The biggest factor in meeting women is probably that you don't have a wingman/friends who don't want to go out.

Going out alone is fun! I've had great nights going out by myself and meeting new people.

I'm still working on talking to women while out, but at least I'm having a great time.

Two main places to go bar/club

  1. The bar: I know this is going to sound ridiculous, but go to a dead bar. Going inside a crowded bar for the first time alone SUCKS. It's noisy, you don't know anyone and the bartender is going to be busy and can't talk really.

Its gonna be a daunting task if its your first time (Trust me I know), but work up the courage and just sit at the bar and order a drink. Make small talk with the bartender and become friends with them! Eventually you'll be introduced to their friends, and their friends of friends. Become a regular, and go there once a week if possible. This doesn't require a lot of money or time, but put in the habit and effort. Trust me, you'll have a blast once you're comfortable there.

  1. The club: Most clubs are going to have an entrance fee, in cash, so prepare your dollars.

Just get inside, order a drink and squeeze yourself into the middle and dance! Nobody cares what you look like, and how you're dressed. Nobody gives a shit if you suck at dancing (Idk what I'm doing) just dance, yell at people (Cause it's loud as hell) , hype them up, and have fun! Going out should never be a chore, but a fun opportunity to socialize and have fun. Don't just stand around and sip on your drink, you literally paid to get in the club and dance! Just have fun, let loose!

Time to discuss our good friend alcohol.

If you're getting hammered and can barely walk, you doing this wrong, and you need to stop. Binge drinking very occasionally is alright, but don't do that every night (If you do you're definitely an alcoholic and need to seek help). Alcohol shouldn't be the main focus to have fun, but as a tool to become more comfortable.

Going out doesn't have to be expensive, don't buy tons of drinks, just one or two for the buzz. Your wallet will appreciate it. And most of the time people around will just buy drinks for you!

Hopefully my guide helps and inspires more to have fun!