Stylelife Challenge Day 3-30

HelloIAmAnything · 2019-12-04T06:03:13+00:00

You got more balls than 90% of the guys here.

Monkeyget · 2019-12-04T08:08:37+00:00

I occasionally go to bars by myself. In fact just last night I went to a bar by myself where I didn't know anybody. I talked to several groups of people and ended up spending a good amount of time with a group (one man and three women).

How did I do it? In this case I had it easy : I went to a bar trivia event. Bar trivia is an easy way to meet people in bars when you are not used to it. The main reason being that you have a valid reason to walk up to a group of people and join them. All you have to do is say that you are by yourself and ask if you can join their team. If you feel too shy you can ask the quiz master/bartender and they'll try to find a spot for you in some team.

There are other events located in bars that give you an excuse to talk to people and help you build your 'talking to strangers' muscle. For example : language exchanges and meetups. Apart from being a group of people to talk to, it also gives you a 'base of operation' from where you can jump off and talk to the other people in the bar.

In general my mindset is that if someone goes to a bar it's because that person wants to have a good time and talk to people. Therefore they don't mind if you talk to them. I start with a short observational/situational question and build from there : are you waiting for someone, the bartenders look like they are having fun, what are you guys drinking I need a suggestion, you look like you are having fun,...

19abto · 2019-12-04T09:11:51+00:00

Whether it’s a “failure” day or a “win” day, I’ve been looking forward to reading your blogs regardless. You’re inspiring many more ppl than u know.

toma_kapec · 2019-12-04T07:43:07+00:00

Don't give up

researchshowsthat · 2019-12-04T09:31:58+00:00

Don't be discouraged, I don't know where you live but I've lived in five cities in the US and it was all similar: I'd go to bars alone as a new single person in town, sometimes have a drink by myself and just enjoy having people around, sometimes meet interesting people, sometimes get hit on by some dude, sometimes battle unwanted attention. Every time is different and no experiences are a failure! You can show up to even more places that are social, like a restaurant with a communal table, or a comedy show, or some class. The most random adventures happen when you explore on your own, because you don't have to worry about what your buddies want to do or what they'll say or how you'll look.

jikol1906 · 2019-12-04T07:51:53+00:00

This is really inspiring dude! Making me want to get out there myself.

2019-12-09T17:18:30+00:00

As a standup comedian/writer, I love to post up in public spaces, most often my neighborhood dive bars and write/read/draw for a couple of hours. I pair this with sitting where the action is, most often near the cash register/main ordering area. Having a notepad in hand is an instant conversation starter, because it piques people's curiosity. Often, people will open me because of that.

I also love to get a personal social snowball going and chat up the people I sit down next to, the bartender, and interesting people I see waiting in line to order! Honestly, waiting in line for pizza/drinks etc. is totally my jam too.

Good on you for putting yourself out there! Looking forward to your upcoming posts.

SandyDives20 · 2019-12-05T00:31:37+00:00

This is awesome! To be honest, I really like going out alone, some of my best experiences are from that.

Keep going man!

morningcoffeedumps · 2019-12-05T00:57:06+00:00

Hey man, keep at it. Fail day or win days, your having days, which is more than most people can say.

I'm also doing the challenge too and kinda hit the same bump. Having an accountability partner is key, someone to motivate and egg you on.

I posted a call to wingmen in my city on this subreddit, got a decent response. Maybe try to do the same. There are a lot of dudes in this community looking for a partner to keep them on track.

If in the 1 in a million shot your in Toronto, DM me . Il be down to meet up and exchange notes

dan-tes-inferno · 2019-12-04T07:16:37+00:00

I can't wait to see where you are in a month! Keep it up.

Title	Stylelife Challenge Day 3-30
Author	achoe2
Upvotes	47
Comments	10
Date	December 4, 2019 3:58 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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