Women do everything for validation. They are creatures of validation. They are the lampreys of society's natural kingdom. They justify their existence with constant external validation because they are incapable of developing internal validation (that would require will and ambition).

The worst thing you can do as a man is to treat your woman as an equal. Women don't want to know about your troubles. They want to help you even less. For women, any complaint a man makes is impotent whining.

If you converse with a woman like you would a man she will resent you. Woman don't want to find commonalities. They want you to find commonalities. They don't want to validate you. They want you to validate them. This makes perfect sense. Women are hopelessly insecure about their value. How much less is a "lamprey on a lamprey" worth? When you seek external validation it renders their estimation of you worthless.

Summary:
Never supplicate. Never look to a woman for validation. Never look to a woman for commonality. Never complain around a woman. Never laugh hysterically at a woman's joke, it's approval seeking.

Addendum:
Never take validation from a woman's captivation. When she invariable leaves you, due to natural caprice, you will suffer the consequences of externalizing your validation. Remember, women unlike men are not accountable for what they say - they live in temporary truths. They say what is true in the moment, not what will always be true forever. When a woman flakes, don't be upset - it is merely her caprice. It's your fault for not locking it down when you could. Be glad you are not at the mercy of emotion.

When you communicate with women realize there are two planes of communication, the logical and the emotional. Women are attuned to the latter and trying to interact on the former will leave you frustrated. Do not take the words of a woman seriously.

Caveat: "Every man is my superior in some way." Emerson. None of the above holds true with men. They are your equals or at least expect to be treated as such. Be humble around men.