How to get better at deflecting playful insults

hunterpua · 2019-12-28T21:25:51+00:00

Don't deflect it, laugh about it.

Listen to it less as a comment on you and more to see how clever, funny, or well timed it is.

The most attractive person is the person who doesn't get affected by petty things and isn't trying to prove himself by trying to come up with better zingers.

Kkai11 · 2019-12-28T21:29:28+00:00

Hey bro, I think I can help you. I grew up in this same situation where we just never teased each other. I used to get offended when guys or girls ragged on me. Now I always have witty comments ready...

Your mindset with this stuff should be “they are having fun and I am having fun”. You can’t think of a response because your locking up because your ego gets in the way... one of my favorite canned lines is “I don’t have a response for that, can we be normal now?” And “wow so the outfit does match the attitude”. Say it in a playful and fun way with a smile.
Second response: pretend you didn’t even hear it “girl says comment”, your response: “so wait, you said you grew up in...” or something..
Don’t be afraid to go overboard at first... if you go too far, better to learn then not have even tried.
Something that really helped me was having empathy for these attractive girls.. remember they get hit on ALL THE TIME. They need to develop these responses to ward off the nice guys who will stalk and annoy them. Show her you are confident and willing to be playful and they immediately open up.

Hope this helps bro, this took me YEARS to figure out.

Edit:

1.if it’s with guys, just laughing it off is a good default response, then when you think of a joke later just throw it back..

Remember guys teasing each other is just their form of showing love, if they joke with you they like you..
If it happens often, simply ignore it. Like pretend you didn’t even hear it and just move on, they will look stupid af.

Insaneflirt_max · 2019-12-29T08:18:07+00:00

Because of this, my strategy in the past would be mostly just to avoid people who insult me and not really fight back — because usually, I don’t care.

Avoidance strategy, coping by being nice, afraid to be mean and conflict, sensitive ego, low self-respect, overall weakness.

Wrap your head however you want around it, but a man who respects himself takes shit from no-one and will hold the pressure, call them out on being a bad person and play the sparring words game. Loose it sometimes and get tooled, it happens, it's OK.

If that's obvious the person wants to pick a fight, be smart and don't escalate. But most people who do that just want to look cooler than you.

Your words have as much value as theirs, even if they are not as mean. The one who wins is the one who isn't trying to seek rapport, not the one who's mean or witty.

"why is your Tshirt so gay ?" "idk, I looked at yours and tried to do less gay lol"

"but it has a weird drawing and you're a moron anyways" "whoa man, there is no need to be such a dick"

If you think you'd be a bad person for having those comebacks, then you need a mindset check. It's all about respecting yourself and holding the pressure.

Treat people the way they treat you. Again, recognize people who are just trying to pick a fight and stay way from those. They will find someone else to pick a fight with and the bouncer will kick them out anyways.

Don't answer nicely to an attack. Be open to make peace once and not twice, but don't let others walk over you.

Edit : If you're talking about friends just teasing you for fun, just laugh it off lol. No pressure, you guys are bros. Right?

dave_spontani · 2019-12-29T08:31:40+00:00

Also a rookie but here is a tip I that works depending on the situation

If a playful insult is thrown your way, agree&amplify. The technique works best when you've already built some rapport with the other person, otherwise they will sometimes just think you are weird.

This takes some quick thinking on the spot, but it can help you regain control of the situation. Agree with the insulting statement and then start adding new elements onto it (amplify) that increasingly get bizarre and unbelievable. Bonus points if you can adapt your voice and mannerisms to play a character to go along with the amplifying, so as to convey that you are pulling their leg.

Small example:

"That is such a boring shirt"

"Caught in the act. I'm the most boring person I know. I usually go home at 5 and then take my pet rocks for a walk before I sit before the TV with a can of liquid piss people call Budweiser"

Make them realize you are joking and laugh about it together afterwards. I usually end my amplifying with a giant grin on my face.

grrinchas · 2019-12-28T22:32:31+00:00

I don’t agree with other comments. Playful insults are insults whether it’s a “neg” or a “banter” or something else. It’s very powerful tool in one’s vocabulary arsenal.

PUAs use them to lower women’s value.

Politicians use them to make opponent arguments less agreeable.

Bullies use them to abuse their victims.

Friends use them to test each other.

Lovers use them to create sexual tension. And so on.

So before dealing with these insults you have to know what your opponent is trying to achieve with that. You can’t always just laugh it off, otherwise you may appear weak, and potential victim for a bullying. My advice is to pay attention to the context and choose your strategy accordingly.

Title	How to get better at deflecting playful insults
Author	HoneyIShrunkThSquids
Upvotes	2
Comments	6
Date	December 28, 2019 9:16 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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