Does it ever 'just happen' naturally with girls or does it always feel a bit like you've had to plan and execute?

MasterTeacher123 · 2021-02-01T02:02:07+00:00

For the vast majority of men, you kinda have to make it happen both in the initial approach and sex. That doesn’t mean like run down and chase but you gotta put yourself out there lol. A girl can think your handsome and would potentially sleep with you but you gotta close the deal.

A good example is this girl ive been dating now for a month. She was over my house on a date eating a home cooked meal which she pretty much invited herself so you know she was cool with some action. After we were cuddling on the couch and you can tell she was waiting for me to make the move. Eventually I said f it put my hand in her shirt and that got the ball rolling(didn’t have sex just a blowjob but still)

lesterleone · 2021-02-01T09:20:39+00:00

Its "just happened" for me a few times. Most recent was with a coworker. Can't remember exact details but i snatched her pen jokingly n did the keep away thing for a sec by holding it high n using my arm length. Anyway, she got too close, lost her balance n pretty much falls into my body. Idk what it was but the way our bodys crashed was sexual n made us make eye contact immediately, both shocked af. After that split second shock it went away n we must've both looked like a glass of water in a desert to eachother cuz we started tryna swallow eachother face lmao we were like wild animals. We were in a hallway on the way back to our training class so it didn't get past kissing right then but whatta fkn moment!

After a while of working on my game n constantly practicing, i started doing alot of what i learned unconsciously. Kinda makes that story make more sense. I think a way to make it less exhausting is to change what u think of who you are. Like when I read u gotta be touchy, instead of making an attempt to be touchy, i became a touchy person. Instead of tryna act fun, I made myself become a fun person. Instead of tryna flip a switch, I became it. Idk if that makes sense

Shadow__Account · 2021-02-01T13:47:14+00:00

With my last longterm relationship the initial kissing was movielike and just happened, we were just drawn together and it felt super natural, there were no moves or game. That being said, I recognize the "exhausting" feeling. The girl in that particular relationship was really physical and always cuddling so there were no "moves" to make because she was always already in my personal space.
Nowadays I am kind of annoyed that I find myself in situations where I had sex multiple times with someone and I still have to be on point and make "moves" like the girl sits 3 feet away from me and the escalation/seduction is almost like it was on the first second/ third date.

On topic, I think "just happened" to a girl means, you escalated the kino gradually, it seems girls are less aware of it being sexual, so to them it's like you are suddenly kissing each other out of nowhere and she is getting turned on.

While we as autistic fuckers were already aware of the progression since we made first eye contact.

I feel your question and I am just sharing my thoughts, don't have a clear cut answer. I feel over time certain aspects of my game regarding making moves definitely have become much more natural, but generally it depends on the dynamic, I mean I can have sex with a girl while I am still not totally comfortable and myself around her just by gaming, when I do this I will have those conscious decisions as you say much more like: ok, I'm going to kiss her now.

Lately since I am kind of annoyed like I said with the whole thing, I take much longer till I Kiss and have sex and I am sort of accepting that it takes a while for me to get comfortable with a woman. So I had 2 dates with girls and didn't even kiss them, I end up having sex with them eventually anyway so personally I am not worried about being friend zoned, the only negative would be that I am not willing to leave my comfortzone by waiting till I am very comfortable and things happen more "naturally" so for now I think I will consciously choose whether I will get out of my comfortzone a lot or if I let it play out more naturally in a case by case way. Long rant, just sharing my thoughts.

MakeSail · 2021-02-01T04:23:39+00:00

The phrase "it just happened" usually references social safety in relation to the woman's peer group. As you said, not to be labeled a slut. It's not really society that is the concern or driver, it is the woman's immediate peer group.

imsexc · 2021-02-01T05:40:35+00:00

Your plan is: set appointment for hang out and physical meeting, kino in public, isolate, escalate in isolation, and fvck. Details of how should be improvised based on current situation. Sexual hint and intention should be clear, but not spoken. So she could say to anyone, it just happened. Take the blame, and you'll be rewarded.

2021-02-01T06:58:38+00:00

If she wants you far, far more than you want her then it may seem like it "just happened" because you both didn't have to try and you were also never going to say no.

ModernMales · 2021-02-01T10:06:13+00:00

I think as a man everything is on you early in the interaction (before sex) most of the times. Women are way less invested because they have way more to lose from a pregnancy obviously. Which means that you have to make the moves. If you are inexperienced with women especially when it comes to getting physical/sexual you will usually be uncomfortable doing the moves. However the more often you do it the more natural it feels. Like with everything you need to practice something to the degree where you do it without thinking about it (auto pilot of your brain) to truly master it.

mightymite88 · 2021-02-01T23:59:08+00:00

sometimes. but the more you practice with a plan the better you'll be without one.

Title	Does it ever 'just happen' naturally with girls or does it always feel a bit like you've had to plan and execute?
Author	faithinstrangers92
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Date	February 1, 2021 1:54 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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