Should I always go for the kiss on the first date?

Igh-notherone · 2020-01-06T19:20:51+00:00

If you're doing proper kino/touch escalation, the answer is always yes.

ImJustSo · 2020-01-06T20:12:46+00:00

When you climb a ladder, do you start on the highest rung, or do you start on the bottom one and start working your way up? If the 9th rung is "kiss" and you're on the 8th, then yeah, you should go onto number 9.

If you stayed on the bottom rung for the entire date, do not jump to the 9th.

smgtn · 2020-01-06T18:17:02+00:00

Did you escalate (kino) and she was receptive? Then yes, otherwise no.

2020-01-06T21:43:23+00:00

No. Make her want it!!! “Wanting it” is the best part ... 2nd date ;)

eng251ine · 2020-01-07T03:22:10+00:00

Don't "go for it." Ask her. She's thought of it or you wouldn't be on a date. But, has she made up her mind? So you can "go for it" or as you are about to depart company...

You pause, turn face to face, gently take both her hands, look her in the eye, and just ask. May I kiss you?

I know it sounds corny, but it works. Watch her eyes. You'll know.

mmattman · 2020-01-06T20:17:20+00:00

It's funny that I used to think of when to kiss all of the time in the past. But as I grew more certain of what my particular attitude should be I went into dates with my mind completely blank.

If you have a particular style such as mine which is more calm, controlled, serious and passionate, I suggest kissing any time you want as long as she maintains eye contact and can keep up with the silence between words during the conversation. It's letting the tension sink in the mind and take over. It's very subtle and slow but for me has shown the best feeling.

2020-01-06T20:17:24+00:00

If kino, yes. Going for a kiss prior to escalation will get you burned. If a girl shows up to first date before me and sets up across a table with all her stuff beside her, creating a barrier, there may not be opportunity for much escalation. In that case, go for second date where you're not seated the whole time

axe122 · 2020-01-07T14:39:36+00:00

Always go for the kiss no matter what, even if she rejects you is better than going home wondering if you’ll get her out again.

I’ve found they think 1of 2 things when you don’t go for this kiss on the first date. You weren’t interested or low confidence when you call her and set up a second date it’s pretty clear which it was.

Even if your withholding as a strategy because so many guys with low confidence did dates like this your gonna get lumped in with them.

I’ve slept with a lot a lot of girls and I don’t think I ever slept with a girl I didn’t at least kiss on the first date,I almost always got ghosted.

I try to sleep with them on the first date every time now. I usually get it and sometimes have to wait for the second or 3rd date but I found trying is important. You have to have a fun date where you connect and flirt don’t interview her! I’ll got for the kiss within 15-20 min and from there escalate further. If she’s on a date with you she already views you as a potential sexual partner so basically youjust have to harness that energy and not make it a plutonic interaction.

Girls go on a first date just seeing what happens they don’t want a relationship or sex even necessarily but they wanna see if you can lead them to the bedroom at some point or they would t even go out with you in the first place.

Sex comes before any form of relationship except plutonic so even if you want connection and all you won’t get that connection if you don’t create it and she doesn’t wanna sleep with you.

That’s why girls won’t go out on a second date they no longer view you as a potential sexual partner cuz you blew it somehow.

2020-01-06T19:54:23+00:00

Yes.

Babayaga20000 · 2020-01-06T19:15:18+00:00

chiminage · 2020-01-06T20:51:41+00:00

You should go for a kiss within the first 20 minutes

Title	Should I always go for the kiss on the first date?
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Date	January 6, 2020 6:01 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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