Need a lil advice

DaygameCode · 2024-04-16T11:46:40+00:00

As soon as you tell a woman, “Let me know if you are not interested”… It’s over. It doesn’t matter if she says it’s not that i am not interested. It all goes downhill from that moment. Those words are not original at all, they have been said over and over to women who don’t respond or seem distant. And it never goes well after that. The answer she gave you, is nothing but the typical “it’s not you, it’s me”. Sure she is busy with her kid and whatever, don’t doubt that. But she isn’t busy to hug her gym partner and spend time. So she makes time for what she prioritises, and has no time for what she doesn’t prioritise. The resentment in a guy for a woman never leads to anything positive with said woman.

It’s always the same story. Not even an original one.

1 - The woman goes distant

2 - the guy feels the interest fading,

3 - he wants answers so he pressures her to make a decision about him

4 - The woman claims she is still interested, but adds an “It’s not you, it’s me” excuse.

5 - The guy assumes it really is true the excuse, when in reality she is just not interested but she will never admit or recognise that to him no matter how much the guy pressures her to “just say it”.

6 - The woman does the slow fade, continues to answer here and then, but never commits towards meeting up and if she agrees to a date, she ends up cancelling last minute.

7 - The guy continues building up more and more frustration and resentment because the woman doesn’t do what he wants.

8 - The woman either stops replying until the guy just gives up on his own because he can’t handle it anymore. Deep down he hates that she wasn’t clear and honest about her lack of interest with him.

9 - But the woman doesn’t care about that, in her mind she did right and will continue to do it that way no matter how many guys complain to her about that slow fade tactic.

10 - The guy hates women, behaves like an Incel and turns to red-pill subs to cope with his anger.

Important_Tip_6181 · 2024-04-15T19:40:52+00:00

I'd say to lay off the pressure and try getting to know her via text, phone calls, and video chats first since she is busy. Schedule any of these so it shows that you're considerate of her busy schedule. When you're chatting with her, make it low pressure, don't try to convince her to go out more than one or two times to show that you consider her feelings. As you get to know her through these calls, I'd say she might be more comfortable in creating plans in the long run.

If your recent text was lengthy, for example an entire paragraph about how your night was, then that might explain why she hasn't responded. She's probably already overwhelmed by life and doesn't have the energy to respond with equal effort and doesn't want to leave you with a short text.

Spiritual-Smoke-9498 · 2024-04-16T05:51:54+00:00

Ok. Nobody is busy dude.

Bill gates, Trump, Elon Musk, Ariana Grande & Arnold Schwarzenegger could all come meet you for three hours today if they wanted too. But they don’t want too, they have other ~priorities~.

So that’s first thing.

Second thing, the line “I feel you aren’t interested” never works. It doesn’t make her interested… and you might be lied too in response to that.

Third, it just feels hard and complex. Don’t play that game is all.

Fourth, she already has a kid, that makes you a ~motherfucker~ and a ~loser~.

So in the end, she ~is~ interested, as proved by the message that she checked in you. She has low interest… and I promise you the same girl would ditch cinema to go on her knees to suck another guy she likes more.

What will work is to mirror her level of interest and socialize, but that’s not my suggestion.

My suggestion is to say, hey, here are my expectations and wants in our relationship, and I want to see you more often; to which she will likely say some bullshit and not live up to your expectations but now they are clear and set, and then you can move on leaving a door open for her… door that hopefully will be closed somewhere down the line cuz you’re hitting on other girls.

You’re gonna have too listen to your emotions and learn to slowly trust yourself, you feel she has low interest that’s all you need, you don’t need her approval of it; and yes it indeed it reflects objective reality, interested girl have “time”…. And it feels good and easy going.

And then it becomes complex because she is interested, but is that what you want, to be the second grade motherfucker to that bitch filled with problems.

Title	Need a lil advice
Author	Throwaway1244588
Upvotes	2
Comments	8
Date	April 15, 2024 7:16 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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