GF wants to go to nightclubs with her single friend.

abdada · 2015-09-15T21:26:05+00:00

Rollo says to let her go out. I agree with Rollo.

She can go out the rest of her life but she won't be coming home to me.

Next.

Your texts to her are 100% blue pill. If I was her I'd cheat on you non-stop. Drying up tingles is bad mojo.

Stayinghereforreal · 2015-09-15T21:26:03+00:00

I do not want you to go because I do not want men hitting on you and asking you to dance with them.

Fail. Right there.

I do not want to lose her as we have been together for 4 years.

She is already gone.

Should I move on?

She has.

ECoast_Man · 2015-09-15T21:52:20+00:00

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ItIsMyPrivilege · 2015-09-15T22:39:42+00:00

Your first text kills me, her first reply would be her last if I was with her

your texts are so fucking cringe worthy dude

[deleted] · 2015-09-16T01:00:40+00:00

I do not understand how these guys end up in relationships. Do you just walk into one without your knowledge? Because you sound like a retard. I wouldn't have stated that even in my green pill days.

Squeezymypenisy · 2015-09-15T22:15:48+00:00

Go read Rollos blog. Specifically girls night out.

mcs__typ · 2015-09-15T22:16:39+00:00

I say this from personal experience.

ECoast_Man · 2015-09-15T22:20:03+00:00

Never, ever, underestimate the power of slut-enabling friends.

Even if you were dating Lady Madonna herself for 4 years, slut-enabling friends will whisper sweet nothings into her ear about the sweet taste of the slut-apple.

RPAlternate42 · 2015-09-16T01:09:54+00:00

Your belief that her GNO is bad news is well-founded but your reaction was shit. GNO is always an unwritten SGNO (Single Girl's Night Out) especially with her friend Slutty-Sally.

Was I, at fault anywhere?

No, you were at fault EVERYWHERE

You mate guarded her by attempting to prevent her movements: You showed your hand as having no abundance mentality and no confidence.
You handed her an ultimatum when she didn't back down after the very apparent mate-guarding: You followed up your show of no abundance and no confidence with an attempt to threaten her. Unfortunately, threats don't work when she is already aware that you have nothing else but her.
You reneged on your ultimatum: You didn't follow through with your threat of "we're done" and then called her. You demonstrated that you are also of weak will and thirsty for her attention to boot.

Thing is, I do not want to lose her

Clearly. She demonstrates behavior you find unattractive and you still think she is a special snowflake. ONEITIS.

as we have been together for 4 years.

This is the sunk-cost fallacy. you think the relationship gains more value over time and ditching the relationship is like wasting all those years. Everyday in the relationship adds no value to the relationship. 100 days from the start is the same as 1 day from the start; her shitty behavior on day 100 is the same as her shitty behavior on day 1. Women actually bank on the strength of believing the sunk-cost fallacy.

This is why they say things like, "You just want to throw the last 4 years away on something like this?" In this phrase she coaxes you into the fallacy and then lowers the value of your claim to think her behavior is bad.

But still it hurts.

I'm sure... but she doesn't care... and pretty much no one else does either. If she cared, she wouldn't have done the thing that bothers you.

Do you guys think I made the right decision?

No.

Should I move on?

You said you were going to, and didn't. Anything you say at this point is considered bullshit as far as she is concerned. My wife has thrown out the, "We might as well just get divorced and get it over with" at least 3 times with sex following that same night. What she says is garbage. What men say is supposed to carry weight. Your words carry no weight. Your words are those of women. Your girlfriend has a girlfriend as far as she is concerned.

I have got a new high paying job and new opportunities.

So leverage that thinking into a new abundance.

Should I just forget her?

Gonna be hard what with you afraid to leave mommy's skirt hem.

Here is what you should have done: (I'm assuming this conversation went over text...)

Basically you need to softly plate her.

HER: I'm going to the club with my friend Slutty Sally.

YOU: <say nothing> get changed to go out on your own. Put on your best shirt, put on your best underwear and slacks. Put on your nicest shoes. Put on cologne. Groom yourself like you are looking to attract women... this is your new mission (see abundance)

HER: (probably, following a long period of radio silence:) What are you going to do tonight?

YOU: <silence>

She may contact you with other shit because your lack of attention towards her and her activity isn't yielding the response she expected.

By doing this you demonstrate that her doing what she is doing opens up your night, time, and attention to others. After the night is over, you could answer her most recent question with a one word answer... or not. Don't contact her at all. If you answer her, be aloof about it. Demonstrate through speech that conversations with her are taking up your time; simple, short, and delayed answers. Really, nothing short of her coming to your place ready to fuck your brains out will get her back in to your life... and then she really deserves plate status.

You seem really BP... so I'm assuming you probably think this seems harsh. You probably forget: you don't owe her anything... especially your time and attention. She seemed intent on spending time with other dudes instead of you, so your life is now opened up for that abundance I mentioned above. Your feelings didn't come into account for her because of her solipsism; She figures since she's happy... clearly you must be happy too. You sticking around demonstrates to her that you must be happy... otherwise you wouldn't be around her still.

prodigy2throw · 2015-09-16T01:17:07+00:00

You see what happened? That's fear right there. Fear that you will never find another girl and you'll die alone if she leaves you.

As far as I'm concerned you never had a gf. She was just some chick who let you msg and talk to her.

secret_barber · 2015-09-16T01:21:47+00:00

ME: If you go, we are done because I do not want a gf who goes out dancing at 2 am with her single friends. HER: Of course I am going to go.

Your first sentence was beta-as-fuck. This ultimatum was fine and she failed. It should've been the last words you ever spoke to her.

ME: Why did you go?

Because fuck you, that's why. Next.

Rids85 · 2015-09-16T23:46:49+00:00

Her clubbing with single friends is a huge red flag.

Title	GF wants to go to nightclubs with her single friend.
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Date	September 15, 2015 9:21 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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