In my life, I have been in many different populations from almost all white to almost all black. Many of the racist people will not come out and say “I am racist” Just like many misandrists won't just say “I hate men” but you can tell. My experience with racist white men has been a much more comfortable one than interacting with many of the women I have encountered.
So from racist men, the worst I have experienced is condescending remarks and mostly being left out of their groups. However, from women, I have been called names, have had things stolen and told to man up about it, been physically threatened, have had my pain and trouble literally laughed at, been told that men are useless and terrible by people who were my “friends”, my mental health and cries for help have been completely ignored by female family members, been forced into sex after saying no dozens of times, been rejected by women in unnecessarily cruel ways, been objectified by women for black stereotypes (black and non-black woman), been gaslit and blamed for things I never did, also been condescended to in more hostile was than the racists, and excluded as well.
I must say, these usually come from women of any race. I haven't noticed much of a difference in the way non-black women and black women treat me in terms of the level of contempt they seem to have. Both groups treat me worse than racist men.
Most racist people are comfortable keeping it to themselves. They are often very condescending but surprisingly a lot of them are open to becoming more friendly if you prove that their ideas of black stereotypes are just stereotypes. That is to say, they are usually just ignorant people who have literally never met a black person before so their only idea of us has come from the media.
However, many women will not adjust their treatment of you if you don’t fit into their ideas of what men are like. No matter how you act, they will stay firm in their beliefs that you are bad and wrong and your attitude must really be just for some hidden motive. It can’t be that their ideas of men are very inaccurate. It has to be that the man is hiding something. It can't be that you genuinely try to be a good person. It has to be that you're secretly evil. They are literally more willing than racist people to assume the worst intent for any action.
To put it simply, women of all races seem to be more close-minded, judgmental and hateful to men than racist people are to black people. It’s very sad. I’ve done nothing but try to be respectful and kind to women and been treated like my existence isn't welcome and I don't matter.
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