Finding a decent gf nowadays feels like mission impossible

seduction-ModTeam · 2026-07-26T14:14:40+00:00

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Anussauce · 2026-07-19T21:20:03+00:00

Instagram and tiktok generation

Not_RZA_ · 2026-07-19T16:28:29+00:00

Gotta put yourself in situations where a girl with the traits you are looking for, will be at.

Jasperbeardly11 · 2026-07-19T18:00:24+00:00

I don't like the way you write. It makes me think you communication skills could be a lot better.

Your analysis is incredibly superficial. You're talking about your job, your looks, the fact that you go to the gym multiple times.

Look within and figure out why no one wants to pair bond with you.

Experience exponential growth within and you should have much better prospects.

Peace man

RProgrammerMan · 2026-07-19T22:12:58+00:00

Dating apps are bad use of energy. Direct that energy into hobbies, social circle and things that make your life better. Apps are full of unhealthy and unserious people

PioDorco24 · 2026-07-19T23:23:36+00:00

Sorry bro but.. truck driver? that’s a job with a lot of stigma, I wouldn’t be surprised if most girls run away just because they learn that’s your profession

dbootywarrior · 2026-07-19T17:00:53+00:00

You get what you flirt with

Amazing-Confusion109 · 2026-07-19T22:28:44+00:00

It’s definitely harder. Access to the “top 5 % “ of men is more readily available than ever. Most of the high value woman either are with their high school sweetheart or gunning for that “top 5 %.” Many will miss out on having families in their best years because of the pursuit. Cant blame them since it’s primal nature. Honestly though a lot of 7’s are great! Search for one that you are comfortable being 100% authentic around and obviously you must appreciate her authentic self as well. Oh and the sex has to be 10/10. Do not underestimate the importance of that.

Klutzy-Painting885 · 2026-07-19T16:44:11+00:00

Dating is extremely difficult nowadays. Social media and apps have completely fried their brains.

BurnItDownSR · 2026-07-19T18:23:44+00:00

You speak of nowadays as if you have any reference experience to compare it to from years ago.

I started dating in 2013 and found out about seduction in 2015. For around 5 years I also had the same experience as you but when I got better, my experiences got exponentially better, until today.

In the 2020s, I haven't experienced the stuff that everyone whines about when they say, "girls these days..." the tendencies I saw from women when I started are the tendencies I see now and the way I handle them works just as well now as they did back then.

Plain and simple, this is a skill issue.

charlizard1000xy · 2026-07-19T16:44:54+00:00

please don't advice me to get on dating apps, those things are rigged against men. But yeah let me know if some of you are going or whent through something similar.

First of all - dating as a WHOLE is rigged against men. Women get to choose, and men do the approaching that in itself is one sided.

And second, say whatever you want, people do get laid, make relationships and even marry through dating apps. Just saying "no apps dont work" is same as "no, approaching wont work cause i am ugly".

Yeah, you ain't getting a date with that mindset anyways. Curate your profile better imo.

dirty_sprite_3 · 2026-07-19T17:43:28+00:00

if you want a real relationship you need to join something "boring", a book club, or some class/group/club and meet the girls in person and build real rapport over time.

the internet, bars, clubs, gyms, etc are the playgrounds for girls who are hypersexual and unavailable due to issues and trauma with men A.K.A. whores/avoidants.

that's where 99% of dudes find girls at and then wonder why dating doesn't work, because being a whore is the norm now. it's like eating fast food and wondering why you're out of shape and exhausted all the time.

That1_tallguy · 2026-07-19T19:27:34+00:00

"Decent social skills" leads me to believe that what you should focus on the most. You have the first step down which is good being able to get dates. Just them finding you attractive and being decent socially is enough to get dates. Now work the skills of building and maintaining attraction.

I would suggest treat dating like a job and skill to be learned. Study game, read books, watch videos, take courses. You'll probably find some bad advice but also some great advice. You find out what works for you through trail, error and VOLUME.

