Ok so I might get some hate for this. I’m aware of the bro code and I trust in it. But one of my best friends is really making it hard for me.

Let’s call him J, I’m in my early twenties he’s in his mid 20s. We both have had some struggles with women but I think him more so than me.

So yesterday we go to a big city for Halloween. It’s all been planned a few others friends are going aswell, and we were dressed up. I was wearing an anime costume character, but the character wears a nice shirt special tie and a nice watch so even if people didn’t know who I was I was looking stylish.

Because I have had issues in the past approaching women, I wanted to take yesterday to just approach and talk to as many women as possible. And my friend agreed that we could do that. The thing is, I’ve not slept with a lot of girls but my friend hasn’t slept with any. He also watches a ton of porn which I’ve been trying not to watch anymore. So he goes out every weekend with the expectation that some girl will just go up to him and they’ll fuck. Also they all have to be 10/10s. I’m not interested in a ONS at all. I’d rather meet a nice girl, get her details and go on a date a few days later.

Now that we got that out the way let me explain my issue. On our way there I say let’s get rizzy tonight half jokingly but u do have the intention to work on my game. So the night begins and hear this, I approached more women yesterday than I ever have in my life. I’ve also managed to find my weak spots but we’ll get to that later. Also my other friend, let’s call him b, was there too. Now me and B have this “fuck it rule” where if one of us points at some girls and says “fuck it” you have to go talk to them. And in our group is three are the only single ones.

So the night gets started we have some drinks. And I like to start by just talking to anyone. I have a conversation with a dude just about life, and when I get back to my group J calls me gay. That’s fine I can deal with that. We continue to the first bar, there’s two girls dancing, I make my way over and have some really good flirty banter with them. As a good bro I introduce J and he starts talking to one of the girls whilst I’m talking to the other. THIS IS GOOD, J almost never talks to girls. The girl he is talking to joins us again. So I go over to J and ask what happened? He tells me that she went in for the kiss and he dodged it (he always says stuff like this) then he tells me she looks like a lesbian, and admittedly she was wearing interesting clothes (think billie eilish) but she was also super pretty. He then says that her boyfriend hates black people (for context J is white). So I use this as an opening, I head back over to the girls “I hear your boyfriend would hate me?” She looks shocked when I tell her what I heard. “I don’t even have a boyfriend” she says. Interesting. I talk to these girls a bit more tell them that I’ll run into them later.

I head back over to J, who once again is telling me how she kissed him. He also insists that the other girl kissed me which I have to correct, she didn’t. We head to the next bar. And I go wild. Any girl I see, I hit with the “so what are you dressed up as” if they tell me they’re costume I roll from there, if they’re not wearing one I say “so you’re just dressed as a sexy version of yourself” it might be cheesy but the girls love it. Now me and J are on the dance floor and there’s ultra thicc girl with very little clothing. He looks at her and then me “holyyy” he exclaims. “Go talk to her” I say, “no I can’t I’m scared” I hear this every weekend. So I go over, I dance I talk, I ask what she’s dressed as she likes it. Then i introduce J. He talks to her a bit, and I back off a little. Two seconds later J is with me “why did you leave?” Keep in mind I only moved like two metres back. “She wanted me, but coz you moved I had to go, you cockblecked me”. I actutually see the girl leave, she gives me a little grin as she leaves, but she wanted him…sure

I don’t want to bore you guys but I was extrovert incarnate yesterday but J was killing my vibe. I was talking to a 9 who was with her friends, having a good talk. Then J interrupts “why do you not want him he’s 6’4 and lightskin”. This immediately kills the vibe, I excuse myself and take J outside to have a little chat with him. I ask him why he said that and he tells me that apparently one of the girls friends glanced at me weirdly. I didn’t really care, I already had a few rejections that night but all of them were good. The thing is J attributes the little success I have to my looks. Which is annoying in itself. He tells me how he’s angry at those girls and they’ll never find anyone like me. I tell him that not all girls are into tall guys, and not all girls like lightskins and that’s absolutely fine. He’s still angry I think it might be frustration about himself so we sit outside a bit while he calms down.

The night continues, I’m talking to anyone I see trying to have a good conversation. But if the girl I’m talking to isn’t insanely hot, J is next to me making a very obvious disgusted face. And if she is super hot he sabotages me. There was a tall girl super hot but no one was approaching. I head over, I guess her costume (poison ivy) she doesn’t know mine. I ask her if me watches anime makes me a nerd (this works because I don’t look like a typical nerd). We chat about I pull her in so I can hear her better, she’s grabbing my back. I ask her age, “shouldn’t you ask me if I’m single first?” She says, “I don’t like asking questions I don’t want to know the answer to” I reply. She tells me she is unfortunately single, but I talk to her a little more anyways, then J gets escorted out of the bar so I say my goodbyes and leave.

“Fuck that bar, the bitches are all mid anyways” he exclaims as we leave. He asked me watch happened to the poison ivy girl? And I explain that she had a boyfriend which by the way she spoke to me I believe was the truth. “No she didn’t have a boyfriend” well I’m glad you’re so sure of that. The night continues like that, but I had a good time anyways. I realise I have no issue approaching girls or initiating conversations, I’m more stuck escalating but that is something I can learn.

In the taxi back J is telling us how he had to dodge a girls kiss, and how he got cockblocked with the super thicc girl. All stories I had heard before. Which brings me to this, I love J he’s a great fun guy but he’s a drag on a night out. He only thinks going out is for hooking up with girls, ignores anyone that’s under an 8/10. Je will get angry and jealous when he sees his friends triumph. And he’ll downplay your achievements whilst absolutely over exaggerating his own. But the thing is I don’t really go out and he is often the person to initiate it. So what can I do? He’s my friend and I want to help him but he doesn’t help himself?

TLDR: my friend gets jealous, sabotages me numerous times whilst not making any significant moves himself.