What should I know?

captainchippsixx · 2024-10-16T17:50:14+00:00

Staying together unhappy is the worst thing for your kid. You don’t want your kid to get older and fall into a marriage based on what she saw. So consult an attorney so you know how it will go. Then write the plan and work the plan. You should never give her a heads up until you’re ready to giver her the papers and possibly move out.

Low_Distribution5188 · 2024-10-16T13:21:26+00:00

Is your marriage sexless?.. I'm at month 38 without sex from my wife...and yes we are in the divorce process..

ramad84 · 2024-10-14T22:11:13+00:00

its gonna hurt, but the longer you wait the more it hurts.

check state laws - it hurts alot more after 10 years in some states - lifetime alimony

Beamformer · 2024-10-14T20:20:52+00:00

My job involves tackling hard problems and not giving up. I often have succeeded because of persistence and a refusal to quit trying. I realized at some point that I had pretty much handled my marriage the same way..ie just keep on trying. It was a mistake, and I regret what I lost because of it.

No-Tomorrow8150 · 2024-10-14T19:52:53+00:00

Try therapy but be careful on choosing a therapist. Sometimes they will make it worse. But do try because divorce just exchanges one set of problems with others. But if you don’t see improvement and are unhappy then it is a tough decision that needs to be made. Staying in an unhealthy relationship can be worse for your kid (but that depends). But your comment on afford a split seems odd. It only gets more expensive the longer you wait.

TotoroRises · 2024-10-14T18:28:19+00:00

Therapy. Both of you. If not even for yourselves, do it for the sake of your kid. Remember this: separation and divorce is not a magic bullet. It can get worse. Not necessarily, but it’s far better if you can fix it through therapy, and it takes two to make it work.

If there’s absolutely no way to fix it (which believe me most of the time there is) then go ahead with separation.

Just personal opinion.

Title	What should I know?
Author	DILF7887
Upvotes	8
Comments	15
Date	October 14, 2024 6:06 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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