I'm 2h away from going to a friend's house to hook up and i feel super anxious

Short-Storage-7889 · 2024-12-01T15:23:46+00:00

Stop overthinking and say f it and do it. It is what it is and it’s not the end of the world. It’s going to be a learning experience.

ultramodernlezlikeme · 2024-12-01T15:43:22+00:00

I personally wouldnt recommend alcohol unless its something like you both start the evening with a drink to set the mood, but if she's not going to drink, then I don't think it would look good for you to.

Try to be more present in your body than in your head. Do something to help ground yourself (go for a run, do a quick workout, listen to some music that is relaxing to you) and repeat to yourself that it's not about the end goal, it's about having fun during. Sex is supposed to be fun, but it's also a way to connect with someone, so just focus on taking your time, enjoying her and yourself.

If you worry about getting ED during, you're more likely to psych yourself out and it's more likely to happen. She's not a goddess, she's not an endangered creature, she's a hot woman, so just make her feel as such. Show her your desire for her. If it helps, start slow with the focus all on her. Foreplay, explore her body with your hands/lips, ask her what she likes/doesn't like but in a sexy way ("you like that, baby?" With the right tone could make her feel even more aroused.) Instead of worrying about your performance, shift your focus to her body's responses to you. What sounds is she making? Is she leaning into your touch? Did that little motion make her breath hitch? Try different things until you get those nice responses (a whine, moan, gentle hum, hips grinding, etc) And keep doing them when you see that she likes them. If she REALLY likes what you're doing, don't switch it up unless she indicates so (you dont want to change things up if she's actively building an orgasm because it'llthrow her off) It's a good way to make her feel special because the focus is on her first, and it helps you get out of your own mind/body because your brains focus is shifted elsewhere.

I have anxiety pretty bad, so I know and feel for where you're coming from. Best of luck soldier! 🫡

DayMan_94 · 2024-12-01T15:47:27+00:00

Easier said than done, but try not to overthink it. The more you think about trying to get hard, the worse it'll get.

Take plenty of time with foreplay, and eat her out until she's orgasmed. Should hopefully take some of the pressure off after that.

If you're still very nervous, a quick shot of whiskey or something should help take a bit of the edge off, but definitley don't take more than that.

baby_oil773 · 2024-12-01T17:31:59+00:00

Alright it's been two hours. Were you able to get it up? Are you knee deep in the pssy right now? Are you standing up in it?

Hypnotic_John · 2024-12-01T15:53:55+00:00

Dont drink much if any alcohol.

For relaxing jus use this technique:

1) breath 4 seconds in, feel how the air as a calming effet.

2) hold your breath or 7 seconds, you will notice how the air will ash your anxiety away.

3) breath slowoly for 8 seconds out. You will feel how the anxiety leaves your body.

Repeat for a few time.

KumaFGC · 2024-12-02T01:15:31+00:00

Stop watching porn and jerking off. That has fucked me over when it came down to having sex before.

FirmGuitar5411 · 2024-12-02T02:50:29+00:00

How’d you meet her and get to the hook up point?

PhoenixNightingale90 · 2024-12-01T15:41:21+00:00

Some might disagree but if it’s your first time with a girl and you are nervous just get some viagra/cialis. It’s going to make you a lot more assured and after that you have already rocked her world so the pressure is off when you see her again.

senator_chill · 2024-12-01T15:36:24+00:00

First of you need to stop overthinking, you are your own worst enemy here.

Start with foreplay,

Tell her she can only say 4 words (slower, fast, harder, softer)

Start slow and soft and she'll guide you right to the sweet spot.

You'll get her off doing this and should be more confident to seal the deal.

Academic_Resident517 · 2024-12-01T16:41:59+00:00

Focus on her so you can relax about expectations and just live the experience

hal64 · 2024-12-01T22:26:07+00:00

Drinks alcohol for ed -> get whiskey dick. Just don't.

Title	I'm 2h away from going to a friend's house to hook up and i feel super anxious
Author	Cybion_
Upvotes	19
Comments	26
Date	December 1, 2024 3:21 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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