In need of a little guidance..

MR-Ozmidnight · 2024-11-23T21:13:32+00:00

First and foremost, if your name is on the lease or the ownership papers of your home, you mustn’t move out. Given the circumstances, it seems you have been the primary caregiver for the kids, which strengthens your position significantly.

Next, I strongly recommend you consult with a family lawyer immediately. If your soon-to-be ex-wife (STBXW) is already discussing the situation, it’s likely that she has decided to end the relationship and is simply figuring out the details. Women often have a plan when deciding to move on, and they may seek a better lifestyle.

In addition to legal advice, it would be wise to set aside some funds discreetly. This is an important step to ensure your financial security. You want to avoid the risk of coming home one day to find that you’ve been locked out of both your home and your bank accounts. Keeping your finances private will safeguard your assets during this challenging time.

Remember, your children are at the centre of all this chaos. Strive to be the best father you can be. Their well-being should be your highest priority, and maintaining a solid relationship with them will benefit you and them in the long run.

I recommend looking into some insightful literature to help you navigate this situation. Books like

"Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life," "No More Mr. Nice Guy," "Doing the 180," and "Grey Rocking"

is an excellent resource. You can easily find them online, and they provide strategies for coping with these challenging times.

Additionally, it is essential to document every interaction you have with your STBXW. This might feel excessive, but it’s vital to protect yourself legally. There has been a concerning trend where individuals face false accusations of abuse during contentious separations. I spoke with a man who was facing 10 to 15 years in prison due to his ex claiming he had abused her. Fortunately, he had documented evidence that proved her lies, saving him from a potentially devastating situation.

Understand that this process will be challenging, but remember you are not alone—many others have gone through similar experiences and emerged stronger. It may take time to heal, but with the right strategies and support, you will get through this and find a path to a brighter future.

Good luck, and above all, focus on being the best dad you can be. A community of support surrounds you, so lean on those who understand what you’re going through.

deep66it2 · 2024-11-23T19:53:04+00:00

And keep your mouth SHUT about your doings.

whiskeytango13 · 2024-11-23T18:21:55+00:00

Sounds like you have a new roommate.

MotorBoatingCFL · 2024-11-23T17:23:54+00:00

I'm sorry you are here brother! Same here man....same here.

Read The Rational Male

It will clarify that this has nothing to do with you and she has decided her feelings justify her to nuke your beautiful family. No regard for you or your kids.

Negating all the good decisions you have made together over the past 18 years to build a foundation and have a wonderful life together.

My advice interview a few lawyers tell them your ideal outcome and file first. Things are going to get messy. Stay strong and do not waiver in your outcome.

Hypergamy doesn't care.....

Suspicious_Dot6179 · 2024-11-23T07:55:11+00:00

This woman (I won't call her ur wife anymore, she is now joined to a new penis) is basically going through a complete personality crisis. She doestnt have any idea what a wife should be, or what marriage is, or what she should be doing for her kids. She's a mess. And trying to make everything about her and her feelings and needs is what humans grow out of in their early 20s. Don't even listen to the garbage her confused ho mouth is spewing, and even more don't try make sense of it, it will just drive u crazy. Get the divorce done as soon as possible, be indifferent, and get as much financially out of the divorce as possible, don't think that meeting her demands will make ger love u again. She can't love man cos she can't even love herself amd obviously not even her kids.

Title	In need of a little guidance..
Author	Born_1981
Upvotes	5
Comments	7
Date	November 22, 2024 9:05 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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