with little progress at most.You're right with regards to that. I'm honestly just trying to train my social skills and my frame and using women and men alike to do that. I want to achieve big things in the future, and I know that leaving this issue lingering will fuck me up in terms of progress. I'm providing my value but also using their presence as a way to hone my skills ex. small talk, active listening etc. I'm dealing with the girl situation to conquer my fears, use it as leverage or knowledge I can trade for other ben… | /r/askTRP | 11/09/19 09:43 AM |
| 1 | Can someone tell me their story from zero to hero? I've been working on my frame for a full year with little progress at most.I appreciate this. You went through some shit and there's definitely room for everyone to improve. The issue I'm having is the fact that all the girls I've ever been with never became gfs, just "things". It's like there's something I have innately missing from childhood. The same applies for deep connections with guy friends. I just have tons of acquaintances, even when I try to open up. Any advice on that? Would you recommend cold approaching every day until I fine-tune that, then follow-up the… | /r/askTRP | 11/09/19 09:20 AM |
| 1 | How to follow-up for this specific case? I didn't necessarily over-indicate sexual interest, but we found some "connections" and I got a number.She didn't end up responding but this is great advice to use for next time | /r/askTRP | 11/09/19 05:46 AM |
| 1 | Is frame everything? If you had a god-like frame, couldn't you technically just make people believe in your frame just for the fuck of it? Is that why people with weak frames can be manipulated way more easily?Another thing that's extremely complex is the human digestive system. Thanks for the good read, I'm gonna go grab a bite to eat | /r/askTRP | 11/09/19 03:52 AM |
| 1 | Can someone tell me their story from zero to hero? I've been working on my frame for a full year with little progress at most.What would you recommend? I'm game for facing fears. I just want to grow from it honestly. I can start conversations up with anyone, theres just a shit frame behind it and a few hours in, i sort of just fade out even when actively engaged | /r/askTRP | 11/09/19 01:41 AM |
| 1 | How to follow-up for this specific case? I didn't necessarily over-indicate sexual interest, but we found some "connections" and I got a number.Sweet. I went for it. Now, whatever happens, happens | /r/askTRP | 10/09/19 10:16 PM |
| 1 | How to follow-up for this specific case? I didn't necessarily over-indicate sexual interest, but we found some "connections" and I got a number.what are your thoughts on: "hey ___ it was cool meeting you yesterday" "let's grab coffee this sunday, i really want to get this fashion thing figured out" | /r/askTRP | 10/09/19 09:52 PM |
| 1 | How to follow-up for this specific case? I didn't necessarily over-indicate sexual interest, but we found some "connections" and I got a number.what are your thoughts on: "hey ___ it was cool meeting you yesterday" "let's grab coffee this sunday, i really want to get this fashion thing figured out" | /r/askTRP | 10/09/19 09:51 PM |
| 1 | How to follow-up for this specific case? I didn't necessarily over-indicate sexual interest, but we found some "connections" and I got a number.That actually makes a lot of sense, thanks. I guess it's making the mistakes that will help me grow. I tend to overthink things because I can see 10000s of routes on how it can go wrong since I have no reference point of a "good date". I've only dated 4 chicks before and they all ended in disaster back in high school. One chick I ghosted even though she was into me and it was my fault because I was emotionally unaware and afraid. The second I didn't know how to go on a date and my retarded ass j… | /r/askTRP | 10/09/19 08:54 PM |
| 1 | Chick on tinder shit-tested me and I bombed it. Where did I go wrong?I appreciate that man. Let's see where this goes | /r/askTRP | 10/09/19 03:34 AM |
| 1 | Chick on tinder shit-tested me and I bombed it. Where did I go wrong?Thank you for the insight. Wouldn't complimenting her be a negative thing? I'm literally diving into this with trash experience so I don't know when it's low risk to throw compliments or comes off as too much. Like when do you know when you're giving up frame vs. flirting | /r/askTRP | 10/09/19 03:06 AM |
| 1 | Chick on tinder shit-tested me and I bombed it. Where did I go wrong?Probably, eh. You ever have issues with reading context? I figure maybe it's because I might be reading negativity rather than positivity in neutral social situations, which makes me over-react as soon as I sense a red flag so I can "maintain frame", rather than play it cool. Basically, my best guess is that I don't know how to maintain frame in real time so I over-react. I'd appreciate your insight though. | /r/askTRP | 10/09/19 02:42 AM |
