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How can I avoid becoming a girls best friend ?

Danielitoa27 · 2020-08-31T16:40:51+00:00

I read somewhere that talking to a girl about her problems will take you to the friend zone cause this is something they do to there female friends. So if a...

Danielitoa27

August 31, 2020

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Title	How can I avoid becoming a girls best friend ?
Author	Danielitoa27
Upvotes	1
Comments	16
Date	August 31, 2020 4:40 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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There is a difference between trying to please a girl by talking about her problems and expecting sex in return, which is a covert contract made by nice guys, and comforting a girl unconditionally, without expecting something in return by giving her unconditionally and making things easier for her.

3 case scenarios.

1/ She talks about her problems and you try to provide a solution to get her approval -> neediness. Her: "I can't believe my boyfriend just left me"; you: "I'm so sorry, I don't understand why he left you, you are so nice and beautiful."

2/ She talks about her problems and you don't give a fuck but you still want to get laid -> narcissism. Her: "I can't believe my boyfriend just left me"; you: "Can we please talk about something else?".

3/ She talks about her problems and you decide how much you want to invest in them, without expecting something in return -> non-neediness. Her: "I can't believe my boyfriend just left me"; you: "How do you feel? Do you want a hug?".

Of course, if all she does is QQ about her ex and problems, and you are not enjoying your time with her, you have the right to stop talking to her and get less interested in her. Where nice/needy guys are wrong is that they keep investing their time with girls, by expecting something in return, instead of being honest with them and giving them unconditionally + leaving them alone if they are not moving things forward.