Just wondering if her sharing texts, images, etc and making defaming comments is grounds for problems for her during divorce (in California) or do they just not give a shit no matter what?

She has been sharing bits of texts she sends to friends/family who are all "oh you poor thing.." naturally all one sides. Honestly I could give two shits about our combo friends.. most oft hem I wont ever see again once I move the fuck out of here. But then she starts sending some shit she screen shotted 12, 15 years ago to our kids who are adults now, claiming I was having an affair, etc.. which.. I was not. Surely I wish I was.. but I did not. I never stepped over that line. Though I guess today it is now considered emotional cheating when you start talking to other women (or men if that's your thing). I call bullshit.. it's all this woke left bullshit (and mind you I am not a conservative.. cant stand Maga either.. neither side makes sense to me... just tired of everything offending everyone to the point people lose their jobs, friends, life, etc).

But when she starts making shit up from her point of view, and people believe it because they only have one side.. and probably wont ever hear my side and many wont care.. it seems to me that is defaming my character and I thought that was illegal or could be held against her during a divorce? Or is she allowed to drudge up the past and share it with everyone on facebook, social media, texts, etc?