| 1 | Would it be better if I speak the language of emotion before applying TRP tactics and getting too logical about it?I appreciate the brutal honesty. I'm assuming that by winner you mean self-confidence, working on SMV, and outcome independence but could you elaborate on that? | /r/askTRP | 08/09/19 06:25 PM |
| 0 | As much as "personality types" are given flack, they actually apply strongly to compatibility and sexual attraction. I'm INTP and despite what TRP tricks I try, I'm just not on the same wavelength as most chicks (ex. partying is not my genuine self). Any INTPs with success here? If so how?Okay I respectfully disagree with you on that. I'd never compromise my morality for pussy, or pretty much anything for that matter other than my purpose. Fuck that. My moral system is pretty lax when it comes to being manipulative at times, and playing games, but changing my self-made value system is a big no-no. Imo there's a difference between being assertive and being un-empathetic/douchey. Being assertive can come off douchey but the person who is assertive can be empathetic. I've seen it ha… | /r/askTRP | 08/09/19 05:43 AM |
| 1 | As much as "personality types" are given flack, they actually apply strongly to compatibility and sexual attraction. I'm INTP and despite what TRP tricks I try, I'm just not on the same wavelength as most chicks (ex. partying is not my genuine self). Any INTPs with success here? If so how?I appreciate the motivation. I guess I'll try to see if there's any sort of observable light at the end of this tunnel. But dude for the fucking life of me I can't speak to chicks. At best, I can speak to them like dudes and that's a stretch. It's strange, but it might be b/c of being raised by women. I'm going to keep pushing myself but fuck. Like at this frosh party, I was dancing and went to these two chicks and starting dancing with them and they were digging it, then I didn't know what to d… | /r/askTRP | 08/09/19 04:28 AM |
| 1 | As much as "personality types" are given flack, they actually apply strongly to compatibility and sexual attraction. I'm INTP and despite what TRP tricks I try, I'm just not on the same wavelength as most chicks (ex. partying is not my genuine self). Any INTPs with success here? If so how?DUDE. Okay I'm like 90% sure I'm an INTP but I can literally make friends in the beginning like it's nothing and I'm really good at not seeming anxious when I first meet someone. But, I'm trash at maintaining conversations and attractive women block my mind more so than when I'm having normal conversation (where it still happens pretty often). In ALL groups, I somehow end up fading out without my control. Even if I try to actively not fade out and just stay somewhere low key in the middle, I sti… | /r/askTRP | 08/09/19 04:10 AM |
| 1 | As much as "personality types" are given flack, they actually apply strongly to compatibility and sexual attraction. I'm INTP and despite what TRP tricks I try, I'm just not on the same wavelength as most chicks (ex. partying is not my genuine self). Any INTPs with success here? If so how?I genuinely appreciate the advice! Something like this? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fKDSq16sD9Q&list=WL&index=10&t=0s | /r/askTRP | 08/09/19 02:58 AM |
| 0 | As much as "personality types" are given flack, they actually apply strongly to compatibility and sexual attraction. I'm INTP and despite what TRP tricks I try, I'm just not on the same wavelength as most chicks (ex. partying is not my genuine self). Any INTPs with success here? If so how?Stereo-typically, the only negative about entps is their dad jokes. It's very easy to dominate social group convos and develop that status socially. As an INTP, and trust me I've BEEN trying and going out and testing things and reading up and then going out again, but what happens is I don't speak on the same frequency as others, so either I'm authentically me and don't speak much unless it's a concept or something I'm excited about, or I use pre-set responses about the weather and how "cold it … | /r/askTRP | 08/09/19 02:06 AM |
| 1 | As much as "personality types" are given flack, they actually apply strongly to compatibility and sexual attraction. I'm INTP and despite what TRP tricks I try, I'm just not on the same wavelength as most chicks (ex. partying is not my genuine self). Any INTPs with success here? If so how?I'll dive back into the rabbit-hole of experiencing life, but I've been doing approaches and those are the answers that my intuition is giving me. Imo maybe approaching at a location that best fits my strengths would prob work best. I guess I need to force more approaches at parties but unlike most others who can come up with shit to say after the first encounter, I can't do it genuinely because the things we like to talk about don't match | /r/askTRP | 08/09/19 01:53 AM |
| 1 | As much as "personality types" are given flack, they actually apply strongly to compatibility and sexual attraction. I'm INTP and despite what TRP tricks I try, I'm just not on the same wavelength as most chicks (ex. partying is not my genuine self). Any INTPs with success here? If so how?I appreciate the advice! Have you managed to have any success? If so, how'd you do it? | /r/askTRP | 08/09/19 01:51 AM |
