I don't understand girls in online dating who show tons of interest but just never want to meet

DrumsKing · 2019-09-16T20:54:38+00:00

Who knows. I think you answered your own question.

Just fade away. Text once a week. Then once every 2 weeks. Etc.

I know it sucks to have someone you're interested in show interest...and then they go cold. Life goes on.

axe122 · 2019-09-17T01:46:42+00:00

It’s a combination of the 2 your on the back burner and she likes talking to you but not enough to go out on a date you probly had a very formal interaction through text ie.what is your favorite movie she says start wars you say me too!! You say what’s your favorite band she says oasis you say I love oasis even if your actually do like these thing this kind of conversation may seem like things are going good to you but not to her she doesn’t get attracted to you based on physical appearance and things in common that gets your foot in the door but that it she gets turned on and falls in love by being emotionally engaged your texts should be more like what’s your favorite music? She says oasis you don’t tell her you like oasis you say something funny like I like listening to the soft dislike tones of am talk radio and orca whales have you ever rocked out to orchas before? She says no can’t say I have then you say shits seriously intense headbanging a moshpittibg music lol at this point she’s warming up to you but this is just the first step this should be your general joking fun conversation tone even on the date just play with her and tease her but also say things like you know hearing you were an oasis fan I wasn’t sure if we would be very compatible but you seem cool enough to give a shot in person when are you free to get together? Then follow what i said about not letting her change the date and flake it may be to late with this one but it’s hard to say I saw someone else on here say post pictures of yourself in fun social situations and if she’s looking at your shit that’s not a bad idea but do that in conjunction with what I told you and do what I told you with the next girl you meet on there and you’ll get a date. You shouldn’t talk more than a week before meeting for the first date, week and a half tops! That’s not wait a week a week and half to set the date that is have the date within a week and a half. You should set the date by day 3. The best move I found with blind dating is ask her on a date in text on the 3rd day like I said if the dates a week away the night before the date you call her and tell her you don’t go out on date unless you talk to a girl first joke and say you gotta make sure she’s not a psycho creeper and can hold a conversation when you call her tell her I can’t talk long I’m on my way to (whatever you like to do) but I just wanted to hear your voice and make sure you can keep a conversation how was your day? She’ll say good yours say terrible! I had to fight a bus full of traveling ninja nuns and one of them was 6th degree black belt I beat her but I took a few good shots along the way when the one hit me in the back with a chair now your gonna have to rub my back tomorrow to help me feel better but say it joking and like your not serious at all tone really matters with women! You can even say this is fun aren’t you glad I called now? She’ll say yeah most guys don’t ever call don’t say well I’m not most guys! Say something like well you seemed kinda cool (emphasizing kinda)Im sorta looking forward to tomorrow but I had to make sure you can keep up with me in conversation first! She’ll laugh and then you say okay well I just pulled up you were on my speaker phone the whole time and I’m in a car with (something funny) my whole family mom dad brother sister family dog grandma ester grandpa Cletus and they heard the whole thing and heard you laughing at all my stupid jokes and crushing on me (this is in a super joking tone she has to know your not tryna introduce a girls you never met to your family in any way!) she’ll do a mini flirty test here and say who said I’m crushing on you and you say I said it in an authoritative tone she’ll be like like oh yeah? You think so huh you say I know so! (Think That start wars line when princess lays says I love you and Han Solo says I know) then say I’m enjoying talking to you but I really gotta run I’ll see you tomorrow little miss womderwall (referring back to what she said her music taste was if you can remember it shows you were listening and perceptive) then go see her and remember if a girl is going out on a date with you she wants you to be the man of her dreams she has no expectations and doesn’t want you trying to lock her down but she hopes your the right guy for her so go in knowing you already have her will help when you see her don’t give an ass out friend or aunt hug squeeze her close and she’ll probly compliment you on the fact that your a good hugger lol she will be nervous as fuck on the date so you gotta be the leader and put her nerves at ease.The real hug will help with that she’ll feel instantly a little closer to you and will be easier to talk to but do not interview her on the date!