ProfessionalEvent484 · 2026-07-19T21:20:00+00:00

Because having game and good look isn’t enough to have a decent girlfriend. This subreddit seems to be about how to get girls to have sex with you. Any girl btw. Not getting a quality one, just any.

AnonymousCharmander · 2026-07-19T18:33:09+00:00

Communication and the hot to crazy ratio is till true, even for guys

Sanity is better than arm candy

Jerimajerima · 2026-07-20T02:36:07+00:00

A girlfriends that lasted 2-3 months? That’s a bit of a red flag. What happened there?

trashaccnts · 2026-07-20T03:20:12+00:00

Keep shooting is the only way, doesnt kobe have the most misses or something like that??

muirnoire · 2026-07-20T06:00:10+00:00

You shouldn't be finding a gf (which implies actively searching for one), you should be attracting one. That is the entirety of the problem. She finds you - you don't find her . Your value proposition needs to be so damn high you don't even have to try. Learn the art of being a gentlemen. Bros think going to the gym and struting around in athleisure is somehow going to be attractive. There is so much more to being a man. Find a passion - vintage cars, motorcycles, flying, clothes, food, investing, collecting, sailing, horses, dogs, art, design, style. Study what it means to be a gentleman. What's exciting about you? Women want a man who excites them.

BicycleSpiritual1048 · 2026-07-20T11:45:55+00:00

Here are problems :
- only 1 ex gf that lasted 2-3 months
- euro truck driver

So you need more experience with women. I recommend you to have more social community, more friends and get more. You need to meet a LOT of people to just meet right woman. But they are there.

And it was always like this, its not problem of generation.

Dismal-Equivalent-94 · 2026-07-20T11:57:33+00:00

In my personal, naive, and perhaps uniformed opinion I think one main reason is that everybody wants the benefits of a relationship but not the responsibility needed to reap and see them. Dating feels like a game, but nobody is having fun as there is tones of toxic behavior that have become social norms to safeguard your heart and feelings without investing. But that just makes it hollow.

big_daug6932 · 2026-07-19T20:48:20+00:00

I just do hookups nowadays. Not as messy.

whatsthedeal667 · 2026-07-21T08:02:35+00:00

Take it from someone that understands it’s all money at this point

prof_franco · 2026-07-21T14:24:54+00:00

All the hidden gems are religious girls . Humble, do not seek temporal things (mostly) , and are spiritual. Get yourself a faith , trust bro

CheesecakeMain5003 · 2026-07-21T21:08:44+00:00

Every one has the same complaints also about the apps, all the same problems. So it is not you. It is just how it is. If you have money hire a dating coach to improve your online profiles.

ExaminationNo4391 · 2026-07-21T21:51:36+00:00

It is and you shouldnt be worrying about a gf unless your life is together. All a gf will do is drain your money, so how will you get ahead?

Extreme-Bid-5989 · 2026-07-22T23:42:43+00:00

I'm kind of confused. What is the problem exactly? Can you phrase it in one centence?

pureextc · 2026-07-19T19:54:40+00:00

Soon as I read Euro Truck Driver, I stopped reading with my American inner voice and started over reading with Sean Connery’s James Bond voice. Sorry I have no other input for seduction.

frecklerat · 2026-07-19T18:53:53+00:00

boohoo

The_Dude_79 · 2026-07-19T22:10:19+00:00

At first i read ' finding a decent game nowadays feels like mission impossible ' and i was like preach brother !

kingtechllc · 2026-07-19T20:24:55+00:00

Are you a 6 7 or 8. 6/10 you won’t get matches 8/10 you should be picking the cream of the crop. Raise your value more somehow, these girls don’t think you’re more valuable than them.

Title	Finding a decent gf nowadays feels like mission impossible
Author	Cybion_
Upvotes	106
Comments	99
Date	July 19, 2026 4:18 PM UTC (4 weeks ago)
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