Feel out of love and after fighting it for a long time, I told my wife that I was done. We have been married 12 years and I constantly was made to solve all problems and it wasn’t a 50/50 partnership. I was also honest that for several months I had been growing feelings for someone else but that there was no acting on those until we were fully done and divorced.

Told her I wanted her and our kids safe and that the state would order me to pay around $1,400 in C/S and alimony. My state doesn’t mandate spousal support but if she requested it they would grant it with no hesitation. I told her I would like to pay the mortgage, her phone (shared plan), the house security fees, and the house pest control fees, for her and for our two kids. That’s to the tune of $1,850/month and over $1,900 on pest control month.

She then immediately asked me how much I would pay in child support on top of the mortgage and then complained about having to pay to have the grass cut (we have only about .33 acre in a subdivision with a riding mower and a self propelled push) and having to care for the family dog.

But if I take her to court and pay the minimum only my kids loose. Don’t throw your life away for people who don’t appreciate you. Don’t wait to be trapped in a situation you have to claw your way out of.