Welocme2Ell · 2019-09-16T20:46:12+00:00

yeah it tough these days , honestly having more success when she rejects the first time i offer meeting up . I pull back , just go back to chatting , but have her on a social media and post you having fun . Then give it a few days , and build back up to asking her out . i always say whats your schedule looking like, hope she leaves a day open . if she says i am really busy or makes it clear she has no time . then don't bother , either leave it or pull back and repeat .

andrew343 · 2019-09-16T23:38:01+00:00

I don't understand it either. I've heard it explained that it's like when you go to the store to try on clothes but don't buy anything. So that makes sense to me, some just use online for entertainment pretty much.

axe122 · 2019-09-17T00:50:37+00:00

You didn’t do as well as you thought with the conversation on there. And you didn’t ask her out right.Don’t worry it’s not over yet I can tell you how to fix it I can’t guarantee it will work but will be you best chance

axe122 · 2019-09-17T01:12:51+00:00

I need to know if she’s still talking to you through text and who’s initiating conversation though. But for the next girl you talk to and ask out don’t ask her are you free to get together Thursday she says no and then you say how about Friday you throw all your value out the window. If she’s checking out your shot she’s on the fence about you your like a 5 in her eyes she’s not sure if your worth going out with but is still interested enough to consider it you have to spike her emotions having things in common even a lot of things and her being physically attracted to you is not enough it will help you get your foot in the door but that’s it I used to believe if we had a lot in common and could talk easy and were physically attracted to eachother that why wouldn’t she be interested in perusing something with me? The answer is cuz if your not triggering her emotions she will be bored and view you as a nice friend. I would send her Atwater referring to the most flirty thing you think you said when she responds tease her about it and don’t be afraid to use a push pull even through text like if the thing you sent in a text was I still can’t believe you used to be a gothic I. High school or (make a statement like that) then regardless of what she says be like I usually find goths very creepy but you kinda pull it off in a cute and sexy fun way so it’s possible we’d still be compatible even though your a recovering goth lol I’m not sure what to think about you tbh I wanna see if your fun to actually talk to or not see if your able to keep up with me in conversation and have some fun when are you free to get together? Ask her like that so she picks the day and it doesn’t seem like your willing to give her any time you have just to see her. If she says Thursday say okay but you lick the time and place. Do not sit there and go well what’s you wanna do? She wants to meet a man with a plan not a little boy happy to do anything with her just to spend time with her. Also she’s already on the fence about you so she’ll test you before the date once your plans are set do not text her just show up for the date like your confident as fuck have never been stood up before (cuz girls don’t stand you up) she’ll probly try and text you the day of or the day before and change the plans this is a test! You say you know I’m busy if you can’t do (insert the plan you set) we can reschedule for another day. She’ll do one of a few things she’ll reschedule right there in which case something legit happened and she does wanna see you but she’s something actually came up (shit does occasionally happen but usually she’s making it up)if she tells you yeah let’s reschedule but doesn’t ty to reschedule she’s not that interested you can wait a full week with no texts at all and try the same thing 1 more time if if she flakes again she’s not interested move on. If she says you know I was busy but I think I can make it congratulations she wants to see you and you passed her test and she’s more attracted to you now because of it. You should really do this process I told you over a phone call is a lot more ballsy especially for online dating you’ll stand out every online date I’ve been on the girls compliment the fuck outa the fact that I called them cuz they aren’t used to it and real men call. Tell her you wanna hear her voice make sure she’s not a creeper and can actually hold a conversation in a playful way

Freeecheeese · 2019-09-17T14:24:20+00:00

There could be a lot of reasons, but most importantly: it's not about you. She might be doing online dating for a confidence boost, or for entertainment, and it's very likely that meeting in person scares her. She could also have gained 50lbs since she took her profile photos. There are any number of reasons, but they are about her, not you.

Title	I don't understand girls in online dating who show tons of interest but just never want to meet
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Date	September 16, 2019 8:39 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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