So hey what’s up again guys. Just wanted to share my instadate i had last week. I drafted this the day it happened so everything’s in present tense. I had a lotta fun vibing and being in the moment.

So today I went daygaming with a wing and we were out in the freezing fucking cold man. But hey we did our thing. I was approaching all day getting barely anywhere but I approached a lotta chicks and was getting warmed up.

Anyway it’s just about dark and me and buddy we’re gonna travel somewhere else to game, and just about when we were near the train station I spotted this cute girl. I just went for it and next thing you know I’m walking with her to a donut shop. We vibed about a lotta shit.

We get there and she’s picking up food she ordered. And I get something cuz I wanna eat some donuts too. I did a little test to see how interested she was. I really wanted to see if she’d walk away after getting her order or wait for me. She stayed. After that we’re still walking around talking and I’m tryna get logistics.

I took her to Starbucks and we got some coffees. I can’t remember but I think I lightly touched her on her shoulder here(maybe that was later or I didn’t until I hugged her). I suggest we sit in the park. We did and had a vibey conversation. I was making her laugh and I was learning a lot about her. I was feeling good in this interaction. There were quiet moments as wel of course but still even in silence felt good.

Anyway we finish the coffees and this is when I started to see if I can pull to her place. So I had asked where she lived earlier in the interaction. So I brought it up again in the interaction. I’m being really bold here lol. I usually am not this persistent. But I had a date the week prior, and this chick hooked pretty quickly so I guess I’m getting used to being a certain way.

I said “I wanted to explore the neighborhood haven’t been there in a while”. She said “how if I live here so long”. I said it’s different now, gentrification, lol. Anyway she called her roommates/?. And was trying to see if she could have company. Apprarently they said no. So logistics were fucked from there.

I tried to pull her to a hotel. I suggested we go to a hotel bar. She didn’t wanna do that. So after a little bit more conversations and tryna confirm when I can come over, we split. I gave her a hug was tryna kiss but didn’t force it.

After my attempt kiss her she then called herself awkward, (qualifying herself). We split after the hug and I went to go find my wing.

Just to let you guys know, I was trying to link with her but nothing really came of it so far. I’m gonna hit her up again soon but this is starting to look like a flake. Think I need to work on text game tbh.

I’m open to criticism and tips for next time.

Positives - good shit on pushing it as far as you can. I spent about an hr wit her. Like that was good. - good job on raising the vibe when it seemed like it was dying down. When that happened, I usually noticed something in the environment and commented or just took something she said earlier and refer to that in convo.

What I learned: - this isn’t necessarily something I learned in this set but I after hearing opinions on my vibe. I was always afraid of scaring someone because of my appearance. I thought I was too serious. What my wings say is that I calibrate with people, and I can make them feel comfortable which is good. - you don’t have to wait for a date to start escalation. I don’t mean necessarily sex, or kiss, but just to lead her to other places and make it like a date. Instadates are the best. - don’t worry about the pull let the pull reveal itself within the reaction but capitalize when it does. - you’re whole goal is to get her to invest and maybe even qualify.

What I can do better: - getting my own place. I coulda pulled her had I had my own place. I’m almost positive it woulda worked. Like dg, I’m in comfort zone of a living situation. - staying quiet in those quiet moments. I feel like I broke the silence every time. We wouldn’t talk for like a minute but I’d notice something in the environnement and make a comment and a new thread would start. It’s good to solidify and talk but not every time (but good I’m talking more and exposing more of my personality) - take more action and being even bolder - not asking “hey you wanna go into Starbucks” and say instead “Let’s go into Starbucks”, “Let’s sit in the park”