I'm a decently good looking guy, 6'1 blind hair blue eyes, okay style. I have a fair amount of body count for my age. The issue is that those mostly happend when I was still consuming alcohol and when I put myself in places I was going to be surrounded with females in hostels etc.

Since I've been sober I've noticed I don't get layed anymore, I now want to be sober and be able to approach woman in the streets and make something happen. I've cold approached before but still don't do it enough and let opportunities slip cause of hesitation.

I also generally feel a bit too tense compared to other times I was hanging out with a female. I'm quite balsy and know how to behave around a girl when on a date and make stuff happen, but its like that all goes out of the window when i do a cold approach.

I dont know the appropriate steps to take or how to open them. I would love some openers from you guys that dont involve "hey you're cute" but more personal ones with some push pull or at least not that overly giving her the power but still keeping it man to woman.

Also how to Segway into meeting up with her? Do I ask for her hobbies or what she does? The times I've gotten a number usually turned to nothing and my understanding is thats because i just randomly asked for it with no prior ideas of why i was getting it, what we could do together...

So this all, and the general fear, i just dont approach at all sometimes...

Any help or advice on cold approach welcome🙌🏼