Girl i was dating got cold, slept with her ex, then he laughed to her face and told her to fuck off, she came back to me

boobsqueez · 2020-09-08T09:16:35+00:00

I can just say from the start she doesn't respect you as a decent man. She plays with you. If someone I was flirting with told me to fuck off I would be like ggwp. Not to mention she fucks around and lies about it. At least be an adult and talk about it if that hurts you or at least don't lie...

She is fuckable now that her ex is out of picture FOR NOW. That might good material be some anger sex but nothing more as I see it. As you may know, you may be just a part of her game to make her ex jelaous. But bro I wouldn't mess with her at all for now as she doesn't seem healthy. She is broken. A normal girl would know her ex is toxic and wouldn't fuck him straight away while knowing there's a good guy (you, OP) she can hook up with.

I would advise to stay away from her (in a hook up, sexual matter) for now. If you want to make her gf material, you may be her friend and therapeut until she unclings from her toxic past. That is if you see her as a special someone. But bro, there are a lot of girls that are pretty, sexy, smart, perky, good in bed, play videogames and most importantly - respect you. That kind of girl might sit in the corner at the party because she's an introvert... Anyhow, hope this helps. Gl

dewdroe · 2020-09-08T08:01:15+00:00

Lol fuck that shit bro.

Just par her off, If she wants to meet she can come to your place where you can fuck....if not you just focus on yourself.

skullirang · 2020-09-08T08:18:41+00:00

If she's dtf and you really want to get laid why not. I don't get the impression you really want to gf her, however, be warned.

I've been with women like that. They are very manipulative. Under no circumstance should you try and stick around after sex or see her regularly. She will ruin your life. As you'v learned, she's already been fucked up by abusive men in the past and she has a lot of emotional baggage that she will transfer to you.

She seems to be surrounded by bad people and even her best friend is snitching on her. I personally would just walk away from the whole thing, too much bad vibes going around.

SSCookieLover · 2020-09-08T07:55:41+00:00

Go for her my friend cause you look like a great man that can take a bullet for the rest of us.

JefeNumeroUno · 2020-09-08T10:21:04+00:00

It sounds like this girl is playing A lot of games and is not sure what she wants. If you want to be in a relationship with her and she with you, she has to prove to you that she will commit to you, be faithful, and honest.

That being said, NEVER get in a relationship where either you or the other person is not over the EX. They or you will not be able to love someone else until they have moved on from their ex. Trust me I have learned that the hard way from a girl in college. My girl sounded a lot like yours. I had other options and I even wasn't that attracted to her, but she was very forward about her attraction to me and somehow she got me hooked and it was nothing but games and always hit and cold for a good part of 8 months!

One difference was, She was very upfront about her feelings for her ex with me and that she was not sure where things were headed or whether she was going to work things out. (Also making it complicated that her ex was back home and she was at school with me several hours away) she told me she was really into me, but didn't want to start something because of her ex and didn't want to hurt me. That's exactly what happened anyway. It was always hot and cold, one week she would be chasing after me and I would be acting cold, once I got delusional and thought something might happen, I would then chase her the next week and she would play hard to get. It got so bad that I believe we would deliberately hurt each other to get a reaction from the other to see how much we cared about each other. Like how much I could make her cry would tell me how much I meant to her and vice versa. Overall, I'm glad I got away from that and realised how toxic it was, but strangely, I don't know if it was the chase or the wanting what you can't have, but I almost feel like I never completely got over her. Like she was the one who got away.

Keep talking to her if you want, but explore your other options. If she really wants you, let her prove it and let her come to you, but definitely save yourself some pain and headache and don't pursue anything serious without knowing for a fact she is completely over her ex

Chompskyy · 2020-09-08T10:42:33+00:00

This is the most incredibly bright red flag I've seen in a fat minute

startnowstop · 2020-09-08T08:43:05+00:00

Thus is more of a r/relationship kinda thing.

little_asian_man_89 · 2020-09-08T11:21:04+00:00

Look, a lot of people are telling you to drop her faster than Trump drops Epstein...

But talk to her about how you feel, and how you felt betrayed and embarrassed in front of people.

Yeah, she’s going to respond with “I was used and thrown away” etc etc. she’s not wrong. But you also need to make her understand that her actions had you in a bad place.

If you’re willing to give it a try... then do it. But open up a dialogue and be communicative. Don’t play with emotions and don’t ghost.

We’re all still people trying to figure things out as we go along.

quinnmcd · 2020-09-08T14:40:04+00:00

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Title	Girl i was dating got cold, slept with her ex, then he laughed to her face and told her to fuck off, she came back to me
Author	dewdroe
Upvotes	4
Comments	26
Date	September 8, 2020 7:46 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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