How to master emotional acknowledgement without appeasing or being logical

Western-Month-3877 · 2025-01-19T04:32:56+00:00

It’s not easy to explain it to you because for some guys it just comes naturally. By naturally I mean we’ve been accustomed to situations like this since we were young. Either we actually have a sister that we like to be playful with at all times, or there’s always female friends that kinda mold us to get used to their behaviors even without any sexual undertone behind it.

Idk about you, OP. But sometimes I feel like this kinda question is often asked by guys who are reserved or sheltered. Or possibly have a STEM background where they see human behaviors like a math problem (you put this input, then you can expect a certain output. 1 + 1 equals 2). But it’s not that simple because there’s a lot of factors involved when an interaction occurs. So you can’t simply say “oh if I say this, it will sound appeasing. Or if I say this it will sound like I’m a jerk.” I’ll give you an example: let’s say you say “No” to different women. I bet you’d get different reactions. Not just because they’re obviously different people. But it also depends on how you say it. Did you scream “No” in her face? Did you say it with a long swinging tune indicating that you’re being playful? Did you say it with a big grin or smile on your face? Or did you say it with your face visibly holding in anger?

So if one needs to teach guys how to master emotional acknowledgement, it feels like we need to go back to the root where basic social skills need to be observed and learned. One trick that I can share with you -idk if it can be helpful- is that I always treat women like my little sister, in a way that I rarely take them seriously. My sister always says stuff that don’t make sense and I’m used to it. When we were kids at times she yelled at me telling me that “I hate you!” But the next day she talked to me again like she never said those words. It doesn’t sound logical if you see her like a machine and we are like “Data” character in Star Trek. But it is logical if you see her as a complex human being that the more feasible explanation is that probably she’s just upset with me and tried to express her anger but what came out from her mouth was “I hate you”. I don’t try to make it make sense anymore. I even used that to tease her like “lemme get this right, now you’re asking for my help even tho yesterday you said you hate me?” Of course with a big smile on my face. Not really asking for her to explain it to me.

SuperCat2023 · 2025-01-19T07:35:41+00:00

Honestly I just speak my mind. If I bring logic into the conversation because her problem can only be solved by logic, then so be it.

I’ve definitely had a few heated debates on first dates, but they usually didn’t stop things from escalating. That said, there was one exception when I left early because the conversation became she refused to engage with reasoned arguments. That made me lose all interest lol

IGetBoredSometimes23 · 2025-01-19T10:47:08+00:00

What do you mean by "emotional acknowledgement"?

InstructionAbject763 · 2025-01-21T20:54:37+00:00

How would you want your venting or bids for emotional closeness to be met with? If you went to your girlfriend just to vent and or needed to talk about something emotional, how would she react? What would a woman do for you? And just do that for her.

Title	How to master emotional acknowledgement without appeasing or being logical
Author	Just_bad_with_names
Upvotes	3
Comments	18
Date	January 19, 2025 3:44 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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