My husband all the sudden thinks it's okay to be married and see other women. I love him but can't accept this. Need advice

FastLifePineapple · 2024-09-16T02:33:46+00:00

OP, please edit your post on what you have applied from four months ago when you last sought out this subreddit for advice:

Husband wants a one sided open relationship what do I do?

Your last thread was locked under, "Problems Beyond The Scope of RPW" for physical, emotional, and mental abuse. And our last moderator advised,

"OP, we can't deal with the fallout of your relationship for you, whether you choose to stay or leave. Please seek in person help, and take care."

zaftig_stig · 2024-09-16T02:07:01+00:00

I would believe him when he tells you what he wants.

You need to decide if this is a dealbreaker for you and from what you’ve shared it sounds like it is.

I would def be tested for STD’s and since you mentioned your great sexual chemistry, stop having sex with him until you’ve decided what you can live with.

I would advise honoring yourself first but you need to define what that looks like for you.

CountTheBees · 2024-09-16T01:58:18+00:00

INFO: Do you have children with him? Are you financially dependent on him?

lightintheforest13 · 2024-09-16T02:18:59+00:00

Let your morals guide you and you can’t go wrong. He’s breaking his vows. You are not obligated to stay. There seems to be no good reason to stay even if you do have children. Children do best with two healthy, happy parents not just by having two parents under the same roof. I can understand the pain… but I think you really need to realize this has nothing to do with you not being enough and more to do with him not being satisfied. You need to develop your own self worth and stay true to who you are. You can’t follow a captain who is sailing your ship right into a storm. It may hurt for now but you’re saving your self from a world of hurt in the future.

pinacoladathrowup · 2024-09-16T02:17:19+00:00

You ARE enough, don't be with someone who treats you as if you are one of those "side girlfriends," rather than his wife. That is not love and it is not what God wants, you're right. A good man treats his wife with the same respect she gives to him because he loves her and wants to protect her. Not only is he not giving you basic respect, he's committing adultery.

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Title: My husband all the sudden thinks it's okay to be married and see other women. I love him but can't accept this. Need advice

Author elvenpossible

Full text: The problem is my husband ( been married over 4 years) has cheated on me many times and now is saying he wants me to accept that I'm his wife and he will have side girlfriends.

The only reason he has acknowledged the cheating is because i caught him. If i never caught him he'd never have come clean. He is not sorry or remorseful and says i have to accept he is a high value alpha male and cheating on me isnt a big deal and i should be grateful.

He watches a lot of what I understand is red pill content for men (tate brothers). I never married him with this as part of our relationship, we were clear about monogamy and faithfulness. Now he's saying now he's changed his mind about it and if i leave i'm breaking us up. I am conflicted to divorce because he has told me he won't stop but wants to stay married because he loves me. I honestly see my part of the problem is not knowing to stay or go. Sometimes I'm really mad and make him stay elsewhere and other times I miss him so bad I want him back but expect him to change and he's telling me he won't.

I am a very conservative Christian woman and value morality. I'm conflicted because I love him so much and he has a lot of really good qualities: he works, is educated, intelligent, attractive, good sexual chemistry, strong and tall....but it isn't what God wants nor is it healthy because it hurts to know I wasn't enough.

If you were in my shoes what would you advise? Am I ungrateful if I leave.

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Title	My husband all the sudden thinks it's okay to be married and see other women. I love him but can't accept this. Need advice
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Date	September 16, 2024 1:50 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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