I am only 19 so I don't really know much about most things, but I know if I'm with a man I would like a more "traditional" relationship (me doing the womanly things and him taking care of me and doing the manlier things) I have my reasons for this. But I also just honestly feel like no matter what, even if I had a "50/50" relationship it would just never be equal..

I feel I'd still be the one doing most of the womanly things, (cleaning childcare etc) so why would I want that for myself while also having to work and not feel taken care of which is what I feel I need to feel safe and happy in a relationship.

Also the reason I feel that way too, is because I have also heard stories from women where the men act like they can't do certain things properly or do a bad job purposely or just don't try knowing she will end up. Same with childcare. I don't want that while also having to struggle working and coming home to do more.

However, I have also seen women in these kinds of relationships (more traditional) and she is unhappy and overworked. I don't want that either...! I want someone who genuinely cares about me and can afford for me to be able to treat myself and self care days etc. I grew up around that type of relationship and always was never interested as there was also alot of abuse. But now I'm older and know if I don't put up with certain behaviour I won't have to suffer.

I would like to maybe work part time doing something i enjoy as I have a few girly things I'd be interested in doing and making a small business out of.... But if I'm in a relationship, I want to be fully looked after financially - and I of course would want him to be happy too. I have no interest in using a man or anything like that but I also won't get used hence to why I have these standards.

Does it even exist though?... I want a true connection where we are both happy, and for him to actually care about me and making sure I'm okay even if something happened.

Sorry if I rambled on but how do you ladies ensure you will be okay if you're dependant on a man? Did he do something to make sure? If so, what is it?? I want to have all of those things for my own peace of mind. 😊 It's not in an entitled way either, I'm just trying to look out for myself and my figure children! Part of me even feels like I'd want him to pay me a certain amount per month and have the rest as spending money but maybe that's not doable idk. But I want him to want to do that for me. I don't understand how a man can care about you if he doesn't do all of that (make sure his woman is OK)

I made this post because I'm scared to fully rely on a man, I want to know any things women or their partner has done to ensure the woman has security no matter what! I truly believe if a man cares about you he'd want that for you.