Obviously, I can always make improvements to my game, my physique, my skills, and my attitude. But despite seriously working out for the past 2 years and taking a dedicated approach to my passions, I recently learned from my girlfriend that she "doesn't think about sex as much anymore".

Specifically, I asked her, "What happened to the girl who used to blow me in the girl's bathroom on our lunchbreaks?", and her response was "I don't know". I asked her if she was still attracted to me and she says yes, but the only thing I can do is take her word for it. I apply a healthy dread game, i.e. hanging out with other people besides her. Bars, clubs, etc. Nothing overt like "Hey better watch out there's girls here!". It's more like, she'll say "Will girls be there?". And I'll say "probably, why?". Things like that.

We see each other every weekend (MD vs VA), and from the 0 - 2.5 year mark, we would fuck around every chance we got. It's been for the past year or so that she slowly stopped initiating completely, and now I am initiating 95% of the time. When I do, she seems relatively content, but I miss the spontaneous blow jobs, the nude pics, etc. I really dont feel the enthusiasm from her anymore. I will note that the dates and the cutesy things have died down a little on my part, but conventional TRP wisdom says it doesn't matter.

Are all relationships doomed to something like this, or no? I don't beg for sex, I'm more confident than I've ever been, and I keep a healthy amount of distance between us. The conventional answers are "therapy, talk about your feelings, choreplay, etc", but we all know that's BS. Is there something I'm missing?