My boyfriend HATES lingerie (and seduction in general?). It’s been my go-to way to turn on past partners. What else can I do?

cyrusol · 2020-09-15T23:12:27+00:00

Being dominant doesn't make someone hate being seduced, lol.

Personally I cannot understand why anyone would not be turned on by lingerie and getting seduced.

newsknowswhy · 2020-09-15T20:57:34+00:00

This is his own personal taste. It's kind of like asking how can I make my boyfriend like green beans?

The best you can do is let him be himself and you be yourself. This is not something you can really compromise. Compromise is more like picking what to watch on Netflix.

This might be a compatibility issue.

appmanga · 2020-09-16T03:11:43+00:00

I'm also one of those guys who doesn't care for lingerie but I wouldn't be spitting on your efforts because it appears to be very meaningful for you. I love seeing a woman in a camisole or even one of my shirts. For some reason, that does it for me more than lingerie.

Is there anything I can do to get him out of his head?

Probably not. To be honest, he doesn't sound like much of a partner. He's actually ignoring you. That's not being dominant, that's being an asshole. You're expending a lot of energy on someone who doesn't seem to appreciate it, and it's causing you stress.

What else can you do? Please try to find someone who'll respect and appreciate you. This guy doesn't sound like he will.

Good luck.

Deepthought27 · 2020-09-16T04:03:35+00:00

Talk to him about it, find something that works for both of you. Find some new dick if it's too much of a problem🤷🏾‍♂️

excentrik-art · 2020-09-15T22:37:15+00:00

Okay I am quite like you BF, I am also not a fan of lingerie.

But reason is different. I find it cheap. Thinking that just by putting on some type of kinda revealing clothes will make me aroused is an idea I find nearly offensive.

I would say that the seduction you are used to, and that worked on your previous men is not going to work here. I am an experienced man, and if some less experienced lady would try to seduce me via common methods like dance, strip, lingerie, kissing, touching, ... she would fail misserably.

This is not a matter of dominance, but I have seen it so many times it is not working anymore. Even with lot of romantic feelings.

2020-09-16T06:06:55+00:00

Dump that bastard sweetie! 😘

2020-09-19T08:50:01+00:00

I think the idea that you intentionally trying to "seduce" him makes it unnatural and artificial to him. I get the vibe of performative and not spontaneous sex from your post which is a turn off.

Title	My boyfriend HATES lingerie (and seduction in general?). It’s been my go-to way to turn on past partners. What else can I do?
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Date	September 15, 2020 8:51 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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