Looking forward to improving myself

Jironasaurus · 2024-07-19T21:59:29+00:00

The nervous energy comes from you believing that you are going to mess up the interaction, or you are not good enough for your date. So you should be fixing that instead. This is a mindset problem.

norwegiandoggo · 2024-07-19T21:12:34+00:00

Go on 100 first dates

Western-Month-3877 · 2024-07-19T21:20:10+00:00

Say “goosfrabaa” and get your bat ready.

Haha just kidding.

You gotta find out the root cause, what makes you nervous? When you talk to older people? Or when the person is hot? Eliminate the root cause and the symptoms will be gone.

GymBroTRT · 2024-07-19T21:22:48+00:00

She should be the one being nervous that you might reject her. See, you guys go into these dates or approaches being so desperate to make it work, to be liked, to be approved of, to get sex, that you give women all the power.

What did you do to vet her? What are your deal breakers? What would make you reject her? If nothing, then you have a lot of work to do on yourself. Stop treating them like they are infallible, or just because they have a pussy you have to jump through every hoop. If you don’t believe you have anything of value that women need and want, then you have bigger problems.

epimpstyle · 2024-07-21T09:53:27+00:00

Long story short she found my nervous energy unsexy,

How do you know this? I doubt you were nervous the whole date because the nervousness disappears after the first 5-10 minutes. The more you talk to her the better. I doubt it was because of your nervous energy, it must be something else, maybe the age difference is indeed a real problem or maybe she thought you looked more mature than your age... who knows?

MouseAware809 · 2024-07-21T13:17:44+00:00

When you are feeling that nervous energy, especially if you feel it before a date. Focus on it, nothing else, then every 5 seconds make a mental note of it being "same" or "changing".

It should change.

Other tricks include asking yourself "If I was confident, how would i feel right now, behave right now".

Or visualise a hologram of a confident version of yourself and step into it.

I could go on. There are loads of ways to work on your inner game.

Also.... MEDITATE. Even if only for 5 minutes a day.

Of course, you could do none of these and keep doing what you have always done and get what you have always got.

Title	Looking forward to improving myself
Author	fus_ro_dude
Upvotes	1
Comments	15
Date	July 19, 2024 9:03 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/1e7eexw/looking_forward_to_improving_myself/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/looking-forward-to-improving-myself.1524754 https://theredarchive.com/post/1524754

Comments