How do you get over a crush?

2019-11-28T02:52:07+00:00

Never let women influence what you do. Don't change your job because of her.

It takes time, but learn to stop caring. Start going to the gym. You'll improve your confidence from the increase in testosterone and it will help with the anxiety.

And never date coworkers. For this reason.

tretchman · 2019-11-28T02:51:27+00:00

Find a hobby, set a goal to work at, meet some new girls. That's about all you can do. If you follow her on social media mute her or unfollow her. I know how it is... she's gonna stay on your mind if you continue seeing her. Best way to move on is to have other things going on in your life.

NextSpinach · 2019-11-28T03:37:53+00:00

Is she leaving her job for you? Then don’t leave yours for her.

At the end of the day you just have to realize she is not fretting over you. She’s enjoying her life with her boyfriend.

It sucks when you have lower self worth, but why would you bother to want someone who doesn’t want you? It doesn’t matter how great she is, there are millions of other great women; some may want you, some may not. She’s no different to any of them.

cr10 · 2019-11-28T06:37:54+00:00

Its easy for everyone here to tell you what they're telling you without being in your shoes. Truth is it just sucks especially when you know you almost had it but you fucked up.

Unfortunately she has a boyfriend now, my advice would have been to forget the fuck up and try with her again if she was single. Keep in that in mind in case she will be one day. There is always space for recuperation

GrandMidnighter · 2019-11-28T07:33:07+00:00

Well, self worth is always a thing. But, even if you are a high functioning stud....disappointment and heartbreak can happen. In some cases it never fully goes away. I had an ex that I was far more in love with than me, it turned bad and it crushed me. Sometimes, even to this day ( 6 years later) a rejection can flush out some old feeling about being rejected when I was in that situation. I am not someone craving female attention at all, I have had plenty of GF's and dates and great sex since then. Some stuff just gets stuck.

So, the immediate solution is to move on and deal with reality on reality's terms. You made her the "one", but there are always hotter women, nicer women....women willing to give you time. I would first pivot to a hobby or activity you like, spend some time doing that seriously for a few weeks to find your normal routine of being single and on your own. Slowly start to go out in the world with the intention of meeting and talking to new people, anyone at first. Then specifically look at talking to women you find interesting. In a few days of doing this, your infatuation with her will die down. In three weeks you won't really know why you felt so attracted specifically to her.

After a while, like a month, you can double back if you want. That is a situation in which you have mastered your early infatuation, shes still attractive to you....but you are far more in your comfort zone and not behind the ball. Boyfriends don't last forever, establish yourself in a good light. But, you must be truly indifferent. This is not some "become her friend to slide in when she breaks up with her BF" type of thing. This is more of establishing yourself among attractive women to attract other women.

In some cases, you can get a women to cheat. I don't know where that falls in your moral compass. But, I had encounters with more than a few co-workers that their BF's would not be happy about. I just talked to them, friendly and respectfully, but flirtatious and openly.

ItsBrock1990 · 2019-11-28T03:59:40+00:00

You notice what all the comments are talking about?

Ways to improve your self-love and self-worth. I've known a few guys like you and they all have one thing in common, they don't really love themselves.

Learn to build a strong sense of self. If you need help Youtube Richard Grannon.

nebthefool · 2019-11-28T15:38:20+00:00

I got over my work place crush after she started fucking a guy I had considered a friend and they both lied about it. It was a good object lesson in, do not involve yourself with coworkers.

pepinopocho · 2019-11-28T12:20:08+00:00

Semen retention pal , workout and read books about stoic philosophy and im not joking. And go on a date with girls you are not that interested in , you will get better at it gl.

GoldSmith64 · 2019-11-28T03:25:36+00:00

You approach more girls

Spaghetti1776 · 2019-11-28T05:20:47+00:00

You shouldn’t think about a girl that you haven’t even fucked often enough to need to get over her. That’s probably why you didn’t fuck her.

Title	How do you get over a crush?
Author	GoldSmith64
Upvotes	15
Comments	28
Date	November 28, 2019 2:45 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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