Why do I seek reaction? Why do I want to impress her? Why do I want her to give me validation that I'm good?

2021-01-24T16:39:12+00:00

This post/comment has been removed because it violates Rule #5: The topic is too broad, has been covered a lot already, or involves the assumption overly limited by race, age, physical limitations/appearance, and/or other inborn external qualities.

Put in some reading & work before asking questions that have been addressed, like: * How do I approach? * How do I get a number? * How do I talk to girls at college? * How/When do I kiss a girl? * Does this really work?

As for the last one, it is an answered question. There have been many posts on physical limitations over the years, including this one. No need to re-ask it.

johnbugara · 2021-01-24T07:14:37+00:00

stop trying to impress her and try and see if she is truly impressing you. dont wonder if you'll be good enough to have sex with her and just know that if she chooses to you'll show her a great time. if she doesnt it's her that's missing out and on to the next one. stop pursuing as soon as they dont reciprocate interest, and reward them when they do. you arent in this to get sex from them. you're in this because you have a lot to offer them if they choose to have sex with you. by not putting yourself out there and pursuing women you're potentially robbing women of the opportunity of a great time or a perfect match. drill this mentality into your brain.

itssodiumchloridee · 2021-01-24T04:41:59+00:00

Uh, your first paragraph made little sense to me, but if someone has said they don't want to have sex I don't really think you should be putting any emphasis on changing their mind, lmao.

And if you're having trouble getting it up or staying turned on, maybe it's not the right person, maybe you need to step back and work on self confidence, or it might be a medical issue.

How to get over rejection? Same thing really, take a step away from the situation where you were rejected and take action to improve your self confidence in yourself & your life. Understand why you got rejected and try not to take it personally.

I also don't think you want to have no filter because you'll just come across as obnoxious and rude which won't get you what you want either.

Sounds to me like all of this is a self confidence issue more than anything else. Examine what makes you uncomfortable with yourself - change what you can change, and make peace with what you can't.

iron_ee · 2021-01-24T06:35:42+00:00

you take things too seriously. it's supposed to be fun

whatskeeping · 2021-01-24T04:45:13+00:00

Gotta chill Dude.

2021-01-24T06:29:31+00:00

I dunno, don't look for external sources for self esteem?

Title	Why do I seek reaction? Why do I want to impress her? Why do I want her to give me validation that I'm good?
Author	prodapt75
Upvotes	15
Comments	11
Date	January 24, 2021 4:33 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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