Going to a girl's place tomorrow that has a boyfriend, we matched on tinder, how should I go by disregarding said boyfriend and score?

swishandswallow · 2015-05-19T14:20:12+00:00

She brought up the boyfriend to shift responsibility on to you, so when you fuck her it's your "fault" because you knew she was in a relationship. But she is going to fuck you. She's definitely going to make sure the roommate isn't there. If she's on Tinder and she's invited you over, then you're practically in her pants. Just keep escalating.

bicepsblastingstud · 2015-05-19T13:55:08+00:00

Her: Mhmm I'm not planning to cheat

Clearly she's thought about cheating with you.

rebuildingMyself · 2015-05-19T14:05:48+00:00

She was on tinder with a boyfriend. She's looking to cheat with the right guy. Anything she says is shit test material only.

The roommate may cause her to ramp up her anti-slut defense. Make sure you isolate her away from that situation before doing anything.

tepper2 · 2015-05-19T14:21:57+00:00

Girl with "boyfriend" matches with another dude on Tinder, mentions cheating and making out. You think she wants to play Scrabble? She will absolutely cheat on him and she's looking for any opportunity.

Go in there and disregard him completely. Don't bother entertaining conversation about him. And if you do f-close, keep it in the back of your mind that this girl will always be a cheater, and should never be upgraded past plate.

In your situation, I'd treat her like a cumdumpster for a couple weeks and cut her off completely at the first sign of shit testing, because she's demonstrating a severe lack of value beyond a warm hole.

redditzoro · 2015-05-19T15:38:37+00:00

Is on Tinder.

Has a boyfriend.

Invites you to her place.

"I'm not planning to cheat."

Okay.

File under: 'Shit Test 101' . This seems pretty straightforward, and unless it's all a ruse for her to murder and eat you, the only possibly way you will leave without getting your dick wet is if you royally fuck up. Seduction, at its simplest level, is about just that: not fucking up. The PUA community and, to a lesser extent, TRP have a habit of overcomplicating something that we've been doing pretty well with for thousands of years. But the difference between our grandfathers' time and today's age of emasculation is that the protocols of sexual attraction have been rewritten by women.

OK, to the matter in hand. I find it hilarious that she throws down the good ol' "I'm shy" line, though is magically able to muster up the courage to invite a random guy off the Internet back to her place, most likely asking her roommate to leave in the process, to actively cheat on her boyfriend. Shy, my arse. If she shit tests you on this, simply agree/disagree and amplify and/or use amused mastery.

Examples:

"I'm shy, too. I've only ever kissed one girl", said with a shit-eating grin.

If she mentions anything about sex: "Who said anything about sex? I'm here to bake cookies with you." Again, say it with a grin.

"Your roommate is out? I see, I get it. I'm stranger and you want to take advantage of me? I'm almost shocked. Almost."

That said, it is important that you do not get too hung up on examples. The message that you give off is what's important. Do your job; that is, lead the interaction, and keep it friendly enough at first then sexulise the conversation. It's obvious what you're both there for, so make it so. If you notice any attempt at a shit test, reframe it and fire it straight back at her. Agree/disagree and amplify, and make her look like the one who is pushing for it. You do this, and women are naturally going to 'push for it' after a certain amount of time, and initiate intimacy and sexual activity with you no matter what. It's their job, after all. Just like it's our job to approach and escalate, it's their job to push for commitment.

Have fun, OP.

redditzoro · 2015-05-19T14:37:50+00:00

You should have replied "allright I will come to your place but we are not having sex". It left her wondering about your intentions, plays with her insecurities (he doesn't like me??). Works wonders.

But do not tell her you will do what she chooses, do not ask her to lead!

Do as usual :

isolate
escalate
"I have a boyfriend", "I know, we shouldn't be doing this"
Fuck her in the ass, take pictures and send them to her boyfriend (joking, don't do that!)

lolwwww · 2015-05-19T13:58:59+00:00

Behave as usual. if the boyfriend topic comes up:

-but I have a boyfriend!!

-yeah, me too (and continue escalating)

or

-we all have our own flaws

worked for me before

1NV0K3R · 2015-05-19T15:24:05+00:00

Alright. I was in this situation before.

GO SLOW. ESCALATION IS KEY. She is not going to want to jump your dick right away. But cuddling, heavy petting, find those erogenous zones that make her breath shallow and her back arch.

I had this shy little nymphet who had an LDR beta bucks and we fucked like rabbits, but she was slow on the uptake because "muh boyfrien" but it was clear as day the way she looked at me she wanted the D.

[deleted] · 2015-05-19T22:07:39+00:00

Two boyfriends... but she's fucked about 27 dudes

aguy01 · 2015-05-19T16:02:15+00:00

Anytime a woman you've recently met lets herself be isolated with you she is thinking about fucking. The only thing that will make her want to not fuck in that case is you.

NickCiufi · 2015-05-19T20:10:50+00:00

Hooking up with chicks that don't want to cheat is a good way to get yourself accused of rape. I'd hard next.

mordanus · 2015-05-19T17:16:17+00:00

Her: Mhmm I'm not planning to cheat

Yes she is. Why do you think she's on tinder? She is shit testing you to see how you respond.

Me: Neither am I

and

Me: I'm not planning anything

Me: You decide what we do silly

You just showed her that you are weak. You let her have the control in this and the attraction went down.

She also said she might be shy and nervous when she's with me

If she wasn't hoping to get with you in a physical way why would she say that? Here's the thing. Women don't plan on cheating. They play stupid so that they can put all the responsibility onto the man. It's the man's responsibility to initiate and so it's his responsibility if she cheats. It is her way of feeding the hamster.

without making it look like a creepy questionnaire

Please get the word "creepy" out of your vocabulary. Creepy means a man who is initiating but the woman doesn't find attractive.

[deleted] · 2015-05-19T19:10:38+00:00

Just pretend she doesnt have a boyfriend, you can do some guilt play when fucking her too.

[deleted] · 2015-05-19T19:11:07+00:00

ugh. She sounds really classy. Be safe dude. All sorts of drama in this. Is your place not an option?

10 bucks says her place is messy.

[deleted] · 2015-05-20T05:12:30+00:00

don't be a cunt. Pretty simple.

night-addict · 2015-05-20T06:58:19+00:00

I have no advice, but you're good with shit tests. Keep it up.

[deleted] · 2015-05-20T16:17:05+00:00

she's gonna take your organs and leave you in a bathtub full of ice, bro

despoticVeracity · 2015-05-21T00:44:52+00:00

RemindMe! 1 day

KaribouLouDied · 2015-05-19T18:11:20+00:00

No honor in what you're doing. But she obviously wants to cheat. It shouldnt be too hard.

Danedina · 2015-05-19T14:53:29+00:00

Hilarious, thanks for sharing. Strategy should be push-pull. Obviosly, try to get some drinks in her so she can blame the liquor.

Title	Going to a girl's place tomorrow that has a boyfriend, we matched on tinder, how should I go by disregarding said boyfriend and score?
Author	redditzoro
Upvotes	21
Comments	41
Date	May 19, 2015 1:38 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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