Just curious.. I have a little money.. but no job.. trying to get a job.. but rough in the tech sector right now. If I file.. she'll want me out of the house instantly. Honestly I would want out too.. if I could find a rental that would allow me to pay a few months up front and know I am looking for a job.. I'd be gone asap. Even though many say DO NOT LEAVE THE HOUSE.. you dont get it. My STBXW literally argues/fights every day, and sometimes throws shit, etc. I too yell back loudly.. I have a loud voice. Never hit/throw shit because I know it could end badly. I have my own room.. but that's not far enough.. she bangs/kicks at it, wont leave me the fuck alone when shes angry and I am not joking let it go a few times for well over an hour.. she was still there. IT's nuts. Thankfully I have two kids in the house (well.. not thankfully.. but witnesses). So while I would LOVE to stay in this room (I am ok with that most days) and be left alone.. she wont let up. She may even make up some chump charges one of these days and I could find my ass being taken out by cops with no time to gather anything. I have a TOGO bag just for that situation.. but my personal belongings.. she is (according to my lawyer) allowed to do whatever she wants.. she could toss my TV, computer, clothes, etc.. nothing I can do and in my state it could be up to 60 days before allowed back in.. and she could have gotten rid of it all and they dont care. So that's just a situation I dont understand why many say STAY IN THE HOUSE if you KNOW your STBX is so bat shit crazy.. why? My lawyer told me if I leave.. as long as I pay my half it is not abandonment. The one thing I dont know is if I file.. how many months does it take to resolve the big assets like bank accounts, house, etc? Is that 6+ months (live in a 50/50 state) or can that be resolved in a month or so?

But yah.. I literally dont have a friend or family member around me.. closes one is 1500 miles away and I while I could technically drive for 2 or 3 days to stay with them it would be for a few days.. not months. The little money I have will cover lawyer fees and 6 months or so rent in a small place.. if I can get a place. But they all want a) W2 working and b) 3x rent as salary.. in my area.. rents for a 1bd are about 1300 to 1700 a month. I dont have the option to move far, as I do have kids here too and they too want out. So I am really fucking torn on how to get the fuck out of this marriage without a job and likely not one for many months. "many months you wont have any money".. I am counting on the value of the house to offset that duration of needing a job.. though I d much rather have the money from the house (about 200K to each of us if we sell it) in the bank investing for retirement.. than spending it o live for a couple years.