Am I a slut? Will I ever find a long term partner?

abdada · 2015-06-18T21:17:48+00:00

Possible troll?
Not a slut. High sex drive doesn't label one a slut. Having too many sexual experiences in too short a time frame can label on a slut.
Maybe you're looking for the wrong kind of guy. Define "LTR" -- what needs do you have other than sexual when it comes to what a guy provides in your life?

blackedoutfast · 2015-06-19T01:50:03+00:00

LOL I'm not sure if you're a troll, but I know you are definitely not an 8/10 if dudes give up that easily. These scenarios sound more like a 5 who thinks she's an 8.

edwardhwhite · 2015-06-19T00:41:17+00:00

Hold out for a real boyfriend. TRP is about transformation. You can also transform. Become what you want. If you want a certain type of guy, make yourself the type of woman that type of man likes.

itsnadya101 · 2015-06-19T04:03:21+00:00

The problem is is that the men you are having sex with/doing things sexually with don't get the opportunity to get to know the other side of you because you're giving this up too easily.

When you meet a man, make sure you introduce yourself in the most feminine way possible and tell a guy about your passions and interests.

This adds to your value and heightens your SMV.

Any guy can get sex. What is it that makes YOU special?

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CisWhiteMaelstrom · 2015-06-18T21:33:28+00:00

Yes you're a slut. You're trying to keep men around with just your sexuality. All of those interactions you've given were done with the expectation that they'd stick around. You're offering nothing but your sexuality. Fortunately, you're partner count is still low so you can save yourself. Go to redpillwomen to figure out exactly what you're doing wrong.

wonsnot · 2015-06-19T13:03:54+00:00

You are not alone. There are a lot of women that go through this and come out just fine. The ones i know have gone one of two ways either they turn into sluts to make up for lost time, or they hold out and accidentally find Mr right. Most of my female friend from high school that got married in or just out of high school are getting divorced, so don't push a relationship because you think you are short on time. I think for your attitude, you are looking for men in all the wrong places.

When you hear the advice to just be yourself and you will find love, it doesn't mean to give up or don't try, just going along like you aren't trying to find someone, it means you need to be doing the things that you enjoy in a social setting. If you are doing things to meet guys that aren't something you want to do for the rest of forever, you are looking in the wrong place. What are some things you are passionate about? Things you couldn't go a month without doing? A week? A day? These things are what you need to be doing in the most social way possible. You'll find friends, male and female that are passionate about the same things. That is what you build long term relationships on. That said, take a look at what is written in the sidebar of this sub, it will give you an excellent account of how most male/female interactions go. What the most common male and female drives and thoughts. If you are in fact not a troll and are being honest, you do not fit in the norm. That is not to say you can't change at any time.

I really understand where you are coming from though. I'm 26 and never had a girlfriend. I will admit that i have orbited quite a bit in my time, after becoming aware of the red pill i do that much less often though. Take some time and read the sidebar. It will give you a lot of insight into what you are thinking and why, and like a lot of people on here are saying, go check out the red pill women. This is something a bit more up their alley.

erniesmoove · 2015-06-18T21:45:05+00:00

Sounds like a troll.

lordofthejelly · 2015-06-18T23:11:58+00:00

OP's post history would indicate either a long con, or not a troll

OP, as others have said, go check out /r/RedPillWomen. They can help you more than we can

Tumeric25 · 2015-06-19T02:14:38+00:00

Nope, good guys are out there...fortunately for you a lot of TRP will show you the kinds of players you need to avoid and to what extent they will try to use game tactics and dread game to get you to sleep with them. Well done for not having a ONS when you easily could've fallen into that trap. At least you've learned the easy way that guys will try to do everything to get in your pants when they don't mean anything at all, and not when you've slept with loads of them to learn that.

First of all, STOP going back to a guy's place (or letting him into yours) if you've only just met them and don't intend to sleep with them. You will slip up one day. Save the oral too for people who aren't randoms. It's not worth the guilt of knowing you've turned them down for something they really wanted, so don't put yourself in that situation.

As they say, hit the sidebar, both TRP and RPW. You already seem to have really good self-control when it comes to sex, you probably should extend that self control to oral too - your future partner will be pleased you weren't on the CC, so don't fold to the pressure. Continue reading TRP so you know what types of players to avoid and their tactics.

And it is VERY important you read up on RPW. Don't make your future guy wait if you're not worth waiting for, but make him glad he stuck around because now you'd do anything for him and make his needs your priority. But stick to your guns about not putting out until you're in a committed relationship. Your ability to pair-bond with guys diminishes with every guy you sleep with so don't waste it on some player who can no longer pair-bond because he's dipped it in triple digits of splooge. And be clear about it within the first few dates as well so he can decide if it's something he can accept or not. You may not get a lot of follow up dates after that but stick to it because it weeds out those who weren't really serious about you in the first place.

Bring something else to the table than your sexuality. Bring something else to the table than your sexuality. Bring something else to the table than your sexuality. Can't stress this enough. Don't be an entitled princess. Don't show your sexuality first without showing other aspects bc that's all the guys will see if that's what you present to them first.

As for kids, that may be a tricky one as most (TRP) guys will only get married for kids and sex. Take away the kids and it's possible that you'll be used for only sex until you get chucked away for that next new thing that's willing to bear his kids. Of course, that's probably why you posted this in askTRP instead of RPW, to get a male perspective on whether there're guys who don't want kids but want a LTR?

Oh, and don't be a golddigger. Guys aren't ATM machines so don't treat them that way. We have enough of those bitches already ruining our good men and that's why we're in this whole mess in the first place.

Don't string them along for meals and stuff and at least offer to pay for your stuff until you're sure your in it for the long term. If you're not/don't like him enough, tell him as soon as possible so he can go find someone else more compatible.

Hope this helps!

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Title	Am I a slut? Will I ever find a long term partner?
Author	kataraisme
Upvotes	0
Comments	40
Date	June 18, 2015 9:13 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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