Got a date for the first time in forever, help a guy out

krisvl5000 · 2024-10-15T17:04:47+00:00

I know it’s easier said than done, but try to be outcome independent and just aim at having a good time. With some eye contact and slight playful banter you are already doing more than great. Good luck!

HomelessMilkman · 2024-10-15T19:26:59+00:00

Try to fuck it up. Seriously.

Ironically, trying to 'do well' makes you nervous, hesitant, etc. because you're putting so much pressure on yourself to perform that you'll just be stifled. That's why guys aren't 'good' at this.

Giving yourself the freedom to express yourself with irreverance is true 'no expectations', is a lot more fun, you come across much better, etc. That's what confidence and self-esteem is, trust.

I mean, you don't literally have to sabotage yourself; but you have to drop the self-image, you have to drop the idea that you have to be something other than yourself. In that respect, trying to make a 'bad' impression is better than trying to make a 'good' one.

LucaCoco_ · 2024-10-16T14:49:06+00:00

Don't try to play it safe. It's boring.

Don't have any expectations. Including the ones you've got.

KoleSekor · 2024-10-15T18:53:04+00:00

Have playful psychological state. Girls want to have fun.

Women also love to feel heard and understood. Conversation should be her talking at least 2/3 of the time, mostly about herself and her life. Have genuine curiosity about her, especially try to find what lights her up in life. Uncover what she's passionate about and continue to stay on that topic. Good listening techniques. Be in the present moment with her. Your focus is on her 100%. Head nods, listen loudly ("wow", "really", "no way", etc.) but my favorite is the echo technique. Repeat the words she's using but phrase it as a question.

mkkpt · 2024-10-15T17:43:25+00:00

Don't have any expectations is good. See it as practice for future dates. Get your routines down: clothes ironed, showered, smelling good, hair cut, facial hair trimmed, pubes trimmed, shoes clean, cars washed, cars clean inside, beds made, room is clean, phones charged, you have cash / cards ready, the location is suitable, you have a general idea of where to sit, you have a general idea of what you're ordering, you have some general / specific questions you want to know about her, you have some answers outlined for general or difficult questions for yourself, you're in a good state of mind (positive, open, happy go lucky), if you have room mates you know if they're home or not, you have a second venue or a general idea if she wants to keep going

Title	Got a date for the first time in forever, help a guy out
Author	madagascarmovie
Upvotes	3
Comments	8
Date	October 15, 2024 4:59 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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