I can’t force things. Feel like a lot of us van relate.

Western-Month-3877 · 2024-11-26T13:58:41+00:00

Lemme give you an analogy: a regular person works to get or save more money. But once you pass a certain point that you’re wealthy enough, money is no longer an objective. But what’s more challenging and more fun is to work smarter or see your business thrive. You enjoy watching and experiencing the process and how things unfold. More money coming in is an expected outcome that will happen automatically.

Similar thing to seduction. Think of getting her to like you or even have desire to sleep with you is an outcome that will happen automatically. But what’s more fun is how you enjoy the process of talking with her, seeing her getting closer to you, how she purposely gives you a pushback and a shit test, or how she responds well to your verbal and physical escalation. It’s like watching a movie where you’re in it.

This is what OUTCOME INDEPENDENCE is all about. You don’t chase sex and love. They are the fruits of your labor, they will come out automatically like you plant a tree. You love approaching women then you will get sex and the love from it.

Dandys3107 · 2024-11-26T12:18:01+00:00

Well, you shouldn't really force things. If the girl is pulling into different direction, you will get nowhere anyways. At first you should just introduce some casual vibe and check what is the energy level and how girl is feeling. It's totally normal for other side not to match your viewpoint. When I am making new connections I always play it cool and make it develop as naturally as possible.

SnooHesitations4922 · 2024-11-26T12:23:28+00:00

When you try to win people over on command, you are trying to force a vibe which can make people feel like a deer in headlights.

People don't feel that way when you naturally cross paths and meet in the commission of a separate objective because you aren't raising your internal emotions and you are remaining in your default state, coming off as genuine.

There are ways to train yourself to get around this catch 22. You can approach and talk to any woman or any person that you want if you can master internal congruence and keep your ki control centered so you don't appear to be forcing the vibe.

You know that feeling in your gut when you go to talk to a hot girl; like you're internally "giddy"? Eliminate that. Do that by using one word greetings with women (sup?..Hey...Hi... Hello.... Yo.....thousands of times without shifting your emotions during delivery, and either keep about your business or start a conversation based on their reaction and responses. Do this every day, and about a month in; approaching attractive women will become your default state so that you can talk without shifting emotions/behaviors or forcing a vibe.

IncognitoBudz · 2024-11-26T15:04:00+00:00

It's just vibe you got to chill it out at the start and make it very casual, talk about your favourite snack , food the weather or who knows what else. Then you ease into joking , followed by joking is flirting and that's when you make or break.

I've used this on a few ladies, and I'm pretty confident in saying that this works for men or women.

Max Charm stat lads

Kroddy1134 · 2024-11-27T01:30:46+00:00

Because you think of outcome brother and that they pick up on. If you focus solely on having banter and a great conversation with a woman i.e. a fun experience with you, she’d actually want to be around you more.

For me, the interaction with women is the cake, irrespective of their approval or rejection, I enjoy talking to them. Anything more, is the cherry on top of the cake. It’s great but the cake on its own is also quite nice 👍

JayinHK · 2024-11-27T02:49:14+00:00

Start with casual interactions going about your day. Talk to dudes. Should be easier. Work your way up

Title	I can’t force things. Feel like a lot of us van relate.
Author	Plenty_Economics_115
Upvotes	3
Comments	9
Date	November 26, 2024 12:00 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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