| 1 | Didn't meet any chicks at Frosh today but met some great people I had a fun ass fucking time. I've noticed that it's like I have an invisible wall up whenever a group of chicks is with us that gets me to distance myself from them. How do you guys get rid of that?I don't want to make that too public but yeah bro so many people are in that same situation. We have to conquer these wimp genetics and do something with ourselves. Not just with women but in general. It's like an anxiety born from childhood | /r/askTRP | 03/09/19 12:16 AM |
| 1 | Didn't meet any chicks at Frosh today but met some great people I had a fun ass fucking time. I've noticed that it's like I have an invisible wall up whenever a group of chicks is with us that gets me to distance myself from them. How do you guys get rid of that?I appreciate that man. Yeah dude I stopped that mean mug shit. At this point I just dance and enjoy myself and fuck what people think. 100 approaches is going to take a while lmao I have this other thing where I run out of shit to say mid-conversation. With both guys and girls. Like all my close friendships are when the other person is initiating. Like I wish I could know how to keep up the convo on my own naturally like that. Then someone says "fuck what people think and be yourself". I met thi… | /r/askTRP | 03/09/19 12:11 AM |
| 1 | Didn't meet any chicks at Frosh today but met some great people I had a fun ass fucking time. I've noticed that it's like I have an invisible wall up whenever a group of chicks is with us that gets me to distance myself from them. How do you guys get rid of that?I did and honestly I just got an information overload | /r/askTRP | 02/09/19 09:59 AM |
| 1 | I fucked bombed it today on the approach and want to keep trying until I get this shit right. How do you remove your own filter without fear of repercussions? What if your unfiltered self is literally the devil?When you're authentic, you push some people away for sure, but others gravitate towards that charismatic energy. When you're authentic, you set your own personal boundaries and trust yourself to make the right decision. You also start to develop a natural awareness of in-authenticity and develop a sort of emotional sensitivity to it, which means a higher EQ. If someone with ASPD who also had actual negative intent towards others met an authentic person with high self-esteem, it would be difficul… | /r/askTRP | 30/08/19 02:53 AM |
| 1 | I fucked bombed it today on the approach and want to keep trying until I get this shit right. How do you remove your own filter without fear of repercussions? What if your unfiltered self is literally the devil?I'm thinking about when I wear headphones or earphones. Isn't that basically a "do not disturb"? You might have some insight though | /r/askTRP | 30/08/19 02:42 AM |
| 1 | I fucked bombed it today on the approach and want to keep trying until I get this shit right. How do you remove your own filter without fear of repercussions? What if your unfiltered self is literally the devil?That's actually a pretty good idea. I guess I'll have to learn where the line is drawn but I mean I don't see myself blocking someone's exit, touching them unless it's an actual justified reason to, or overly sexualizing them so I guess it's all fair game otherwise | /r/askTRP | 30/08/19 02:40 AM |
| 1 | I fucked bombed it today on the approach and want to keep trying until I get this shit right. How do you remove your own filter without fear of repercussions? What if your unfiltered self is literally the devil?For people without ASPD, filtering yourself means giving up frame. I feel like when you have ASPD, filtering yourself is all you really know and you can become really good at it with less repercussions and you don't feel awkward. There's levels to it, and average people who do it can maintain a mid-level frame. But when you're not your authentic self and you have a strong conscience, the brain will fight back. A great example of an authentic person with a strong frame is Russel Brand. He can be … | /r/askTRP | 30/08/19 02:34 AM |
| 1 | I have no issue starting conversations, but I don't know how to continue them on the spot without coming off as inauthentic. Sometimes, this puts me off from even trying.I appreciate the advice! So where would you say are good places to approach where it's not an issue? Do you just dive head first into the embarrassment and shoulder the creep label until your skills go up? | /r/askTRP | 27/08/19 02:47 AM |
| 1 | I'm trying to figure out the pattern for great first tinder messages. Any advice that could lay a good framework?Makes sense actually. How do you mix being authentic with TRP game? Do you remain 100% authentic but just very assertive, with your own boundaries, and frame? | /r/askTRP | 14/08/19 11:53 PM |
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